Setting boundaries for your non-negotiables

So, as a Kinesiologist, I get told all the time “wow you must be always happy and relaxed”. The answer of course, is mostly yes, but not really all the time. I’m human, just like every other person on the planet.

I get regular kinesiology balances to keep myself in a good space so that I can help my clients in the best way possible.

It takes diligence because there is a lot I can do for myself – I have so many tools to help myself – and it would be easy just to keep on with that. But to be honest, there are some things that you can’t unearth yourself. It takes diligence too because it’s very tempting to allow others to be looked after first (it’s all part of being in a service orientated profession). I made a very difficult, but good choice today. See a client or reschedule my own kinesiology session which I had already re-scheduled so that someone else could have the earlier one I had booked? The clues were in my entire week leading up to today. I have been obsessed about this session, making copious amounts of notes, balancing myself as much as I could so that I could get the best from my session. This time, I need to put myself first because I know this session is going be a pinnacle of positive change – I’ve had some pretty big patterns of mine come to light this week and i’m not about to let them run riot any longer.

Putting my kinesiology session first works two-fold.

1. I know when my body, mind and spirit are in need of a Kinesiology balance.
2. If I’m not in balance, then it’s more difficult to hold the space for my clients sessions. They get the best when I’m at my best.

So, I know I’m doing this for both my client and myself.

Let me ask you this. Where do you need to set some boundaries? Where are you willing to negotiate yourself, your spirit in order to “do the right thing”? What’s the energetic exchange rate on what you’re foregoing so that someone else can get the benefit?

It’s okay to set some non-negotiables.

6 responses to “Setting boundaries for your non-negotiables”

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  4. […] Sometimes, it can be good to list your values too. Like a little reminder for yourself of what is most important to you. If you’re asked to do something that gives you that “something doesn’t sit right” feeling, consult your list. If it doesn’t match up with the list, it’s okay to say no and it’s okay to have boundaries for your non-negotiables. […]

  5. Thanks Merryn for the feedback.

    Saying ‘no’ is not always an easy feat but well worth it when the energetic exchange is not a right fit for you.

  6. Fantastic Dana! It’s imperative to listen to your intuition when it comes to nurturing yourself.

    As a small business owner, who is a mother to two children, I constantly assess and reassess boundaries. My challenge was saying no. This was overcome in 2013 when I developed the capacity to say no.

    Great post. You rock x

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