Monday Mantra:: It’s safe for me to say no


I’ll be honest here – I tend to be someone who says yes to a lot of invitations and requests. I consider everyone else’s opinion of me and everyone else’s feelings before my own. Then I resent them for making me do something I didn’t really want to do. The key here is of course that I chose to do it but that fact gets hidden under everyone else’s priorities because I hide it there.

Did you know that a lot of people actually appreciate you saying “no” from the get go rather than cancelling at the last minute?

Be clear about what you want. Make a list of all the things you want to achieve, all your short-term gaols, your long term goals and even your day to day stuff you just want to do.  Then, look at each invitation or request and if it doesn’t match up with what you want or if what you want can’t be rescheduled to fit in some spontaneous invitation, then it’s okay to say no. And be honest with your answer too. It’s okay to say “look, to be honest, I really had my heart set on doing ABC today so I’ll have to say thank you for thinking of me, but no thank you”.

This habit of saying yes for everyone else’s sake is not an easy one to change but it can be done. I am still working on this one myself.


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Monday Mantra:: I Always Have a Choice



Today’s Monday Mantra is for all of you who always feel like you’re the one picking up the pieces, always the person who is too busy to do anything for yourself, who always feels like it’s all up to them.

Regardless of what capacity you find yourself feeling pushed into something or stuck with something, remember that you always have a choice.

Just because you said yes to a project or event, doesn’t mean that you are then doomed to “have to” go or complete it. You always have a choice.

You always have a choice. In how to see things, how to hear things and how to say things.

You may have chosen to pile your projects up so high, you’ve left no room for yourself. Choose to let one or two go or refer them on to someone else who can assist.

You may have chosen a career path or course, only to decide that it’s not really what you want to do. Choose to change direction if that is what you want.

Holding onto something or staying in a situation when it doesn’t work for you, is actually more detrimental to your body, mind and spirit. It’s actually okay to say no, it’s actually okay to say “upon thinking about the situation, I’m not sure that this will fit in with my schedule / plans etc, so I’m going to have to let this project go.”

You always have a choice. You may not always be able to see it, but you definitely always have a choice.

Where do you currently feel like you don’t have a choice?
Where do you feel tired or frustrated?
Now think about what choices you made to bring you to that point?
And what choices can you make in order to relieve the pressure right now?

Remember: You always have a choice.
As always, save it, print it or pin it somewhere you’ll see it and when you see it, say it. And if you think someone you know might benefit from this mantra, share it.