How To Get Unstuck



Getting back into the flow again can be less than easy. That’s for sure. But especially so if you’re not even sure how to get started on getting yourself unstuck.

Unstuck relates to not just feeling like you have no choice in a matter or situation but it also means stuck in a rut or stuck in a vicious cycle of anger, fear or sorrow. It’s about writer’s block, it’s about not taking action, it’s about pulling out all the stops (consciously or subconsciously) to hold yourself back.


Getting Unstuck

When I sat down to write this June article, my mind went blank.  I think I’ve already written about the metaphysical elements of illness or injury, I’m pretty sure I’ve covered what happens to your body when you’re under stress. Hmmm, what can I write about?

Staring at a blank page is scary sometimes. You know you need to write (or type) what needs to be said but sometimes, the beginning just doesn’t start regardless of how much you want to begin.

Often in life, we feel tired, frustrated and to a certain degree like there has to be something more than what we’re doing right here, right now. Or we make grand plans for something we want to do one day but somehow, the years pass by and that “one day” never comes. Much like writers block, we become blocked because on some level we like the clean fresh, empty page. It’s safe. It’s always been that way so if we don’t begin writing on it, then we can’t mess up that page, nothing can go wrong.  Except that is, that the feeling that something is missing remains. And that feeling eats away at us until all the other less than comfortable things in our life are amplified by the missing pieces.

So, how do you get unblocked?

First of all, you need to work out why you’re blocked.


What’s the worst thing that could happen as a result of you taking action towards your dream?

How would that change your life? (for better for worse? And How?)

How would this make you feel?

What’s the best thing that could happen as a result of you taking action towards your dream?

How would that change your life? (for better or for worse? And How?)

How would this make you feel?

Does this project or idea have any similarities with a past event in your life?

How did that pas situation make you feel?


Once you have honest answers to these questions (any answer is okay, by the way), you have your metaphorical ‘dam’.

Breaking the dam down and getting back into the flow again, requires you to look at your answers to the above questions and really investigate why you put that dam up to begin with. For some people it’s a reactive thing either consciously or subconsciously to some past experience that was similar and didn’t go as planned. For others, it could be the fear of the future concept map, which perpetually goes to the worst-case scenario. And sometimes, all it takes is for you to notice what your metaphorical dam is made of for you to release it. Everyone is different.

Once you’ve know what your metaphorical dam is mad of, you can chip away at it until life starts to flow again. And if it’s not flowing as you would like, it’s okay to seek out a professional who can help you to release the conscious and subconscious or energetic dam in a safe and healthy way.


3 Steps to Get Closer to Achieving Your Goals

Okay, so we’re heading into the “festive” season (some would argue that most of the stores have been there for a good few weeks now). Most people sigh when they’re reminded that Christmas is just around the corner. This is typically because somewhere deep inside us, we’re thinking “where did that year go?”, “what happened to all those things I was going to do this year?”, “Argh, I didn’t achieve any of my goals. Again.”.

As a Kinesiologist, I work with goals all day, every day. It’s often very surprising what holds us back from achieving our goals and is often not what we think it is.

Given that we’re heading towards the end of the year when most people like to set goals for the new year, I’ve put together a basic 3 step program to help get you on your way to achieving your goals in 2014.

I’m making this one available only to my newsletter subscribers so make sure you sign up now to get access to the series. The first of the series will be launching on Monday 25th November – make sure you’re on the list for success.

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