Monday Mantra:: I Take A Daily Dose of Love

Monday Mantra Daily Dose of Love

It’s so easy to dish out the negative self talk. It’s easy to have a go at ourselves for our short comings, our didn’t do’s, our “should have done”s. Yes, it is good to know where we might have improved. But it doesn’t do us good to beat ourselves up about it. If we do, we wear ourselves down. We get tired, we get emotional and we set that negative self talk into a self perpetuating cycle of self belief that we’re never good enough, or we never get it right or the classic “I always….” (insert your always, go to stance, reaction or way of being).

The fact is that to change this, we need to recognise that we’re sometimes going to get things wrong. We need to take from that any lessons we can in order to move forward and upward. And then we need to turn the perspective around and realise that more often than not, we did the best we could with the facts and details we had at the time. It’s about accepting where we were at, what we did or said and then choosing to learn from it. From there, it’s easier to begin to talk nice to yourself again.

Create yourself a gratitude jar or journal but make the topic specifically about you, yourself, your abilities, your qualities, what it is you bring into the world. That is, write something nice about yourself. You can even ask friends to contribute some nice thoughts about you too. This will be your “medicine” for self talk.

When you find yourself in a perpetual downward negative self talk cycle, prescribe yourself a daily dose of love.

Then, when you’re having a particularly down day, do a lucky dip into the jar or a random page open in a journal and see what all the lovely things are about you and allow that to begin to lift your mood and set you on the upward cycle again.

Remember, create your little jar of love notes to yourself, when you feel down, take a daily dose of love and allow it fuel your positive self talk.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

Signs from the universe: A Higher Love

A Higher Love Signs from the Universe The universe speaks to us all if we choose to listen. I had the most amazing chain of signs this morning and they all felt like they were orchestrated just for me. Walking down the street, running some errands, I see a piece of concrete in the shape of a heart. In the post office, the attendant who was helping me with some express post envelopes – completely out of nowhere, for no reason whatsoever, very left field tangent – shows me the latest issue stamps for valentines day (see picture). Then, while I’m writing out my express post envelope, the radio begins to play Steve Winwood’s Higher Love! Hellooo Up There! I love you too… 🙂 What signs are you receiving loud and clear?

Your Dream Is Worth The Risk

I get to meet some pretty amazing people in my line of work. They don’t always know it but they are amazing, loving, generous and kind people. They’re people who want to chase their dreams. They dream of their own business, they dream of finding their purpose and they dream of being confident, of being calm and of being true to themselves. Their dreams are important to them and their dreams are inspiring to people like myself. Once in a while though, I come across someone who is inspiring on a whole new level. And not because of what they may have been through or because of what they want to accomplish but simply in the fact that they’ve come to me for help with their dream.

The thing with dreams is that we tend to feel like it’s a scary or risky thing to pour ourselves into our dream and it can be. Here are two of my favourite things (one quote, one poem which was read out at my year seven graduation in fact) around risk:

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud, became more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
– Anais Nin

 

Risk

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because
the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing,
does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.
Chained by his servitude he is a slave
who has forfeited all freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

– William Arthur Ward

So while it is scary to put yourself out there for your dream (whatever your dream is) there’s always a way to get there or to move towards it and if you’re not moving towards it yet, it’s also okay to be where you’re at until you’re ready for the next step.

So what about your dream? Is there anything holding you back from achieving your dream? Ask yourself if it’s worth the risk. Remember that a life of what if’s works both ways. What if you fail? but oh.. what if you succeed!?

A Queen Is Wise

A Queen is Wise Marianne Williamson Dana Atkin Kinesiology

Every time I read or recite this quote, I get something new from it. It moves me at a different line each time. This quote has become for me, a mantra, something to aspire to, something to absorb, to learn on all levels.

She rules with authentic power – this is perhaps the most encouraging of all the lines. We all know that power can be a very emotive and attractive thing so why not be true to you and rule your kingdom with authentic power. Being true to who you are is a common theme for a lot of my clients and it is not necessarily an easy thing to do. We’re trained from so young to not be ourselves, to sensor ourselves, to change what we look like, how we dress, what we enjoy doing just to fit in, to be loved and accepted. Yes, it’s totally a personal perception that we may not be loved for who we really are but (and it’s been said by thousands of those before us) if we love ourselves for who we really are, then we become that vision, we become the ruler of our kingdom and we do indeed rule with authentic power.