Monday Mantra:: I stand strong in my neutral zone

Monday Mantra The Neutral Zone

Remaining neutral can be difficult. We can be caught off guard by those we love when the politics of business or family or friendship circles bubble up. It’s easy to choose a side, to get drawn into the gossip and frustration. Some days, you’re only too ready to jump on the band wagon and be pulled in all emotional directions. We are all human.

But if in those moments, we can choose to remain in a neutral zone, by simply listening to their point of view (not offering to join their “side”), we have the ability to remain un-affected and we are able to stand aside from the drama, rather being drawn into it.

I had a rare moment the other day where I was able to stand aside from this thing exactly. Person A said to me that they felt like Person B was being less than nice. Then later, Person B said to me that they felt like Person A was being less than nice. Instead of getting involved, I remained neutral and respond with a  “oh?, that’s unusual”.

This did three things:

  1. I didn’t get worked up because it’s their perceptions and their issue, not mine.
  2. I didn’t add fuel to the fire by repeating what the other person said to either of them.
  3. They felt heard because I was simply sitting and listening which meant they felt less ‘worked-up’ about the situation.

Sometimes, it’s best for the people involved, the situation and for yourself to remain neutral.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: My Own Power Empowers Others

Monday Mantra My Power Empowers

I recently attended a workshop where I felt like I was finally given the permission I needed to pull the plug on some things that were holding me back and release the things, people and situations that were making me feel frustrated and unwell. I knew I felt this way with these things but I felt guilty because I spent all this time getting to a point where I could do them, where I could help.

I knew I had permission intellectually. I knew this. But I could feel my body holding on tight to the idea that I shouldn’t feel this way about helping that I should be putting other people first.

I paraphrase here but the words I heard were something like:

Aim for Amazing. Don’t go out there and do this work without tending to your own energy first. You’ll do yourself a disservice and you’ll do your clients a disservice not to mention that you’ll do the craft a disservice because it just won’t work if your energy isn’t right.

I felt my whole body relax for the first time in a long while.

Everything about the way my body let go and released is telling me that this information had finally sunk in on the deep knowing level. It was time to begin focussing on myself first before helping others. Knowing that it’s okay to cancel clients if i’m not in the right space so as not to influence or effect their sessions is beyond powerful. I finally feel like putting myself first is the best thing to do for other people.

I asked myself a few questions (see below) and I recalled a time when I was very fit and healthy and remembered how good it felt to be clear about what I wanted and be comfortable in saying “No” to certain foods or drinks or events when I didn’t feel up to it. It felt so good to feel so self empowered.

So let me ask you this:

Where are you putting others first when you know you should be putting yourself first?

When you put others first, how does it make them feel?
When you put others first, how does it make you feel?
If it makes you feel positive, what are you getting out of it?
What kind of help or support are you really giving them? Is it full, positive, present attention? or is it half hearted, semi-present, partially positive attention because your own energy is elsewhere?

When you put yourself first, how does it make you feel?
When was the last time you put yourself first?
How did that make you feel? How did it make others feel?

How can you gather your own power and energy so that you can better help others with theirs?

My Power, Empowers!

Monday Mantra:: I Listen to my inner, well being

Monday Mantra A well being

Just like an inner child, you have an inner well being. A being who is always looking out for your most well self. This inner well being is often silenced by the thoughts and emotions in our head and heart but when we tune to the frequency of our well being, we can hear it loud clear.

How often do you listen to that inner being who has your wellness at heart?

I see this all the time with clients. It’s that knowing, that inkling. When the body asks for the client to add lemon to water in the morning, the client says “Oh, I’ve been thinking about adding lemon to my water for the last few weeks….”. This has been their inner well being telling them all along that it was the right move.

I am not immune to drawing out my inner well being either. We’re all human and we all get caught up in life and eventually our inner well being gets put last on our list, not first.

Here are some things that you could do for your inner well being today:

  • Have a quiet cup of tea, with no phone, no internet, no TV in front of you.
  • Enjoy a meditation
  • Go for a walk at lunch time
  • Have a glass of water instead of that third cup of coffee

Consider what it is that you’ve been thinking about adding to your routine or to your diet and see what small step you could take towards your inner well being today. Every bit helps to bring back that well being voice.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I set and maintain healthy boundaries

Monday Mantra Healthy Boundaries

It’s so easy to bend your own rules here and there for a friend, for a co-worker for your boss. And to be honest, doing so here and there is fine but when you find yourself constantly going against what you want, against your own values, against your own needs, life begins to feel frustrating and all the little things you say “sure, I can do that” to suddenly feel like burdens instead of enjoyment. People suddenly expect you to help and no longer ask you. I’ve been there before and I often have to remind myself to get back on track with my boundaries.

The key to setting boundaries is knowing what you want and what you value and having something tangible to remind you of them often. When you have these at the forefront of your mind day in, day out, it becomes easier to stand your ground when you need to because your most important things/people/events are not buried under all the other things on your to do list. There’s less to filter through. Knowing what you want means you can know faster when something doesn’t match up with what you want.

A friend of mine gave me a trick a few years ago now, that I have just started using in everyday life. Here’s how it works.

Write a list of your most important goals. What do you most want from life at the moment? Is it more time with family? Is it writing your first book, is it getting a whole stack of homework done, is it meditating every day? or is it to run a half marathon? Write it down. Keep that list super close and handy at all times.

Whenever someone asks you to do something, to go somewhere to attend an event, to say back and work late, ask them if you can get back to them on that and then go get your list out and ask yourself these questions:

  1. Is it something I actually want to do?
  2. Will I regret it if I say yes? / Will I regret it if I say no?
  3. Will doing this bring me closer to my goals?

Asking yourself these questions (especially if you’re naturally a ‘yes’ person, will help you to get more discerning about how you spend your time.

If you come to the conclusion that this event is not for you, simply tell them straight up “look, it sounds great but it doesn’t really match up with what i’m trying to achieve at the moment” or “thank you for the offer but I have my heart set on xyz this weekend, rain check?”. People understand what it’s like to have goals and not having time to dedicate to them so they will totally understand and if they don’t that’s a reflection on them, not you. Be honest with them and be true to you.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I am always in the right place at the right time

Monday Mantra Right Place Right Time

It’s so easy to get caught up in decision making, in our own thoughts about how good we are, or how capable we are. We are all human and this is far more common that most people would think. In fact, we often believe that we’re the only ones who feel that way.

I am learning more and more that I am always in the right place at the right time and this is bringing a sense of contentment for wherever I happen to be.

There’s a lot to be said for divine timing. It may not always seem like it, or feel like it, especially when we’re not having much fun in life but I believe that it’s all part of the plan to get us where we need to be.

What if your struggle of looking for work right now, will actually help you in the long run? Perhaps you’ll end up working to help people who are struggling to find work some day? And what if the universe has a particular role in mind for you at a particular business because you have some great insights that one particular person is going to need when you get there? What if that insight is life changing for them in the best possible way?

You may not always know what the grand plan is, but it is wise to trust in the process and know that you are always in the right place at the right time. Knowing that you are in that spot because you’re the best person for that situation at that time. Knowing this can also bring out a sense of contentment even when things are not going so well. A trust fund of sorts into the precision timing of the universe will propel you forward and upward when things are tough.

Consider your day today as a day in divine timing. Imagine that you were meant to arrive at work when you did, imagine that you were meant to cross the road at that precise moment. Imagine that all your clients cancelled because the universe has a better plan for you today. That you were meant all along to eat at that particular lace for lunch so someone could you overhear you talking and receive a sign they’ve been looking for.

I have personally received signs I’ve been looking for purely around divine timing like this – happening to catch a tram with Denise Duffield Thomas of Get Rich Lucky Bitch fame on a day where I was looking for signs around my finances, eaten at a restaurant the night before my first Reiki training where a Monk was sitting at the table next to us, happened to leave earlier than usual from a clinic because clients had cancelled only to get in the elevator with Danae of The Spell Box fame, running late for work yet at one stop along the way, when the doors of a tram opened up, there was a monk, sitting on the ground, pointing at me with a knowing smile, saluting me (my friend and I have a joke that I am the captain of my own destiny) and giving me the traditional Aussie thumbs up.

No interaction, no timing is ever a mistake, we just need to trust that there is a very good reason in the timing for everything and everyone involved. Even if those decisions are made by ourselves to shift out, to move on or move up or simply to change something, we are always in the right place at the right time.

I am always in the right place at the right time.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

PS – My favourite book, “The Five People You Meet in Heaven” by Mitch Albom illustrates my point so beautifully.

Monday Mantra:: I Choose The Path of Least Resistance

Monday Mantra I Choose The Path of Least Resistance

Sometimes, when we have a dream, we can become blind to the logic, to the easy path. We become so intent that the path into our dream job, our dream life, our dream trip that it will all come together so easily and effortlessly because it feels right.

We spend years of our lives pushing against the grain. We become so focussed on the dream that we forget what else is in our peripheral vision. Just because you’ve got the eyes on the prize, doesn’t mean that you need to jump straight there. Sometimes, the smart, less frustrating and easier path is in fact to walk it. Not run it, not take the most direct route, not race to the finish line. Because in the journey to the vision, you get to pick up tools, skills, people, ideas and inspiration along the way. And without those, perhaps your vision will not be complete or perhaps it will not fulfil it’s greatest potential because somehow it needed those experiences.

I can attest first hand that being adamant that the only way to achieve a vision is to take the oat direct route. The truth is, sometimes the direct route is arduous. Sometimes, it involves not following a path and trudging through rough terrain so that it feels like you get nowhere fast. What if, instead of going cross country, I took the meandering path that would eventually lead me there anyway? That path is carved, much like a purpose anyway and perhaps along that path, I will gain all that I need to make the vision as clear, as big and as successful as I anticipate it be. Perhaps even more so.  And instead of trudging, taking so very long, perhaps it’s an illusion and it turns out the winding track is actually faster and shorter as a result.

Now, I choose the path of least resistance. Because going with the flow means I get to my dream faster and with way more experience and tools than I could ever imagine possible to help me fulfil my own dreams.

In what ways are you resisting your full potential? Where are you choosing the cross country trudging when you could be choosing the easy track and getting there faster?

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Take My Own Advice (with a twist)

Monday-Mantra-I-take-my-own-advice

This one is a repeat with a twist. For the last version of this mantra, you can read it here.

Today’s version is slightly different view-point.

What value we place on ourselves is so very important. It is one thing to know how valuable you are but it can be a totally different thing when we look outside ourselves.

Let me give you an example. A client of mine knows the sessions she provides are worth more than $100 per hour. That’s why they are charged at much more than that. Yet, she allows other people to dictate to how much those sessions are worth by the hourly rate the business owner pays her. So in a round about way, she’s taking their advice on what her sessions are worth, not her own advice of what her sessions are worth.

Here’s another way it manifests.

You see a great bag, pair of shoes, new piece of technology you love. You buy it because you love it. You carry it carefully around with you, showing it off because you love it so much. The you show a friend and say “hey – look at this great new handbag I bought” only to be met with “oh, it’s okay I guess.”. Suddenly you feel awkward, like you may have made the wrong choice because your st friend doesn’t like it and you always love the same stuff. Why does someone else’s opinion matter more or have more weight than that of your own?

Try listening and taking your own advice about what you love, about what looks good, about what you’re worth and focussing on that this week and feel how much more confident you feel.

Follow your own intuition, your inner guidance. Take your own advice.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

 

Monday Mantra:: I Am Committed To Me.

Monday Mantra I am committed to me

I came to an awareness (or few) over the last week that has transformed my focus. Now that there is a wedding in the near future for me, I have been pondering weight loss, health and fitness more intently on a personal level. One of the key awarenesses I have gained is that when I have been at my goal health and fitness in the past, I was a strong, independent, healthy, happy, expressive woman. I was very much in my element and things went very well in all aspects of my life.

Then, when I realise that i’m so visible in that picture of health and vitality, I retreat and the weight goes back on, I start hiding from the world again. I think this has been because on some level I was doing it all for those around me (not because they asked me to but because on some level it was about seeking external approval). This time round, I will have Kinesiology on my side (first session today on this very topic) and will be able to work through what ever is triggered in me when I get to that visible stage. And committing to yourself is not selfish, in fact, if you commit to yourself, you’re in so much of a better position, both physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually to be there for others, so you’re really doing them a favour by putting yourself first.

This time round, I am committed to MYSELF. To my health, to my fitness, to eating well and to MY time. I am committed to saying no when it needs to be said, to put myself first. I am committed to working through all levels of my being to get to my authentic self because I know that these levels are intricately entwined. I am committed to becoming the strong, fit and healthy woman I know I can be.

I am committed to me.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Protect and Call My Energy Back

Monday Mantra I Protect and Call My Energy Back

I am reminded of this one often. I get home from a day of seeing clients or a full day of teaching and I suddenly feel like I have nothing left. It wasn’t until yesterday when a colleague of mine mentioned that they too sometimes feel like they have nothing left to give when they get home. That’s when I finally understood what was going on. There are two things going on.

  1. I’m not protecting my energy as I normally would and
  2. When I realise I realise I’ve given my energy away, I’m not calling it back.

Protecting Your Energy

First and foremost, it’s about knowing when to say no. Knowing when your body needs a rest can actually negate this a lot of the time.

I’ve also been using a little energy protection which is simple and effective. All I do is place my palm over my belly button. If you think about the belly button, it was source of nourishment and energy when you were in the womb. It is believed to be a source of Chi or life force energy so by placing your palm over the belly button, you’re protecting your energy. It’s the area in which your solar plexus is close to which is all about personal power and survival so when you’re placing your palm over your belly button, you’re almost activating your sense of personal power, or activating a shield of protection. I like this one because it’s easy to do without needing to visualise anything and no need to ensure you’ve got some “you time” to do it in.

This is of course, just one of many energetic protection processes you can do. I’ll be posting more processes over the coming months, so watch this pace.

Calling Your Energy Back

I wrote an article on this very topic a while back – you can read it here: Calling Your Energy Back.

Your energy is yours to do with as you wish however, if you give it all away, then you have nothing left to give to yourself or anyone else. So be wise about how you give your energy and be wise about calling it back when you’ve over invested.

Protect your energy and know when to call it back.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.