Monday Mantra:: I Take A Daily Dose of Love

Monday Mantra Daily Dose of Love

It’s so easy to dish out the negative self talk. It’s easy to have a go at ourselves for our short comings, our didn’t do’s, our “should have done”s. Yes, it is good to know where we might have improved. But it doesn’t do us good to beat ourselves up about it. If we do, we wear ourselves down. We get tired, we get emotional and we set that negative self talk into a self perpetuating cycle of self belief that we’re never good enough, or we never get it right or the classic “I always….” (insert your always, go to stance, reaction or way of being).

The fact is that to change this, we need to recognise that we’re sometimes going to get things wrong. We need to take from that any lessons we can in order to move forward and upward. And then we need to turn the perspective around and realise that more often than not, we did the best we could with the facts and details we had at the time. It’s about accepting where we were at, what we did or said and then choosing to learn from it. From there, it’s easier to begin to talk nice to yourself again.

Create yourself a gratitude jar or journal but make the topic specifically about you, yourself, your abilities, your qualities, what it is you bring into the world. That is, write something nice about yourself. You can even ask friends to contribute some nice thoughts about you too. This will be your “medicine” for self talk.

When you find yourself in a perpetual downward negative self talk cycle, prescribe yourself a daily dose of love.

Then, when you’re having a particularly down day, do a lucky dip into the jar or a random page open in a journal and see what all the lovely things are about you and allow that to begin to lift your mood and set you on the upward cycle again.

Remember, create your little jar of love notes to yourself, when you feel down, take a daily dose of love and allow it fuel your positive self talk.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

Monday Mantra:: I Pay Attention to All My Senses

Monday Mantra Attention to my senses

Sight, Taste, Touch, Sound, Smell. We use them daily. But how often do you actually pay attention to all of them?

I recently took on some focus on these senses and was amazed at some of the things in daily life I tuned out. I think sound was the most profound one of all of the senses for me. I realised that I was probably only paying attention to maybe 60% of the sounds I could hear in any one day.

The thing here is that we do actually need to tune these out in order to focus on specific tasks. But sometimes, these senses can be our best ally. If we’re able to take moments throughout our day and tune in to all of these things, we’re better equipped to really understand what’s going on around us, to really be appreciative of what we have and to really savour moments in all dimensions of our our senses.

Today, every time you stop to have a coffee or a cup of tea, pause.

Listen to the kettle boiling or the steam wand whooshing.
Listen to the clink of the tea spoon as you stir in sugar or milk.
Look at it. The colour, the smoothness of the texture, or the bubbly texture of a cappuccino.
Smell the tea or coffee. Breathe it in.
When you take a sip, taste it. Really taste it.
Then, expand that further between sips.
What taste lingers?
What else can you hear around you?
What else can you see?
What else can you smell?
Return to your cuppa and begin again.

This exercise allows you to focus on a specific sense around a specific topic and then it allows you to open that up and take everything in then brings the focus back to one topic again.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: A change is as good as a holiday

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This saying holds true:

“A change is as good as a holiday.”

Much like a spring clean, a change can indeed create radical shifts in your world on an energetic level as well as an emotional level. When we change one thing, it changes how we feel and even how we interact.

Consider a change in hair style for example. It make you feel more confident and therefore, the way in which you interact with the world can change.

What about changing your living room around. Shifting the stagnant energy of furniture that has been sitting in the same place for years, can have a big impact on how you feel in the space as well as how you move within the space.

Much like after a holiday, you feel refreshed, having had that stagnant energy moved and new, relaxed energy infused.

Have a think about what subtle changes you can make today that might have the ability to change how you feel for the better. Perhaps your desk at work could do with some re-arranging, perhaps a new quilt cover set or maybe a new hair style or colour is in order?

 

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

Monday Mantra:: It’s Safe for Me To Be Human

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Children have this knack of being themselves. When they’re happy, they are outwardly happy and joyous. When they’re sad, they cry. Somewhere between childhood and adulthood though, we’re taught to pretend that we’re okay, even if we’re not. We’re taught to be calm even when we’re happy.

Often as adults, we find ourselves in not so great circumstances and we push through, pretending that we’re fine when we’re not and thinking that we have to hold ourselves together that we can’t be unwell or we can’t be upset because people will think less of us. We go to work when we’re sick even though we know it’s important to look after ourselves, we get it in our mind that a business is more important, that something or someone outside ourselves is more important than us and our own wellbeing?!

The fact is that being vulnerable is actually okay. News flash: we’re all human. We’re not perfect because it’s in our nature to always be striving for more, so why deny ourselves of who we really are, our authentic selves? We’re all human. We laugh, we cry and sometimes we get sick and you know what, we don’t need to pretend we’re okay if we’re not, we can cry if we feel so inclined and we can certainly ask for help.

I hear this so often from clients:

“Is it silly that I feel scared to speak up?”
“Is it vain to want to look good?”
“Is it weird that I’m worried about what other people think?”

The lists go on but my answer is always the same – “No it’s not – you’re human, just like every other person on the planet so you’re not alone in this.”

Today, I want you to acknowledge your humanity and the humanity of those around you. Keep an eye out for those who seem to be keeping themselves, their true self at bay and encourage them to be themselves – lead by example.

 

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

 

 

Don’t Think… Feel (and then think)

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The client theme of the week this week has been: Don’t think… feel (and then think).

I used to love the Beautiful Noise album by Neil Diamond. And one song on that album in particular I loved was “Don’t Think… Feel”. I loved all the “old stuff” growing up. This week, all of my clients have had some version of this theme going on for them. Letting the thoughts get in the way of knowing or feeling what it is that they really want.

I have to say that a majority of my clients come in with over thinking concerns. Often presenting as anxiety, the tendency to over think things and allow the mind to run away with you (often to the worst case scenario) is very common.

Even though each of my clients this week has come in to see me to work on something very different, they have all been over thinking decisions that, while the practical sides need to be looked at, ultimately need to be made by their heart.

Once the heart is set on something, then you can work out the practicalities of how to get there.

1. What does your head say about the decision?
2. What does your heart say about the decision?
3. If the heart doesn’t agree with the head, is there any way that the head can devise a plan to meet the heart half way?

Feel what the right answer is, then think about how you can practically make it happen.

 

Monday Mantra:: I Can Choose to Let Go

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Over the last week, we have been cleaning out our spare room.  As I was trudging through all the old sentimental stuff and all the not so sentimental stuff, I wondered – why do we hold on to so much stuff?

We keep things because we get used to having it around – It makes us feel comfortable.

We keep things because they remind us of someone – it makes us feel reminiscent or young.

We keep things because someone we love gave it to us – it makes us feel loved, appreciated, beautiful.

We keep things because it might come in handy one day – it makes us feel hopeful or inspired or safe.

We keep things because they might fit us again, some day – they make us feel excited about the future.

 

But these things, while they sit in a cupboard or under the stairs in the dark, only ever come out to the light when we go through a spring clean. They hold us back and they weigh us down, sometimes without us even knowing it. And often, that stuff is only hiding more stuff underneath it!

When we need space, we go through a spring clean. We bring out all those old things and throw out a few here and there. Then we hide all that stuff again until we need more space and so the process of bringing those objects out to the light for sorting begins yet again.

The same goes for our emotional wellbeing. We often hide our “stuff” at the back of the mind (sometimes so far back that it’s actually in the subconscious) and it’s only when we find ourselves overwhelmed, in pain or in crisis that we seek out those things in order to spring clean our thoughts and emotions for clarity of mind and when we do, we feel lighter, happier, more relaxed and sometimes more free. Life runs a little more smoothly. This is because our body is no longer holding onto it, it no longer needs to carry the weight of the past.

We can, however, forget that we have a choice in letting things go. It’s human nature to hold on to events, people or situations that no longer do us any good to hold on to for fear of being alone, out of work or unloved, just to name a few. That’s not to say that these fears or concerns aren’t legitimate and in fact, there are many instances when you need to ensure that items like an income for instance are catered for – they do require some thought.

Letting go of old clothes is one thing, but letting go of bigger things will likely take a few rounds of bringing them out of storage for sifting through, so please be patient with yourself. It took me three years to finally get up the courage to leave my secure, long-term employment to chase my dream of becoming a Kinesiologist. It was a classic case of Lather, Rinse, Repeat: I can choose to let go.

What can you start letting go of today?

Outworn clothes
Past Hurts
Old Flames
Fears
Limiting Beliefs

Lather, Rinse, Repeat: I can choose to let go.

As always, download and save the mantra to your phone home screen, your desktop or print it and pin it up somewhere. When you see it, say it and if you think someone you know might benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Monday Mantra:: I Allow Others to Tell Their Story

You know when you need to talk about something, and you finally get up the courage to talk about it and before you’ve even scratched the surface of your story, someone chimes in with a “well, when I ……” or “that’s like when I……”? It feels pretty horrible doesn’t it? Especially when you’ve been holding on to your story for so long and it’s taken you days, weeks, months or years to muster up the courage to tell it.

Today’s mantra is all about allowing others to tell their story without feeling like you need to give your version of a similar story, without needing to provide a one-upmanship version of your own similar story and without jumping in with a solution.

Sometimes, the biggest gift we can give someone is the space to talk about what they need to talk about, without having someone chime in to fix it, without interruption and without judgement.

If you yourself have something you need to talk about, prefix it with a “I need to talk about something but I need to get it all out so if you could just sit and listen until I’ve got it all out, I’d be so grateful.”

Today, allow others to tell their story.

 

As always, download the image and save it to your phone screen, desktop or pin it somewhere. When you see it, say it and if you think that someone you know could benefit from this mantra, share it.Monday-Mantra-allow others to tell their story

 

Dream Chaser or Dream Catcher?

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The answer of course is both.

I have had Dream Chasers (see image below) in my mind as a series of gift cards with a very unique application for months and months on end. Then dream catchers were jumping out at me like signs from the universe.

When I mentioned this to my beloved, he said to me “is it a sign or is it just an extension of yourself?”.

Initially, I was annoyed. I LOVE signs. insert exasperated:Why was he dismissing my signs?

Today though, those words have provided inspiration. Not just from an artistic perspective but from a business perspective. It is an extension of myself. This is what I help all my clients with too. We find their passion, they come to awarenesses of how this might be a great business idea and we work together to eliminate anything that might be holding them back consciously and subconsciously from achieving their dream. I am a dream chaser myself. I help people chase and catch their dreams.

Dream Chaser AND Dream Catcher! (watch this space for snazzy new business tag line soon).

Question for you: What words have you heard lately that initially were less than easy to hear but when you reflect on them, they have a bigger meaning?

Dream Chaser by Dana Atkin

Monday Mantra:: I Listen to my Body

Monday-Matnra-Listen-Body-KinesiologyYour body is always talking to you.

I’m tired, I’m Hungry, I’m uncomfortable (all of course are on both the physical and metaphysical levels).

Here’s how I listened to my body yesterday: I did nothing except the grocery shopping.

I laid on the couch all day. I had a very long week, I was exhausted and “off colour” all week. Out for dinner two nights, late clients all week, an interview and numerous clients. Now, i had the choice for the two nights out to dinner. I could have said no but I chose to ignore my body. Then after a very late night Saturday night with a friend’s black tie wedding (which was a whole lot of fun but oh so long to get ready for as a woman going to a black tie event), my body was saying “STOP”. So instead of my usual Groceries, cooking meals for the week, including lunches, I laid on the couch and after a good 10 hours sleep last night, I feel pretty good today.

Now, if I had of listened to my body and said no to a few things during the week, chances are that I would not be behind for the week already with cooking but I would have enjoyed my Sunday a bit more too.

What is your body trying to tell you? Are you listening? or are you ignoring its signs and signals?

If it’s tiredness, take a break.
If it’s an unusual symptom and you’re worried, go to the doctor.
If it’s a sick feeling after certain foods, try to remove those foods.
If it’s a an uncomfortable feeling in a certain place, listen to that and investigate what exactly might be causing it.

Your body is always talking to you!

As always, download the image and save it to your phone or desktop, print it and pin it somewhere and when you see it, say it. And if you think someone else could benefit from this Mantra, share it.

Are you ready to chase your dream? Book a session with me now and we’ll work together towards catching your dream. 

 

Sleep Well

3000MelbMag Sleep Well Dana Atkin April 2014

Frustrating isn’t it? When you can’t sleep. You’ve had a big day, you’re tired and you can’t wait to get to bed. You snuggle in at 9:30pm; take a few deep breaths and think “Ahhh…yes. Sleep time.” That is until you roll over (for what feels like the one hundredth time) and check the clock. 1:00am – eek!

Research says that getting adequate sleep is good for you for a number of reasons. Some of these reasons are:

  1. Your nervous system: It improves concentration, mood and memory
  2. Your Immune System: When your immune system is well rested, it can defend your body easier and more effectively
  3. Your Cardio Vascular System: Getting adequate sleep may help to reduce heart rate variability and
  4. It’s good for over all body rest & rejuvenation

So, as you can tell from this simple overview, Sleep is pretty important for your health and wellbeing. Here are my top five sleep well (or get back to sleep) tips:

  1. Routine
    Creating a routine around bedtime for yourself teaches your body when you’re nearing sleep time. The best way to do this is to think about children and the way we teach them with a routine that it’s almost bedtime. Find a series of things to do that works for you as a bedtime routine and stick with it.
  2. Deep Breathing
    This one is obvious and we hear it all the time. That’s because it works. Try taking a deep breath in through the nose and out through the mouth. Do this a number of times to calm your nervous system.
  3. Aromatherapy
    Lavender is a lovely essential oil to use for this exact purpose. Be careful with this one though because too much lavender can actually have the opposite effect. Remember: a little to calm, a lot toenergise.Here’s where I get most of my essences and essential oils from: http://www.spiritoflightessences.com
  4. Meditation
    This one is important because often the reason we are unable to get back to sleep is that we have all these thoughts running through our mind. Meditation can help us to control our thoughts rather than letting them run away with us and the right ones can also teach us to simply let those thoughts come and go rather than lingering in the first place.try this one: getsomeheadspace.com
  5. No Electricals
    Yep. That’s no phone, no T.V. and no computer games in the bedroom. This feeds into the routine factor. If your body is used to watching TV in bed, then you cannot expect that it will want to sleep there if you’ve spent all evening teaching it that it’s actually for being wide awake not sleeping.If you must have your phone in the bedroom at night (many people use it as an alarm clock) then put it on to airplane mode to stop the electrical signals from interfering with the electrical signals going on in your body.

The long-term effects of a lack of sleep can have dramatic effects on the body so if you’re not sleeping as well as you would like to be, then give one of the above tips a try – your body will thank you for it.