Monday Mantra:: I let go of conditions

Monday Mantra I let go of conditions

Advertisements have them. Legal documentation has them. We have them too, whether we’re aware of it or not. It keeps us from enjoying life, from enjoying relationships, jobs, money, family, you name it. It keeps us miserable when we could be rejoicing and it haunts our psyche on a daily basis. I’m talking about the conditions, the expectations and the asterisk of our day to day lives.

Here’s how it works:

We want the career of a life time, that makes us fulfilled, that pays us well and that we love. *BUT we don’t want to move country to where that dream career is available.

We want that loving relationship, that meaningful connection with a person who makes us feel like a giddy teenager again. *BUT he/she has to be tall, slender and rich.

I love my man. *BUT I’d love him so much more if he did the dishes more often.

Really, we should be saying or focusing on the item, person or situation as it is and valuing it as it is. We should love it unconditionally.

Sure some conditions can be changed. Sure you can love it if it had more of something or less of something or if it was a different colour or in a different location but focussing on where it could be instead of where it is right now, lends it’s self to more internal stress and only further perpetuates the current situation. So if what you focus on further perpetuates the situation then perhaps we should be focussing on just how lovely it is right here, right now and further perpetuate the loveliness….

What conditions, caveats, asterisks could you let go of today that might allow you to enjoy your workplace? Your colleagues? Your transit? Your partner? Your family? just that little bit more?

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Monday Mantra:: I Take A Daily Dose of Love

Monday Mantra Daily Dose of Love

It’s so easy to dish out the negative self talk. It’s easy to have a go at ourselves for our short comings, our didn’t do’s, our “should have done”s. Yes, it is good to know where we might have improved. But it doesn’t do us good to beat ourselves up about it. If we do, we wear ourselves down. We get tired, we get emotional and we set that negative self talk into a self perpetuating cycle of self belief that we’re never good enough, or we never get it right or the classic “I always….” (insert your always, go to stance, reaction or way of being).

The fact is that to change this, we need to recognise that we’re sometimes going to get things wrong. We need to take from that any lessons we can in order to move forward and upward. And then we need to turn the perspective around and realise that more often than not, we did the best we could with the facts and details we had at the time. It’s about accepting where we were at, what we did or said and then choosing to learn from it. From there, it’s easier to begin to talk nice to yourself again.

Create yourself a gratitude jar or journal but make the topic specifically about you, yourself, your abilities, your qualities, what it is you bring into the world. That is, write something nice about yourself. You can even ask friends to contribute some nice thoughts about you too. This will be your “medicine” for self talk.

When you find yourself in a perpetual downward negative self talk cycle, prescribe yourself a daily dose of love.

Then, when you’re having a particularly down day, do a lucky dip into the jar or a random page open in a journal and see what all the lovely things are about you and allow that to begin to lift your mood and set you on the upward cycle again.

Remember, create your little jar of love notes to yourself, when you feel down, take a daily dose of love and allow it fuel your positive self talk.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

Monday Mantra:: I Choose to Begin

Monday Mantra I choose to Begin

So it’s the new year. It’s now 2016 and this year is going to be great. It won’t all be smooth sailing, no. It will include ups and downs and the seas may take you a little off course from time to time but that’s okay. That’s life. What matters most this year, this very day, is that you choose to begin. Choose to begin planning that big overseas trip, begin that new workout regime, being that new vision board, begin that new business venture. Begin.

It’s all well and good to set sail and aimlessly navigate your world but it has to be said that having an idea of what you’d like to see, of what you’d like to feel or experience this year will hold you in good stead and you’re more likely to see, feel and experience it. If you’ve got the biggest voyage planned for this year, then begin it now. In whatever way you can that makes it feel like this year it is totally possible. Because once you begin, you set wheels in motion and oars to the ocean and even if you don’t reach your intended destination, you’re set for a journey and you’ve already begun. If you’ve got the grand voyage in mind and you begin it now but change your mind or re-chart your course somewhere along the way, that’s good too. Begining now on your current dream means that even if that dream changes, you know you’re capable of beginning the new one too.

If you don’t begin on your voyage then you’ll certainly never arrive at your destination. So begin it and if the seas send you in another direction, then at least you’ve met your destination half way.

Now is the time. Begin now. In any seemingly small way you can, begin charting your course. A fabulous journey awaits you.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Make New Moment Resolutions

Monday Mantra New Moment Resolutions

I heard this term in some Abraham Hicks audio recently and it has stuck with me since. At this time of year especially we begin looking into the year that is about to transition into the next and then we hastily begin making new year resolutions before the old year is out.

Besides the lack of real consideration behind them, there is something a little lacking in the “expected” response to the age old question “What’s Your New Year Resolution?”. There are the usual types like Travel destinations, lose weight and get fit as well as the visit more, travel more, do more, be more etc. There are a few things that suddenly have clicked for me at the mere mention of the New Moment Resolution.

  1. The definition of the word Resolution.
  2. The Lack of meaning in them and
  3. The insistence that we wait until the new year to begin


The Definition

Some people have missed the definition of a resolution. These are definitions as taken from thefreedictionary.com:

  1. The state or quality of being resolute; firm determination: faced the situation with resolution.
  2. firm decision to do something: made a resolution to get more exercise.
  3. course of action determined or decided on: His resolution is to get up early.
  4. The act of solving or explaining a problem or puzzle.

Often our “resolutions” are made in haste and only ever skim the surface of what we’re really striving for. “Lose weight” for example is too loose and open to interpretation and at the mercy of life happening around us.

What we could say is this: I’ll make small changes through out the year to improve my opinion of myself and my body image. It speaks more to the humanity in us. The fact is that often when we make a new year resolution, we don’t sit down and work out how we’re going to make it happen, we don’t project plan it working out all the possible things that could go wrong and working out how we can mitigate that risk. The fact is that we start off well meaning and when life or work get busy or complicated, it often falls out the window and we fall off the wagon so to speak. Making small changes means we get to appreciate small wins. Which builds our confidence. And this builds momentum. It also allows us to focus on our own sense of self, not someone else’s idea of what we should or should not be doing for ourselves.

Remember that a Resolution needs to be a decision for a course of action that fills you with determination and solves a particular “problem”.

Meaning
What does it mean to you if you say your resolution is to travel around the country more? If you were doing this already, how would it make you feel? What would it bring to your life and your experience?

If you’re revolution is to lose weight, then when you arrive at your goal weight or at your fitness goal, how will you feel? How will you feel about yourself? What qualities will it install in you? what do you gain emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically from achieving it?

Make your resolution meaningful for you. Include those meaningful feelings in your resolution.

Waiting for the New Year
Why wait? Why not begin now? Right now? If it’s important to you, it shouldn’t be something that waits for the new year. Why not work out what your resolution is, define it, give it meaning for you and then begin strategising? There is no time like the present and if it’s that important to us, then we owe it to ourselves to begin. Not next year, not next week and certainly not tomorrow. Begin it now.

Aks yourself: What will it take to achieve my resolution? Who do I need on my side for this? What do I need? How much time will it take given my current circumstances (time, family, work etc). How much do I want it? On a scale of 0 – 10 (o being not important at all to 10 being my number one priority for me this year) what importance is it to you? Do need any other help for this (Personal Trainer, Business Coach, Nutritionist or perhaps a Travel Agent)?

Write it down. Get a nice piece of paper and a marker or pen and write your resolution out like an affirmation. If you physically write it out, it seeps into your subconscious more easily. Write it and write it often.

Make a new moments resolution and get planning right now so that even if you don’t officially begin until the new year, you’ll be all set up and ready to hit the ground running from week one.

 As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

Monday Mantra:: I focus on what I want

Monday Mantra What I Want

This can be a bit of tricky one. It’s a fine balance between focusing on what isn’t there and focussing on what you want to be there.

I hear it all the time. Here are some examples:

  1. I want a relationship and I’ve been focussing on a relationship (so why I am I still single?)
  2. I want a new, fun job and I’ve been focussing on that but nothing has come yet (and until then I’m stuck in a job I don’t love)
  3. I want to lose 5kg and I’ve been focussing on the dress I want to fit into (and every time I get on those scales, and nothing has changed).

The trick is to find what you want in the future in your current situation. For example:

Invest in a relationship with yourself. Take yourself out on a date. Go out to dinner, take yourself to the movies. But go on your own because you’re developing a relationship with yourself. You could take a journal with you and ask yourself some good “get to know you” questions and write your responses. Get to know YOU.

When you go to work each day, focus on what you actually like about the job, the people, the business. Focus on what that part feels like and let that be your anchor towards what you want.

When you get on the scales after a week of exercise and good food, say to yourself, “This is feedback on how my body feels right now, in this moment of time and I can help it to feel even better”. The idea is that instead of reinforcing the thought and feeling of “Urgh, I haven’t lost any weight”, you’re reinforcing that the body will feel better and that this is only a snapshot of what it feels like now. Then when you notice a reduction in weight, say to yourself on the scales, “Great, the body is feeling better and I can help it to feel even better again.”

If your example is not above, on apiece of paper, write out what you want on the left hand side and then on the right hand side, write the rest of the sentence but….

Eg. I want more money but I keep getting more bills.

Then, work out what the positive outlook is on the “But” section and then, work out how you can make yourself feel like you already have what you want from the “what I want” section.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Listen to my inner, well being

Monday Mantra A well being

Just like an inner child, you have an inner well being. A being who is always looking out for your most well self. This inner well being is often silenced by the thoughts and emotions in our head and heart but when we tune to the frequency of our well being, we can hear it loud clear.

How often do you listen to that inner being who has your wellness at heart?

I see this all the time with clients. It’s that knowing, that inkling. When the body asks for the client to add lemon to water in the morning, the client says “Oh, I’ve been thinking about adding lemon to my water for the last few weeks….”. This has been their inner well being telling them all along that it was the right move.

I am not immune to drawing out my inner well being either. We’re all human and we all get caught up in life and eventually our inner well being gets put last on our list, not first.

Here are some things that you could do for your inner well being today:

  • Have a quiet cup of tea, with no phone, no internet, no TV in front of you.
  • Enjoy a meditation
  • Go for a walk at lunch time
  • Have a glass of water instead of that third cup of coffee

Consider what it is that you’ve been thinking about adding to your routine or to your diet and see what small step you could take towards your inner well being today. Every bit helps to bring back that well being voice.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I set and maintain healthy boundaries

Monday Mantra Healthy Boundaries

It’s so easy to bend your own rules here and there for a friend, for a co-worker for your boss. And to be honest, doing so here and there is fine but when you find yourself constantly going against what you want, against your own values, against your own needs, life begins to feel frustrating and all the little things you say “sure, I can do that” to suddenly feel like burdens instead of enjoyment. People suddenly expect you to help and no longer ask you. I’ve been there before and I often have to remind myself to get back on track with my boundaries.

The key to setting boundaries is knowing what you want and what you value and having something tangible to remind you of them often. When you have these at the forefront of your mind day in, day out, it becomes easier to stand your ground when you need to because your most important things/people/events are not buried under all the other things on your to do list. There’s less to filter through. Knowing what you want means you can know faster when something doesn’t match up with what you want.

A friend of mine gave me a trick a few years ago now, that I have just started using in everyday life. Here’s how it works.

Write a list of your most important goals. What do you most want from life at the moment? Is it more time with family? Is it writing your first book, is it getting a whole stack of homework done, is it meditating every day? or is it to run a half marathon? Write it down. Keep that list super close and handy at all times.

Whenever someone asks you to do something, to go somewhere to attend an event, to say back and work late, ask them if you can get back to them on that and then go get your list out and ask yourself these questions:

  1. Is it something I actually want to do?
  2. Will I regret it if I say yes? / Will I regret it if I say no?
  3. Will doing this bring me closer to my goals?

Asking yourself these questions (especially if you’re naturally a ‘yes’ person, will help you to get more discerning about how you spend your time.

If you come to the conclusion that this event is not for you, simply tell them straight up “look, it sounds great but it doesn’t really match up with what i’m trying to achieve at the moment” or “thank you for the offer but I have my heart set on xyz this weekend, rain check?”. People understand what it’s like to have goals and not having time to dedicate to them so they will totally understand and if they don’t that’s a reflection on them, not you. Be honest with them and be true to you.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Take My Own Advice (with a twist)

Monday-Mantra-I-take-my-own-advice

This one is a repeat with a twist. For the last version of this mantra, you can read it here.

Today’s version is slightly different view-point.

What value we place on ourselves is so very important. It is one thing to know how valuable you are but it can be a totally different thing when we look outside ourselves.

Let me give you an example. A client of mine knows the sessions she provides are worth more than $100 per hour. That’s why they are charged at much more than that. Yet, she allows other people to dictate to how much those sessions are worth by the hourly rate the business owner pays her. So in a round about way, she’s taking their advice on what her sessions are worth, not her own advice of what her sessions are worth.

Here’s another way it manifests.

You see a great bag, pair of shoes, new piece of technology you love. You buy it because you love it. You carry it carefully around with you, showing it off because you love it so much. The you show a friend and say “hey – look at this great new handbag I bought” only to be met with “oh, it’s okay I guess.”. Suddenly you feel awkward, like you may have made the wrong choice because your st friend doesn’t like it and you always love the same stuff. Why does someone else’s opinion matter more or have more weight than that of your own?

Try listening and taking your own advice about what you love, about what looks good, about what you’re worth and focussing on that this week and feel how much more confident you feel.

Follow your own intuition, your inner guidance. Take your own advice.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

 

Monday Mantra:: The Time Is Now

Monday Mantra The time Is Now

We notice it most for big events. We spend weeks or months planning all the details, we run around collecting this and that and we toss and turn the night before the big day wondering if we’ve forgotten something. Then the day comes and when you wake up in the morning, you’re excited, you’re nervous. The day flies past and before you know it, you’re exhausted from the fun day you’ve had and you’re tucking yourself back into bed again.

I realised at the end of the day, I spent all day running from this person to that person at the event. I didn’t stop all day. And here’s the reason why: The time was always now. I was always in the moment, not thinking what else I needed to do, not who else I needed to speak to, I was just going with the flow of wherever the day and the guests took me. I had a whole lot of fun not worrying about anything but being present. In doing so, It made me acknowledge all the lovely people I have in my life, I was grateful that they could share this time with us. And then it dawned on me that in everyday situations like work, like family life and social life, I get to spend time with these lovely people but I don’t always appreciate it. I realised that I am sometimes thinking about what else needs doing or where I could be or what else I could be doing with the time.

So, this week, I will be practising staying in the moment and appreciating the time I get to spend with the people I surround myself with at work, at home and out and about. I think it will make for a nice, enjoyable week of fun and help to bring every day life back into the present moment.

The Time Is Now.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Choose to Read The Signs

Monday Mantra I Choose To Read The Signs

Most people are unaware of the signs that surround them all day, every day. The universe is always trying to get out attention. Sometimes, it’s simply to say “hey, I’ve got your back” and sometimes it’s more of a “If you keep focusing on this, I’ll keep sending it your way” or even a “This is something you need to be aware of”.

The form of signs is many and varied. They come to you in numbers, colours, shapes, animals, words and songs. The possibilities are endless. What characterises them as signs is their repetitiveness and consistency.

For example:

Last week, on my into work, I had a small spider in the car. When I go into work, there 3 on my desk and when I got home, there was one on the lounge room floor. Because there were so many in such quick succession, all in the one day, I saw it as a sign and did some research on Spiders as animal totems.

The week prior, I was finding feathers in random places, including one placed on my car windscreen even though it had been parked in a garage all day.

I’m currently seeing the number sequence 808, EVERYWHERE! which is all about the manifestation of all that I need being supplied to be in abundance. (see Doreen Virtue’s Angel Numbers App for more information).

I had last week, two separate people who do not know one another mention Teal Swan and Blessing their food in their own unique ways that felt right for them. These were not coincidences. For me, this is clear guidance from the universe telling me how to proceed.

What signs have you been getting recently? How have you chosen to follow those signs? How do you read your signs?

By reading the signs, we get a sense of interconnectedness with all of life and the universe, it makes us feel uplifted and as a result, we naturally attract a happier, more uplifting day into our lives.

Today, choose to read the signs.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.