It’s funny how we as humans fall into this trap of needing to prove ourselves. We work extra hours, we fret when we haven’t crossed anything off of our to do list (even when we’ve been running around doing things all day that relate to the “to do’s”) and we beat ourselves up if something doesn’t go to plan.
I think perhaps that this is because on some level, we’re trying to prove to everyone else around us that we’re good enough to be doing that job or to be in that relationship. But there’s no point in proving this to others if we don’t believe it ourselves. Often, we want to prove it to others because deep down, we feel like we’re not good enough (regardless of how good we actually are).
Sometimes, this pattern plays out even if we’re single or unemployed. If we think we’re not good enough, then the universe and other people will reflect that belief back to us.
Here’s the thing though. We are all good enough. If we weren’t good enough, we wouldn’t be in that job or in that relationship so we are good enough. If you’re single, think about all the compliments you’ve received from friends, family and ex-partners – these are all more than good enough qualities to bring into a new relationship. If you’re currently unemployed, look at all the qualities and skills you’ve got listed on your resume. You put them there for a reason, usually because you feel like they are your skills and qualities – these are your “more than good enough” skills and attributes.
I’m not saying that there’s never room for improvement but improvement needs a strong foundation to launch off of. Today, begin by trusting that the work you do, the love you give, the support you offer, the knowledge you have and that you are indeed enough.
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