Perception & The Written Word

When you read emails day in day out at work, it can become easy to begin to see these as human interactions. We make them more emotional, even reading them in our own mind in the tone of voice we perceive that person to have written the email.

When you write an email, do you write it with emotion? How do you feel when you write it? When you read it back do you read it in the tone you wrote it?

When you receive an email, do you read it with emotion? Do you read it with your emotion or with the senders emotion?

Here’s the thing. When people write to you, they express their opinions. From their perspective. With their history and experience as their filter.

When you read those emails, you read them from your perspective, with your history and experience as the filter.

Perceptions have the ability to make or break our day.

The trick is to step aside and remind yourself that when people are expressing themselves (their despair, their frustration, their elation) they are doing so from their perspective, in their opinion and in no way is that ever a personal attack or rubbing it in. People are entitled to feel the way they feel.  If you can do this, CAPITALS become just letters. Exclamation Marks !!!! become enthusiasm. And bold type becomes a pointer to say “hey, just letting you know that this is important to me.”


The power of words

Funny how a word can be ‘everyday’ or perceived as mundane until we look at it, hear it, really feel it and then suddenly it takes on a life of its own.

Words have always been a passion of mine. I used to keep a little notebook of words I loved the feeling of.

  • Audacity
  • Gumption
  • Eloquence
  • Radiance

These were among the many, many words I collated.

2014 brought some words to me that now mean more to me, more intensely, more intimately. They include:

  • Family
  • Tradition
  • Marriage
  • Husband
  • Wife
  • Sparkles

It probably sums up 2014 well and yet it doesn’t even begin to express it fully either. It was big in so very many ways.

As part of stepping into the new year, I have been looking for a word (or few) to sit with my chosen focus and intention for 2015, Fun.

Many words are floating in and around that word but at the core of each is Fun. I want this year to be fun in all areas of life.

In my focus for this, I know that part of enjoying my year is also about learning even more about myself. One item that has suddenly come to me is Words. If I LOVE words, then

  • Why am I not using them?
  • Why am I not writing the rest of this book I’m writing?
  • Why do I hold back my words when they need to be said (for everyone’s benefit, not just mine)?

And then this came across my path today:

“The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.”
– Elizabeth Cady Stanton

Cue tears of resonance!

Needless to say, the word ‘Words’ is now sitting pretty next to my Fun. I intend to infuse fun into 2015 and I intend to speak my words as they arise, more freely, more openly.

And just for good measure, I’ve started a 2015 playlist of tunes to help remind me often of my intentions, for a little fun, some reminders to get into action mode and some to remind me of who I really am. Here’s a pic of what I have so far of this playlist. It includes some obvious ones, also includes a couple for pure fun (i.e.; Jukebox in Siberia):

2015 Spotify Dana Atkin Fun and Words plus
Next on my list is a 2015 Intention Movie – watch this space…

Monday Mantra:: I Choose to Use Positive Language

Today’s Monday Mantra is a pretty important one. It seems simple and it seems like it wouldn’t really be life changing but I can guarantee you that it is in fact life changing.

Here’s the thing. Your body remembers the last word you use. So imagine that all day, every day when someone asks you how you are, you say “Not bad”. Your body remembers the “bad” and each time you say it, you reinforce that word into your body’s cellular system. The same goes for when someone says “thank you” – a lot of people tend to use the term “No worries” or “no problem”. Your body remembers “Problem” or “Worries”. Be aware too that the people you say these phrases to also hear these words and it can be energy draining for them too.

Personally, as a practitioner, I hear these terms all day every day from clients and I am constantly rephrasing them for my clients  so that it helps them to build their energy up and reminds them to use more positive language and it helps me to not be drained by the words they use.

Consider phrases that get thrown around these days like:

– Fully sick
– That’s so depressing
– Does my head in
– Such a pain in the neck
– etc etc etc

Consider how these literally might effect your energy and your body. Lots of people use affirmations to boost their energy and manifest their desires. The phrases above, when used often become just like affirmations. So choose your phrases wisely.

So here’s a little fun exercise to do this week to start training yourself (and those around you) into some positive language habits.

– Instead of saying “Not bad” when someone asks you how you are, try “good” or “less than great”

– Instead of saying “No worries” or “No problems”, try “It’s a pleasure” (my personal favourite) or “you’re welcome”.

Then, take notice of how you feel at the end of the day after using these new terms and see if you can further enhance it by finding some new phrases for other common sayings you use that might be less than fabulous.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.