Setting boundaries for your non-negotiables

So, as a Kinesiologist, I get told all the time “wow you must be always happy and relaxed”. The answer of course, is mostly yes, but not really all the time. I’m human, just like every other person on the planet.

I get regular kinesiology balances to keep myself in a good space so that I can help my clients in the best way possible.

It takes diligence because there is a lot I can do for myself – I have so many tools to help myself – and it would be easy just to keep on with that. But to be honest, there are some things that you can’t unearth yourself. It takes diligence too because it’s very tempting to allow others to be looked after first (it’s all part of being in a service orientated profession). I made a very difficult, but good choice today. See a client or reschedule my own kinesiology session which I had already re-scheduled so that someone else could have the earlier one I had booked? The clues were in my entire week leading up to today. I have been obsessed about this session, making copious amounts of notes, balancing myself as much as I could so that I could get the best from my session. This time, I need to put myself first because I know this session is going be a pinnacle of positive change – I’ve had some pretty big patterns of mine come to light this week and i’m not about to let them run riot any longer.

Putting my kinesiology session first works two-fold.

1. I know when my body, mind and spirit are in need of a Kinesiology balance.
2. If I’m not in balance, then it’s more difficult to hold the space for my clients sessions. They get the best when I’m at my best.

So, I know I’m doing this for both my client and myself.

Let me ask you this. Where do you need to set some boundaries? Where are you willing to negotiate yourself, your spirit in order to “do the right thing”? What’s the energetic exchange rate on what you’re foregoing so that someone else can get the benefit?

It’s okay to set some non-negotiables.

My Kinesiology Journey – Chapter One

This is not a typical post from me. I like to give insights and tips on how to get the best of certain situations. But I think it’s also important that I tell you about me, the person behind the brand and the articles. Because we’re all human and I didn’t magically become a Kinesiologist. I’ve invested money, time and emotions into my expertise. Hours and hours (and HOURS) of practical, online exams and theory and the learning hasn’t stopped there.

When I started studying kinesiology four years ago, I never dreamt that I would:

1. Continue my studies for so long (I was only going to do the Certificate IV) or
2. Do so much self-development in the process

It’s a big thing to take on study in Kinesiology. The techniques we learn are all practiced in class so we invariably get to work through some of our own issues as we learn, with every single technique.

This last weekend was my last class in my Post-Graduate Diploma in Kinesiopractic. Over the last four years, I’ve learnt a lot about human behaviour, about myself and about the power that our emotions can have over us emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. I have also learnt that there’s a bottomless pit of issues to work through. Just when you think you’ve got something sorted, we look at it from another angle or something happens (life) that triggers these concerns again.

What I have also learnt over the last four years is that you never stop learning and that it’s incredibly important to have all the right people around you for support.

So I have my beautiful man to thank who has helped, pushed and paved the way for me and my dream. He didn’t have to, but he has chosen to support me in manifesting my dream on so many levels and I am so very grateful for the sacrifices he’s made in order to see me succeed.

I have many friends and family who have supported me through being my case study subjects, coming in for balances and referring many clients (my mum happens to be one of my best referrers). Thankyou.

I have the faculty and staff at the college (Kinesiology Connection) where I studied to thank for their generosity of knowledge and time, who chose to impart their expertise in a way that suits all of our learning styles. I believe that each of the faculty has something unique to bring to the table (pun intended) that we as students could pick up and blend with our own style. I know I certainly have.

And most of all, I have all of my beautiful friends and fellow students who have supported me through my shyness, my tears and who just “get me”. I love that each month, there was a pool of knowledge, of support, of like minded people and love that was waiting, unconditionally at the next instalment of our course and knowing that there was always a good laugh to be had.

While my Kinesiology journey is by no means complete (I have a few further study ideas up my sleeve), It’s nice to have this chapter closing for it means that on some levels, I am no longer wearing my “student” hat, but am purely wearing my Practitioner hat which is so exciting after four years of study.

Studying kinesiology is a highly personal journey. What you work through from your past, present and future with your fellow students can be (and is) life changing. But then, that’s why I started this journey, to help people change their lives. I just had to change mine first.

KC Kinesiopractic Class of 2013This is my Kinesi crew and two of the faculty at the end of our very last day, what a journey!

Being Your Own Hero

Being Your Own Hero Dana Atkin Kinesiology Combo

When I grow up, I want to be my own hero, with amazing superpowers. And a cape.

Actually, most of the time I am my own hero with superpowers (no cape yet). Sometimes though, I forget that I can be my own hero. Sometimes it’s because life happens and pulls my focus away from my own hero abilities. Sometimes, I get so caught up in helping my clients and the people around me that I forget to look after myself in the ways I know I can. Sometimes I choose other people to be my hero and sometimes, I just forget. That’s okay because underneath the cape, we’re all human.

What if I told you that each person can choose to be their own hero?  What if I told you that every one of us has a super power to go with our personal hero status too? What if I told you that this superpower was available to you right now and you could use it to make your life happier, healthier and more fulfilling?

We all have this superpower. It comes standard with being your own hero. But like being your own hero, this superpower gets forgotten, it gets buried under the “must do’s”, under the “have to’s” and all of the “should’s”.  It gets cast aside almost too easily and Sometimes, we don’t use it as well as we could Yet, it’s the single most powerful superpower any human can ever have. This power needs to be harnessed and utilised in the right way for us as individuals in order for it to have a positive influence over our lives.

I am talking about CHOICE.

Everyone has the power to choose. What to wear today, which way to go to work, what to have for lunch and the list goes on. We also have the power to choose what kind of life we want, what career we would like and how we respond to what life sends our way.

Not choosing is also a choice. If you let “life” or “destiny” or other people to make the choice for you then how empowered to do you feel? My guess is, not very empowered at all.  You’ll start to feel like life is just happening to you and that you’re not actually living it.

So how do you become your own hero? We start by harnessing our own superpower. Start by practicing with the “small” stuff.

What do you want to do this weekend?
Choose something (note: “I don’t know, whatever” = choosing to do nothing) I too am guilty of this one.

Where do you want to go for dinner Friday night?
Choose a restaurant.

What do you want to do while you’re on holiday? 
Choose an activity.

And when you’re ready, start looking at some bigger items such as:

What do you want to be when you grow up?
Choose a path that you want to follow.

How do you want to get on that path? 
How you get there is completely up to you (note I was in my very late twenties when I chose what I wanted to be when I grew up – it is never too late to change paths).

We make choices every day yet somehow we don’t always value them as highly as we could or we don’t give them conscious thought.

You can make choices that lead you to a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life – you can be your own hero and save your own world. You can even wear a cape if you choose to.

When Men Should Ask For Help

Dana Atkin Wellness When to Ask for Help

When Men Should Ask For Help

“Everyone stand up. Raise your left hand as if under oath, now take your right hand and hold your ‘boys’ and repeat after me…”

This is how a facilitator at a conference once introduced his overriding message at a male dominated industry staff conference many years ago. The oath these men took was to recognize when they needed help, to seek help and not put off going to the doctor because their life might just depend on it.

This clever, funny and to the point introduction to a conference has stuck with me. It broke the ice around some important issues and helped people feel more comfortable because men’s health generally seems to be an awkward topic, even for men. And in the lead up to MOvember, I thought this would be a good topic to cover.

Tradition, society, and beliefs put women into a role of being looked after. Women, generally speaking, instinctively know when to take time out for ourselves, when to take ourselves to the doctor and where to find a sympathetic ear to which we can “download” our concerns to.

While there are a lot of men out there who are just as instinctive about when to ask for help, it is far less common.

In tradition, society and some beliefs, men are regarded as the ‘rock’ or the strong one, the provider. And as such, a lot of men believe that they can’t let their guard down or appear vulnerable or stressed.

Male or female, we are all human and all have the same hopes and fears. Keeping this in mind can make a huge difference. Remember the last time you were scared of going to doctor, fearing the worst. Now imagine that a mate of yours has a similar issue and is putting off going to the doctor, or your brother or your dad or son. Would you want them to wait it out worrying and hoping for the best or would you rather they get it seen to as soon as possible to know exactly what they are dealing with?

So men, here’s some basic rules of when to ask for help around signs and symptoms you might be experiencing:

  1. It is always okay to ask for help.
  2. If it’s not normal for you and your body, ask for help.
  3. If it is normal for you but you’re worried, ask for help.
  4. If you’re not sure if it’s anything to worry about, ask for help.
  5. If you’re overly stressed and don’t know what to do about it, ask for help.
  6. If you sometimes feel like it’s all too much, ask for help.
  7. If you’re lost for a solution, ask for help and
  8. See rule number one.

This help can come in the form of a mate to talk to or a doctor to discuss symptoms with but regardless of where you go for help a moment of bravery to talk about it could be worth a lifetime with your family.

 

Stress Management

some easy tips to manage stress

some easy tips to manage stress… Click on the image to read the full article.How do you manage stress? I see clients all the time coming in with anxiety and stress and it’s amazing how little people know and understand about stress and what it does to your body. Find out more in the article by clicking on the image to see a larger, readable version.

Relax and enjoy.

walking the walk

It’s been a while since my last post. A lot has happened in that time.  We’ve been to Fiji for a family member’s wedding, we’ve welcomed a new-born nephew and work has been steadily changing for the better.

What occurred to me today while putting pen to paper about my business, is that you need to practice what you preach.  While I certainly don’t refer to what I do as preaching (it’s more of a facilitation of change through recommendations based on what my client’s body needs), I believe that if you want to work with people who want to work on their health and fitness for instance, it makes sense that you too you should look and feel, healthy and fit! A walking advertisement for your own business – what a great marketing tool!

So, my next goal is to become the fit and healthy person that I would like to assist my clients to be.  Being the change I want to help facilitate in other’s worlds…

Building a successful business

 

So i’ve been building a business.  A natural health & wellbeing business. I am passionate about helping people to release old patterns and see new choices. I’m studying Kinesiology and am currently in a position where I have 2 locations and am trying to build clientele. I went in with the enthusiasm of a child at seeing all the wonders of the world and believing that it would all just fall into place.  And i still believe that it will.  That said, I think I haven’t quite built the foundations yet. and once they are in place, I think it’ll build very very quickly.

 

What am I missing?

1. Correct financial software / setup

2. Correct tax set up

3. all my ducks in a row with regards to association memberships

So over the next week, I will arrange all of these items and will report back on how the clientele builds once these are all in place.  I’m a firm believer in you only get out what you put in and it’s time to ensure that what I put in to setting up the business will provide a stable and appropriate environment in which the business can build! Here goes….