Buying In To Yourself

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If you’re always on sale, then you’re not receiving what you’re worth. And if you’re always on sale then do people really appreciate you for your real qualities?

What if you didn’t sell yourself short?
What if your morals couldn’t be bought?
What if you didn’t sell out on your dream? or your gifts?

What if you bought in to the real value of yourself?
What if you received what you’re worth?
What if you invested in your dream? or your gifts?

I see it so often that people think they need to be everything to everyone. Not just in a business sense but in a personal sense too. But the thing is that if you’re everything to everyone, who are you for you? This is selling out on yourself and your own unique blend of skills and expertise. We think that we should just accept what we are offered for our skills and expertise but really, we diminish our own sense of self by doing this. I began charging a small price and would put out sales and special prices but you know what I received in kind for these offers? People who didn’t appreciate the process, people who didn’t appreciate my time or expertise and people who would expect more for less. What I put out there by trying to cater to everyone is exactly what I got – a diminished perception of my gifts.

Now I’m not talking about money here either. I’m talking about time, emotions, food and much much more.

Where have you sold out on a dream because you thought someone knew what was better for you?
Where have you bought into someone else’s perception of you and your abilities?
Where have you invested in someone else’s dream at the expense of your own?
Where have you chosen someone else’s time over your own?
Where have you invested bad food into your body when you know you were worth investing in high quality nourishing food?

What would it take for you to buy into your own gifts?
What would it take for you to buy into your own dream or goal?
How could you invest in these for yourself? (Food, money, emotions, mind set, time etc)
How much are these gifts and dreams worth to you?
How would they improve your sense of self worth?
And if your worth was improved, then how else would life generally improve?

It all has a flow on effect.

Buy into yourself and watch your investment pay dividends.

 

 

 

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Monday Mantra:: I set and maintain healthy boundaries

Monday Mantra Healthy Boundaries

It’s so easy to bend your own rules here and there for a friend, for a co-worker for your boss. And to be honest, doing so here and there is fine but when you find yourself constantly going against what you want, against your own values, against your own needs, life begins to feel frustrating and all the little things you say “sure, I can do that” to suddenly feel like burdens instead of enjoyment. People suddenly expect you to help and no longer ask you. I’ve been there before and I often have to remind myself to get back on track with my boundaries.

The key to setting boundaries is knowing what you want and what you value and having something tangible to remind you of them often. When you have these at the forefront of your mind day in, day out, it becomes easier to stand your ground when you need to because your most important things/people/events are not buried under all the other things on your to do list. There’s less to filter through. Knowing what you want means you can know faster when something doesn’t match up with what you want.

A friend of mine gave me a trick a few years ago now, that I have just started using in everyday life. Here’s how it works.

Write a list of your most important goals. What do you most want from life at the moment? Is it more time with family? Is it writing your first book, is it getting a whole stack of homework done, is it meditating every day? or is it to run a half marathon? Write it down. Keep that list super close and handy at all times.

Whenever someone asks you to do something, to go somewhere to attend an event, to say back and work late, ask them if you can get back to them on that and then go get your list out and ask yourself these questions:

  1. Is it something I actually want to do?
  2. Will I regret it if I say yes? / Will I regret it if I say no?
  3. Will doing this bring me closer to my goals?

Asking yourself these questions (especially if you’re naturally a ‘yes’ person, will help you to get more discerning about how you spend your time.

If you come to the conclusion that this event is not for you, simply tell them straight up “look, it sounds great but it doesn’t really match up with what i’m trying to achieve at the moment” or “thank you for the offer but I have my heart set on xyz this weekend, rain check?”. People understand what it’s like to have goals and not having time to dedicate to them so they will totally understand and if they don’t that’s a reflection on them, not you. Be honest with them and be true to you.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Protect and Call My Energy Back

Monday Mantra I Protect and Call My Energy Back

I am reminded of this one often. I get home from a day of seeing clients or a full day of teaching and I suddenly feel like I have nothing left. It wasn’t until yesterday when a colleague of mine mentioned that they too sometimes feel like they have nothing left to give when they get home. That’s when I finally understood what was going on. There are two things going on.

  1. I’m not protecting my energy as I normally would and
  2. When I realise I realise I’ve given my energy away, I’m not calling it back.

Protecting Your Energy

First and foremost, it’s about knowing when to say no. Knowing when your body needs a rest can actually negate this a lot of the time.

I’ve also been using a little energy protection which is simple and effective. All I do is place my palm over my belly button. If you think about the belly button, it was source of nourishment and energy when you were in the womb. It is believed to be a source of Chi or life force energy so by placing your palm over the belly button, you’re protecting your energy. It’s the area in which your solar plexus is close to which is all about personal power and survival so when you’re placing your palm over your belly button, you’re almost activating your sense of personal power, or activating a shield of protection. I like this one because it’s easy to do without needing to visualise anything and no need to ensure you’ve got some “you time” to do it in.

This is of course, just one of many energetic protection processes you can do. I’ll be posting more processes over the coming months, so watch this pace.

Calling Your Energy Back

I wrote an article on this very topic a while back – you can read it here: Calling Your Energy Back.

Your energy is yours to do with as you wish however, if you give it all away, then you have nothing left to give to yourself or anyone else. So be wise about how you give your energy and be wise about calling it back when you’ve over invested.

Protect your energy and know when to call it back.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Choose To See The Best in Myself

Monday Mantra I Choose To See The Best In Myself I have a great number of clients who are completely oblivious to their fabulous qualities. Qualities like generous, like calm, like decisive, qualities like actually being willing to try new things (including new modalities). They all say things like “I shouldn’t have done that” or “I should have chosen to do this” or “that was a bad decision”. The truth is that we are all human. We all makes choices for ourselves with the information we have on hand at any given point in time. We cannot presume to know what each choice will give us or take from us.

What we do have a choice over, is how we see ourselves and how we talk to ourselves about these decisions. Instead of saying “I shouldn’t have chosen to do that, that was a stupid choice”, think about it more carefully. Did you do the right thing at the time with the information you had? and if not, look at why you chose it – maybe you were at a point where you were willing to try anything to get healthy again (that’s an honourable place to be – some people just give up, you chose to keep trying).

All we need to do sometimes is take step back and look at the situation from another perspective. It’s okay to make decisions that lead you down the garden path, you’re human (as we all are) but how you choose to see the path, how you choose to talk to yourself about that choice will make all the difference to what you find at the end of your path. Today, lets begin by choosing to see the best in ourselves. The best in our decisions, the best in our body, the best in our intellect and the best in our qualities. This will have a flow on effect in your life, your body and those around you.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Choose A Better Feeling Thought

Monday Mantra I choose a better feeling thought   Put simply, when you find yourself thinking not so nice things, feeling not so nice, choose a better feeling thought. The more you choose a better feeling thought, the more you give your mind, body and spirit and a chance to not only feel better, but to attract situations and reasons to feel even better. One naturally feeds into the other. Today, when you find yourself thinking something that doesn’t feel great, choose a better feeling thought. As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: It’s safe for me to say no

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I’ll be honest here – I tend to be someone who says yes to a lot of invitations and requests. I consider everyone else’s opinion of me and everyone else’s feelings before my own. Then I resent them for making me do something I didn’t really want to do. The key here is of course that I chose to do it but that fact gets hidden under everyone else’s priorities because I hide it there.

Did you know that a lot of people actually appreciate you saying “no” from the get go rather than cancelling at the last minute?

Be clear about what you want. Make a list of all the things you want to achieve, all your short-term gaols, your long term goals and even your day to day stuff you just want to do.  Then, look at each invitation or request and if it doesn’t match up with what you want or if what you want can’t be rescheduled to fit in some spontaneous invitation, then it’s okay to say no. And be honest with your answer too. It’s okay to say “look, to be honest, I really had my heart set on doing ABC today so I’ll have to say thank you for thinking of me, but no thank you”.

This habit of saying yes for everyone else’s sake is not an easy one to change but it can be done. I am still working on this one myself.

 

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

Monday Mantra:: A perceived small change can make a big impact

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Known as a divine paradox. What looks big is small, what looks small is big. Just because something appears to be a mountain, it is very likely a molehill. What appears to be a small gesture can very well mean the world to someone. Never underestimate the power of small things.

One of my favourite quotes is:

“If you think you’re too small to make a difference, then you’ve never been in bed with a mosquito.”

Adding what seems to be a small “one 20 minute walk per week” into your routine may well be paving the way for a big shift in your weight.
A small change in the way you talk about money can pave the way for a big energetic shift in your finances.
A small smile to a stranger has the ability to change their perception on their whole day.

The same goes when you’re on the receiving end. A small gift has the potential to change your life for the better, even if you can’t see it in that moment. A perceived small pay rise has the ability over time to change your perceptions on how you’re valued and have a flow on effect to those around you and possibly to a bigger pay rise next year.

The other week, I bought myself a bunch of flowers for completing a big transformative study week and everyday for  a week afterwards, I felt great walking into my kitchen to see a beautiful bunch of flowers on the kitchen table. It shifted my whole week into beginning each day with a positive thought.

What small thing can you do for yourself or for someone else today that has the potential to make a big difference in yours or someone else’s life?

 

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Align Myself and My Life With My Dreams

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So many times, I come across people (myself included) where they want something so much that they’re willing to do whatever it takes to get something. Lets use Money as an example because it’s a common one.

Say for instance that you desperately want or need money to fuel your dream. You’re working hard at a job and saving diligently but every time you get to a certain level, you spend it without even worrying about the consequences at that point in time. And then, it’s lather, rinse, repeat every time you get to that same point of savings.

Consider this: How do you feel about people with money generally? DO you feel like they’re greedy, do you feel like they’re not nice people? Do you feel like they’re shallow?

Now consider this: How do you expect to have a lot of money if you’re constantly thinking that people with money are greedy, not nice or shallow? Try turning that belief around by thinking about all the positive things about people who have lots of money. For example: People with money get to help others with money when they choose to. People with money have great wardrobes, people with money are great ambassadors for charity work. etc. Choose one that’s important to you. As Abraham Hicks says, “A Belief is only a thought you keep thinking” – so choose a better feeling thought and feel your dreams, thoughts and beliefs all come into alignment with your dreams. Remember too that this applies to all dreams, to work, to money, to relationships etc.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

Monday Mantra:: I breathe in Allowing and I breathe out Resistance

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I came across an Abraham Hicks Youtube video this morning that mentioned that resistance shows up in the form or emotions (your emotional guidance system) and when we don’t change the way we feel or change our thoughts, then eventually the body begins to show us physical symptoms of our thoughts as a physical prompting for us to look at the emotional thought components. It’s like escalating a problem through a help line. Eventually you get to the big boss who is able to sort it out for you but by then, you’re so worked up about the issue that it takes so long for the problem to be fixed. Really, what we want to do is have it looked at sooner so that the person you get through to on the help line is the only person you nee to talk to and then issue is corrected almost immediately, no escalation required.

In the video, it also mentions a way of bringing yourself into the present moment through breathing, it’s a way of focussing all your attention onto the present moment to release and resistance to the life you’re trying to create (i.e.; the Law of Attraction).

Try these ways of using breath to release resistance:

1. When you go for a walk, concentrate on your breathing and use today’s mantra as you do.

2. When you go for a run, either get yourself into the “zone” or as you run, use today’s mantra.

3. As you sit at your desk, take a few minutes just to notice your breathing. Count your in breath and out breath to a total of 10 and then start again. (this technique is taken from the Take Ten Series of Headspace – http://www.getsomeheadspace.com).

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

Monday Mantra:: To Teach is To Learn

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Today is a special day. Today, I embark on some faculty training so that I can teach Kinesiology next year. It is both exciting and nerve wracking. I teach my clients tools of the trade all the time. I teach them tools I’ve picked up along the way and I teach them new tools I’ve developed myself. So teaching is nothing new for me. The most amazing part of teaching people these things is perhaps the benefit I get from it too. Not only do I really have to know what i’m talking about (learning) but I need to understand it from a “hey, I use this technique myself” perspective.

You see, I tend to forget that I know a lot about health, wellbeing and spirituality and I forget that there are people out there who are just opening up to these things. So when I teach, I teach myself that everyone is learning (including myself) and that what I teach on a day to day basis is what I need to learn on any given day.

For example, If i find myself referring clients to a particular meditation, It’s often a good sign that I too need to delve back into that meditation. If I hear myself recommending a way of communicating, then that’s usually my tell tale sign that I too need to consider how I am communicating in my life.

There is a lot we can learn from teaching others so it’s a win-win. They get the benefit and you get to learn something too. Next time you find yourself giving advice to others, consider how you too might use that same advice. You might be surprised at how spot on and appropriate your own advice really is.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.