Self Development Not for the Faint Hearted

Self Development Quote Dana Atkin

Working on yourself can be HARD work. Especially when you’re fighting your ego the entire way and dragging yourself kicking and screaming towards change like a stubborn toddler throwing a tantrum. 

It is not easy. It was never meant to be. We’re re-wiring our brain, our beliefs and our attitudes and that’s hard stuff sometimes. We’re wried for survival and survival is all about keeping the status quo. So when we try to change things, we become that stubborn toddler who wants just 5 more minutes at the park. Who wants an ice-cream and who refuses to eat his dinner because he doesn’t want the potato on the plate (even though we know full well we don’t have to eat it just because it’s there).

We’re in routine. But routine can be mundane and routine is never changing and ultimately, we as humans actually like variety and change. We just don’t like the process it takes to get there because it’s not an easy transition.

Knowing it’s worth it can help. So too does having faith that it will all come together, despite the evidence to the contrary. Self development is not for the faint hearted but it certainly is for those who seek change and are willing to do the real work to get there. Tantrums and all.

 

 

Why you need to trust your instincts when looking for a health practitioner

I’ve come across a few lovely clients who have quite literally been put through the ringer by some people who have posed themselves as the be all and end all in the health and wellness world. Being confident in your profession is one thing, but arrogance and disregard for the health and wellbeing of others who put their trust in you is quite another. It’s incredibly frustrating that there are practitioners out there that call themselves “healers” but put clients in a holding pattern of fear (which by the way is often an emotional precursor to all the reasons that people go to see practitioners for in the first place). These clients are now at a point that they don’t know who to trust anymore. They’ve even gone against their own instincts so they’re not sure they can even trust themselves.

A practitioner who claims to be the “be all and end all” in their profession is troublesome for a number of reasons.

Firstly, there is no singular remedy, modality or practitioner who can be the answer to all of your concerns and in fact, it very often takes a complimentary, team approach. What works for me, may not work for you. We are indeed all individuals and what makes us unique also means that we each require a unique remedy. (I personally have a Remedial Massage Therapist, a Kinesiologist and a Chiropractor as my basic life/health care team. I then add and remove as required in order to be in the best possible shape for myself and my clients. This includes Doctors, Dentists, Acupuncturists etc – there is a place for each of these for me).

Secondly, if we presume to be the only person who can help someone, then we inadvertently hurt them by possibly holding them back from another practitioner who may have the last piece, or indeed the right piece of the puzzle for them. It is irresponsible. We are all human and we are all susceptible to life’s stresses so we cannot ever proclaim to be the master of any one way of being other than being human. That said, if we are not willing to do the work we set for our clients, then we are certainly in no position to ask them to do what we ask. Walking the walk, not just talking the talk. (I personally see a kinesiologist once per month, every month to work on my ‘stuff’).

This point also cultivates fear in the client as well as the practitioner. It is unfair to inflict fear upon anyone who is seeking assistance from us. It sets the client back, the client and the practitioner both begin to act out of fear. What we infuse often breeds somewhere within us. It is far better that a client receives the results they’re looking for and experience beyond their expectations – that, my fellow practitioners is how you create word of mouth. There is only an abundance of people you can assist so why only help one or two when you could help so many more? A client should never be only “yours”.

As a client, if you feel uneasy, unsure or if something just doesn’t feel right about the practitioner, the modality or the results you are getting (or not getting) you have every right to:

1. Ask your practitioner about any concerns you have around the results.
2. Walk away at any given point (note: some practitioners, such as kinesiologists, will only allow you leave mid-session if you are in a safe, healthy, calm state of mind to do so, it is our duty of care)
3. Not continue with your initial session if, once you’ve had the process explained to you, you’ve changed your mind.
4. To ask questions throughout all sessions if you don’t understand what is being said to you. (note: all good practitioners will only be too happy to explain things to you – we love sharing our passion)

This goes for practitioners and clients alike. Above all, trust your instincts and your own opinions. Never let someone else’s opinion overshadow your own. You know your body better than anyone else, your body knows what it needs to heal it’s self and it will either give you clear signs to steer away or it will give you clear signs that you’re on the right path. Trust your instincts, listen to you.

The Cycle of Change: Denial

The Cycle of Change Denial Kinesiology Dana Atkin

The Cycle of Change: Denial

Change can be difficult for many people. Even our biology, our body is hardwired for survival. And because we’ve survived up until now with things exactly the way they have always been, then why should we change anything, right?

There is a process that we all go through with every change. We tend to resist it because of our built in survival mechanism. We fight it because we worry that if we change one thing, then maybe other things will change, leaving us powerless.

Sometimes change is thrust upon us and sometimes we choose to change wether consciously or subconsciously. Every change, regardless of how it comes about goes through a series of common steps. Including Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance and Letting Go. In this month’s article, I’m going to talk about the first step, Denial.

Often, the denial step is missed because it usually comes before the desire to change has been realised. We deny there is any problem with the current situation (be it weight, work. home or health etc) and we continue with things the way they are, often looking for other, not so healthy ways to satisfy the unfulfilled circumstance.

Our inability to recognise that something needs to change is frustrating to not only ourselves but also for those who love us. Then, when those we love speak up about the issue at hand, we get defensive because it’s true and we’re not ready to face it, or change it.

Consider this. Where in life have you been feeling defensive lately? Could your defensive approach to the situation be because on some level, there’s an element of truth to what the other person is saying? Is it something you’re willing to work through now? If not, write it down somewhere so that when the time comes, you have a beginning point.

Stay tuned for the next stage in the cycle of change, Anger.

Monday Mantra:: I Honour My Well-Being

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I’m writing (typing) this from bed today. I had spent all week last week fighting the beginnings of a cold. I mostly ate healthy, nutritious food, I upped my vitamin C and upped my fruit & veggie intake just to be sure.

Then I made sure I took it easy all weekend. The most I did was assist in the re-arranging of all the kitchen cupboards on Saturday.

And even though I did all this resting, all this healthy eating, I woke up this morning feeling worse than I did all weekend. The funny thing is that when I woke up, my first thoughts were “oh no – we have that really big meeting this week that they’re going to need me in for so I have to go in to help out.” Like the little devil sitting on my right shoulder and there on my left shoulder is my inner voice telling me “You tell everyone else to rest, that in the grand scheme of things, your health is more important than any big project or meeting you have on.” That coupled with the fact that I work in wellness was the clincher.

For the record, the inner voice won, which is why I’m writing from bed. The point is that your wellbeing needs to come first. If you don’t look after yourself, then you’re not going to be in any shape to be able to help others if and when they need it.

This doesn’t just apply to calling in sick when you need to either. You can ask yourself in all manner of situations, what would your well being want you to do?

At lunch, when faced with a long menu of all kinds of foods: What would your well being want you to choose?
When out with friends who want to kick on for a big night: What would your well being want you to do?
When you have what seems like a hundred people at work hassling you for documents or presentations, you can get angry or you can remain calm and recognise that you can only what you can do consider this: What would your well being want you to do?

 

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

Monday Mantra:: As Within, So Without

Monday-Mantra-as-within-so-withoutI try to stay an upbeat, positive person and I try to look for the positive and the best in everyone. Sometimes though, I accidentally wear my cranky pants and usually, that’s about when life gets cranky too.

When i’m calm, and view things, people and events in a positive light, life is positive, things run smoothly and I feel good.

When I’m not calm, I begin to view things in a less than positive way, life gets difficult, things don’t go to plan and I start to feel under the weather or start bumping into things.

As within, so without – Your internal world plays a big part in your external world. Your external world is very often a reflection of what’s going on in your internal world and this theme happens on all levels.

 

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

How to be a Number One A-Grade Client and Why You Should Be One.

 Here’s how to be an A-Grade client (yes, these are based on first hand experience):

  1. Turn up to your appointment on time.
  2. Complete the home reinforcement your body asks for. Home reinforcement is a crucial element of your journey to wellness. It supports the work we do together and the results we accomplish within your sessions. Home reinforcement also ensures that you continue to experience improvement even between appointments.
  3. Be open and honest with me – I’m here to help you.
  4. If you can’t make your appointment on time, call us to ensure that it’s okay if you’re a little late.
  5. If you can’t get to your appointment, call us. Honestly, It’s just plain rude to not turn up. I would much rather you call and cancel than for me to sit around waiting for you when I have a waiting list of clients wanting to see me.Would you just not show up to big important business meeting? No, I didn’t think so.
  6. Remember my name. I don’t expect you to remember the first two times but by the third appointment, I do expect you to know my name and how to pronounce it. A mistake once or twice is fine too but years of getting it wrong and me having to correct you is quite disrespectful.
  7. Please put your phone on silent during your appointment. Please do not answer your phone during your appointment. It’s not only rude and disrespectful of your practitioner, it’s disrespecting yourself, your time and your wellbeing. This one could very well result in you being fired as a client.

So there you have it, turn up on time, call if there’s any issues about attending your appointment, do the home reinforcement, be open and honest with me and re-book when you need to. Pretty simple really.

Why should you be a Number One, A-Grade Client?

As a practitioner, I give a lot to my clients both during the session and afterwards with the research I complete around what they’re trying to achieve. I love my A-Grade clients. My A-Graders are what I would consider my First Class clients. They consistently complete the home reinforcement that tests up in their sessions, they re-book when their body tests up that they should and they’re always looking for ways to improve their wellbeing on all levels. They arrive at each session with new ideas about possible behavioral patterns that might be holding them back and they’re eager to work with me to clear them. They are delightful to work with and as a result, I stay back a little late to see them if they need a later session, I come in a little earlier if they need an earlier session, I keep their preferred appointment times free for them, they always get the first right of refusal when a prime time slot or cancellation becomes available and I’m always happy to squeeze them in for an emergency balance. They get the first class, royal treatment. 

 

 

Monday Mantra:: Silence Is Golden

I struggled to decide to put up as today’s Monday Mantra. To be honest, I had a few ideas but none o them really felt right today. I think that’s because sometimes, no words are better. We’ve gotten use to constantly listening to music, watching video’s, the TV and talking on the phone and that’s just in the commute, let alone at home or at work.

When you think about it, a comfortable silence between friends or lovers can be quite comforting. Sometimes that wave from across the street can feel better than a five-minute conversation and do you remember that feeling when you lock eyes with someone from across the room, you get that zing of attraction and it’s like the entire world around you fades into the background? So much better than words, right?!

So, this week, choose to see silence as golden. Take in the sights, aromas and feelings instead. See and feel how rich life can be without words. Immerse yourself in the silence – Silence is golden.

As always, save the full image to your phone home screen, your desktop or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it often. When you see it, say it. And if you think someone else would benefit from this mantra, share it.

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Kinesiology Is Not A Magic Bullet

Apple Healthy Low ResKinesiology is not a magic bullet. Kinesiology requires you to look at yourself, your patterns, your thoughts, behaviours and your emotions. It’s not always easy but it is always worth it.

I have the benefit of working in both a specialist kinesiology centre as well as a multidisciplinary clinic. Here’s what I have noticed.

People are typically looking for a quick fix so when they’re presented with a quick fix versus a you need to do a lot of work to get what you want approach, more often than not, the quick fix wins. Can’t blame them there, really – It would be great if these worked all the time with permanent results.

There are remarkably more cancellations at the multidisciplinary clinic. I believe that this is two-fold.

  1. The quick fix is usually a quick appointment time (15-20 minutes) so the perceived value of that practitioners time is typically diminished and
  2. People tend to not value the quick fix in quite the same way as they do the long steady progress (sometimes this is conscious, sometimes subconsciously)

In the specialist clinic, people who come to see me make and keep their appointments, show up early for their sessions and are genuinely upset if they have to cancel. In fact, I once had a client offer to pay me double if I could stay behind and see them out of usual business hours. While that was not a service I could offer, it certainly was a clear sign of someone who knows the value of Kinesiology!

Now, think about how old you are.

It took you that many years to learn some of your habits, your ways of doing things, your ways of survival.

How long do you think it takes to re-wire those learnings? Certainly not 20 minutes!

It’s not going to be a quick fix. And if it is, it won’t always be a lasting one.

That’s not to say that a quick fix won’t ever fix the concern at hand. Not at all. In fact, sometimes this is just what the body needs. I’m simply saying that sometimes your body and wellbeing deserve more than just a quick fix. It deserves to have you really think about the best approach to help it in the long-term, not just the short-term.

So next time you’re looking for a practitioner for a recurring injury, concern or issue think about how long you’ve had that concern for and then think about how long it will realistically take to rectify the situation and make an informed choice on how best to approach your wellbeing. It’s also important to remember that It’s absolutely okay too to blend approaches for the best benefit of your body. Use a mix of two or three different modalities to get the best results for you.

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This is exactly what a Kinesiology session can be like. It can transform you inside and out. When you shift a belief, shift a perception or come to a new awareness about your life, both you and your life is transformed.

This week, I came to an awareness (more like a revelation) that what I was experiencing around me, my work life, my finances, my health, my relationship was a direct reflection of how I feel about myself. Which actually set of a chain reaction of other awarenesses. Of patterns that have been present throughout my entire life. They seem like everyday things but when looked at as a whole story, paint a themed picture of how I feel about me and a key lesson that I need to work through.

Coming to these awarenesses gives me that opportunity to work on them.

What patterns are present in your life? What common themes, events, reactions pop up time after time that might give you an opportunity to discover something about yourself?

Awarenesses are the catalyst for remarkable transformations.

Awareness is the catalyst for a remarkable transformation