Monday Mantra:: I let go of conditions

Monday Mantra I let go of conditions

Advertisements have them. Legal documentation has them. We have them too, whether we’re aware of it or not. It keeps us from enjoying life, from enjoying relationships, jobs, money, family, you name it. It keeps us miserable when we could be rejoicing and it haunts our psyche on a daily basis. I’m talking about the conditions, the expectations and the asterisk of our day to day lives.

Here’s how it works:

We want the career of a life time, that makes us fulfilled, that pays us well and that we love. *BUT we don’t want to move country to where that dream career is available.

We want that loving relationship, that meaningful connection with a person who makes us feel like a giddy teenager again. *BUT he/she has to be tall, slender and rich.

I love my man. *BUT I’d love him so much more if he did the dishes more often.

Really, we should be saying or focusing on the item, person or situation as it is and valuing it as it is. We should love it unconditionally.

Sure some conditions can be changed. Sure you can love it if it had more of something or less of something or if it was a different colour or in a different location but focussing on where it could be instead of where it is right now, lends it’s self to more internal stress and only further perpetuates the current situation. So if what you focus on further perpetuates the situation then perhaps we should be focussing on just how lovely it is right here, right now and further perpetuate the loveliness….

What conditions, caveats, asterisks could you let go of today that might allow you to enjoy your workplace? Your colleagues? Your transit? Your partner? Your family? just that little bit more?

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Monday Mantra:: I Seek Counsel

Monday Mantra I seek counsel

 

Holding it all in may feel like you’re protecting those you love. You may feel like it’s silly to feel the way you feel or that somehow, they’ll judge you or perhaps they’ll react in a way that will make you feel worse, not better.

But holding on to thoughts and feelings means that eventually our tank gets full. It will either overflow, explode or even worse – implode.

Anxiety and Depression (especially depression) can be overwhelming. It can be feel like a bottomless pit and it can feel like a lonely experience. Yes, it’s also difficult to speak up about it too.

Here’s the thing. If you speak up, seek counsel on your thoughts, your fears and emotional space, then you have more opportunity to work your way out and back into the lighter side of life again. It won’t necessarily be easy but ultimately it’s worth it. Even the greatest warrior needs men at his side in order to do battle. So call on your people and ask them to stand with you, to walk by your side into the battle.

Thankfully, for me, I’ve only seen this from a step or two back from those effected by someone with depression. What I’ve noticed from my time as a Kinesiologist is that the thing that keeps us from a asking for help is the fear of “what will others think” or “I shouldn’t really feel this way” or “it’s selfish for me to feel this way when other people are struggling with real difficulties”. The difficulty you feel about your world is real to you. And that is real enough to seek counsel. You are entitled to feel the way you do and just because it may seem like other people have it harder than you, doesn’t mean you are any less worthy of support.

Seek counsel. Please.

Advice on how to have the conversation and who to seek counsel: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/have-the-conversation

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Note: This Monday Mantra is written specifically about Anxiety and Depression however, seeking counsel can be a big game changer regardless of your situation. Keep in mind too if you ever find yourself on the end of a conversation where someone you love is seeking your counsel, to remain in listening mode and offer your support where you can and know that how they are feeling is not a reflection on you personally but simply, how they feel.
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Monday Mantra:: I focus on what I want

Monday Mantra What I Want

This can be a bit of tricky one. It’s a fine balance between focusing on what isn’t there and focussing on what you want to be there.

I hear it all the time. Here are some examples:

  1. I want a relationship and I’ve been focussing on a relationship (so why I am I still single?)
  2. I want a new, fun job and I’ve been focussing on that but nothing has come yet (and until then I’m stuck in a job I don’t love)
  3. I want to lose 5kg and I’ve been focussing on the dress I want to fit into (and every time I get on those scales, and nothing has changed).

The trick is to find what you want in the future in your current situation. For example:

Invest in a relationship with yourself. Take yourself out on a date. Go out to dinner, take yourself to the movies. But go on your own because you’re developing a relationship with yourself. You could take a journal with you and ask yourself some good “get to know you” questions and write your responses. Get to know YOU.

When you go to work each day, focus on what you actually like about the job, the people, the business. Focus on what that part feels like and let that be your anchor towards what you want.

When you get on the scales after a week of exercise and good food, say to yourself, “This is feedback on how my body feels right now, in this moment of time and I can help it to feel even better”. The idea is that instead of reinforcing the thought and feeling of “Urgh, I haven’t lost any weight”, you’re reinforcing that the body will feel better and that this is only a snapshot of what it feels like now. Then when you notice a reduction in weight, say to yourself on the scales, “Great, the body is feeling better and I can help it to feel even better again.”

If your example is not above, on apiece of paper, write out what you want on the left hand side and then on the right hand side, write the rest of the sentence but….

Eg. I want more money but I keep getting more bills.

Then, work out what the positive outlook is on the “But” section and then, work out how you can make yourself feel like you already have what you want from the “what I want” section.

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Monday Mantra:: My Own Power Empowers Others

Monday Mantra My Power Empowers

I recently attended a workshop where I felt like I was finally given the permission I needed to pull the plug on some things that were holding me back and release the things, people and situations that were making me feel frustrated and unwell. I knew I felt this way with these things but I felt guilty because I spent all this time getting to a point where I could do them, where I could help.

I knew I had permission intellectually. I knew this. But I could feel my body holding on tight to the idea that I shouldn’t feel this way about helping that I should be putting other people first.

I paraphrase here but the words I heard were something like:

Aim for Amazing. Don’t go out there and do this work without tending to your own energy first. You’ll do yourself a disservice and you’ll do your clients a disservice not to mention that you’ll do the craft a disservice because it just won’t work if your energy isn’t right.

I felt my whole body relax for the first time in a long while.

Everything about the way my body let go and released is telling me that this information had finally sunk in on the deep knowing level. It was time to begin focussing on myself first before helping others. Knowing that it’s okay to cancel clients if i’m not in the right space so as not to influence or effect their sessions is beyond powerful. I finally feel like putting myself first is the best thing to do for other people.

I asked myself a few questions (see below) and I recalled a time when I was very fit and healthy and remembered how good it felt to be clear about what I wanted and be comfortable in saying “No” to certain foods or drinks or events when I didn’t feel up to it. It felt so good to feel so self empowered.

So let me ask you this:

Where are you putting others first when you know you should be putting yourself first?

When you put others first, how does it make them feel?
When you put others first, how does it make you feel?
If it makes you feel positive, what are you getting out of it?
What kind of help or support are you really giving them? Is it full, positive, present attention? or is it half hearted, semi-present, partially positive attention because your own energy is elsewhere?

When you put yourself first, how does it make you feel?
When was the last time you put yourself first?
How did that make you feel? How did it make others feel?

How can you gather your own power and energy so that you can better help others with theirs?

My Power, Empowers!

Monday Mantra:: I Listen to my inner, well being

Monday Mantra A well being

Just like an inner child, you have an inner well being. A being who is always looking out for your most well self. This inner well being is often silenced by the thoughts and emotions in our head and heart but when we tune to the frequency of our well being, we can hear it loud clear.

How often do you listen to that inner being who has your wellness at heart?

I see this all the time with clients. It’s that knowing, that inkling. When the body asks for the client to add lemon to water in the morning, the client says “Oh, I’ve been thinking about adding lemon to my water for the last few weeks….”. This has been their inner well being telling them all along that it was the right move.

I am not immune to drawing out my inner well being either. We’re all human and we all get caught up in life and eventually our inner well being gets put last on our list, not first.

Here are some things that you could do for your inner well being today:

  • Have a quiet cup of tea, with no phone, no internet, no TV in front of you.
  • Enjoy a meditation
  • Go for a walk at lunch time
  • Have a glass of water instead of that third cup of coffee

Consider what it is that you’ve been thinking about adding to your routine or to your diet and see what small step you could take towards your inner well being today. Every bit helps to bring back that well being voice.

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Monday Mantra:: I am always in the right place at the right time

Monday Mantra Right Place Right Time

It’s so easy to get caught up in decision making, in our own thoughts about how good we are, or how capable we are. We are all human and this is far more common that most people would think. In fact, we often believe that we’re the only ones who feel that way.

I am learning more and more that I am always in the right place at the right time and this is bringing a sense of contentment for wherever I happen to be.

There’s a lot to be said for divine timing. It may not always seem like it, or feel like it, especially when we’re not having much fun in life but I believe that it’s all part of the plan to get us where we need to be.

What if your struggle of looking for work right now, will actually help you in the long run? Perhaps you’ll end up working to help people who are struggling to find work some day? And what if the universe has a particular role in mind for you at a particular business because you have some great insights that one particular person is going to need when you get there? What if that insight is life changing for them in the best possible way?

You may not always know what the grand plan is, but it is wise to trust in the process and know that you are always in the right place at the right time. Knowing that you are in that spot because you’re the best person for that situation at that time. Knowing this can also bring out a sense of contentment even when things are not going so well. A trust fund of sorts into the precision timing of the universe will propel you forward and upward when things are tough.

Consider your day today as a day in divine timing. Imagine that you were meant to arrive at work when you did, imagine that you were meant to cross the road at that precise moment. Imagine that all your clients cancelled because the universe has a better plan for you today. That you were meant all along to eat at that particular lace for lunch so someone could you overhear you talking and receive a sign they’ve been looking for.

I have personally received signs I’ve been looking for purely around divine timing like this – happening to catch a tram with Denise Duffield Thomas of Get Rich Lucky Bitch fame on a day where I was looking for signs around my finances, eaten at a restaurant the night before my first Reiki training where a Monk was sitting at the table next to us, happened to leave earlier than usual from a clinic because clients had cancelled only to get in the elevator with Danae of The Spell Box fame, running late for work yet at one stop along the way, when the doors of a tram opened up, there was a monk, sitting on the ground, pointing at me with a knowing smile, saluting me (my friend and I have a joke that I am the captain of my own destiny) and giving me the traditional Aussie thumbs up.

No interaction, no timing is ever a mistake, we just need to trust that there is a very good reason in the timing for everything and everyone involved. Even if those decisions are made by ourselves to shift out, to move on or move up or simply to change something, we are always in the right place at the right time.

I am always in the right place at the right time.

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PS – My favourite book, “The Five People You Meet in Heaven” by Mitch Albom illustrates my point so beautifully.

Monday Mantra:: I Choose Positive Language

As a teacher, it’s always interesting to hear new students come into the class room talking because their language is not as positive as those who have been studying Kinesiology for some time.

One of the key things we begin to teach our students is the power of language and how what we say has an effect on ourselves and those we converse with.

The mind is so powerful that it will often remember the last words or so you say in any sentence. And being so powerful, it takes on the words as fact. It does not discern what is tone or sarcasm. It doesn’t know what a joke is or what is fact or fiction. All it knows is words.

Think about what most people say when you ask them “how are you today?”. I often get the response “not bad”. When I hear “not bad”, that makes me feel a little icky and I’m not even the person saying it. Your body remembers ‘bad’ and takes that energy on. My trick for these people (and more for myself to raise my own energy) is to repeat back to them “So, you’re less than good?”. Not only do i raise my own vibration by saying the word ‘good’ but I also help others to raise theirs by allowing them to hear the word ‘good’. I once worked with a gentleman who when asked how he was today, he would always say “‘t’riffic” as in terrific and he couldn’t help but feel positive when he said it. That’s not to say that we should lie about it and pretend that we’re fine but we should attempt changing the words around so they feel and sound more positive.

Consider your sayings, the things you say often as a figure of speech that may be keeping you from your higher vibration or higher energy levels. (I heard a few “It does my head in” and “It’s quite difficult” over the weekend which are less than fabulous expressions – think about what you say and consider how the body might take these on as fact).

Language is incredibly powerful and without us knowing, we pick up other people’s sayings which is why it’s so important to be clear about the language you are using. For your benefit and the benefit of others.

Monday Mantra I Choose Positive Language Kinesiology

Try some of these sentences for some common things this week:

Feeling unwell
Instead of I feel sick
Try I feel less than good today or I feel less than 100% healthy

A Response to “Thank you”
Instead of no worries or not a problem
Try It’s a pleasure or you’re welcome

Tired?
Instead of I’m so tired
try I’m not very energised at the moment or I could do with a good night’s sleep

Start tuning in to what you say and consider how the body might take it on as fact.

This week, choose positive language.

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Monday Mantra:: I Am Committed To Me.

Monday Mantra I am committed to me

I came to an awareness (or few) over the last week that has transformed my focus. Now that there is a wedding in the near future for me, I have been pondering weight loss, health and fitness more intently on a personal level. One of the key awarenesses I have gained is that when I have been at my goal health and fitness in the past, I was a strong, independent, healthy, happy, expressive woman. I was very much in my element and things went very well in all aspects of my life.

Then, when I realise that i’m so visible in that picture of health and vitality, I retreat and the weight goes back on, I start hiding from the world again. I think this has been because on some level I was doing it all for those around me (not because they asked me to but because on some level it was about seeking external approval). This time round, I will have Kinesiology on my side (first session today on this very topic) and will be able to work through what ever is triggered in me when I get to that visible stage. And committing to yourself is not selfish, in fact, if you commit to yourself, you’re in so much of a better position, both physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually to be there for others, so you’re really doing them a favour by putting yourself first.

This time round, I am committed to MYSELF. To my health, to my fitness, to eating well and to MY time. I am committed to saying no when it needs to be said, to put myself first. I am committed to working through all levels of my being to get to my authentic self because I know that these levels are intricately entwined. I am committed to becoming the strong, fit and healthy woman I know I can be.

I am committed to me.

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Monday Mantra:: I Protect and Call My Energy Back

Monday Mantra I Protect and Call My Energy Back

I am reminded of this one often. I get home from a day of seeing clients or a full day of teaching and I suddenly feel like I have nothing left. It wasn’t until yesterday when a colleague of mine mentioned that they too sometimes feel like they have nothing left to give when they get home. That’s when I finally understood what was going on. There are two things going on.

  1. I’m not protecting my energy as I normally would and
  2. When I realise I realise I’ve given my energy away, I’m not calling it back.

Protecting Your Energy

First and foremost, it’s about knowing when to say no. Knowing when your body needs a rest can actually negate this a lot of the time.

I’ve also been using a little energy protection which is simple and effective. All I do is place my palm over my belly button. If you think about the belly button, it was source of nourishment and energy when you were in the womb. It is believed to be a source of Chi or life force energy so by placing your palm over the belly button, you’re protecting your energy. It’s the area in which your solar plexus is close to which is all about personal power and survival so when you’re placing your palm over your belly button, you’re almost activating your sense of personal power, or activating a shield of protection. I like this one because it’s easy to do without needing to visualise anything and no need to ensure you’ve got some “you time” to do it in.

This is of course, just one of many energetic protection processes you can do. I’ll be posting more processes over the coming months, so watch this pace.

Calling Your Energy Back

I wrote an article on this very topic a while back – you can read it here: Calling Your Energy Back.

Your energy is yours to do with as you wish however, if you give it all away, then you have nothing left to give to yourself or anyone else. So be wise about how you give your energy and be wise about calling it back when you’ve over invested.

Protect your energy and know when to call it back.

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Monday Mantra:: The Time Is Now

Monday Mantra The time Is Now

We notice it most for big events. We spend weeks or months planning all the details, we run around collecting this and that and we toss and turn the night before the big day wondering if we’ve forgotten something. Then the day comes and when you wake up in the morning, you’re excited, you’re nervous. The day flies past and before you know it, you’re exhausted from the fun day you’ve had and you’re tucking yourself back into bed again.

I realised at the end of the day, I spent all day running from this person to that person at the event. I didn’t stop all day. And here’s the reason why: The time was always now. I was always in the moment, not thinking what else I needed to do, not who else I needed to speak to, I was just going with the flow of wherever the day and the guests took me. I had a whole lot of fun not worrying about anything but being present. In doing so, It made me acknowledge all the lovely people I have in my life, I was grateful that they could share this time with us. And then it dawned on me that in everyday situations like work, like family life and social life, I get to spend time with these lovely people but I don’t always appreciate it. I realised that I am sometimes thinking about what else needs doing or where I could be or what else I could be doing with the time.

So, this week, I will be practising staying in the moment and appreciating the time I get to spend with the people I surround myself with at work, at home and out and about. I think it will make for a nice, enjoyable week of fun and help to bring every day life back into the present moment.

The Time Is Now.

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