Monday Mantra:: I Take A Daily Dose of Love

Monday Mantra Daily Dose of Love

It’s so easy to dish out the negative self talk. It’s easy to have a go at ourselves for our short comings, our didn’t do’s, our “should have done”s. Yes, it is good to know where we might have improved. But it doesn’t do us good to beat ourselves up about it. If we do, we wear ourselves down. We get tired, we get emotional and we set that negative self talk into a self perpetuating cycle of self belief that we’re never good enough, or we never get it right or the classic “I always….” (insert your always, go to stance, reaction or way of being).

The fact is that to change this, we need to recognise that we’re sometimes going to get things wrong. We need to take from that any lessons we can in order to move forward and upward. And then we need to turn the perspective around and realise that more often than not, we did the best we could with the facts and details we had at the time. It’s about accepting where we were at, what we did or said and then choosing to learn from it. From there, it’s easier to begin to talk nice to yourself again.

Create yourself a gratitude jar or journal but make the topic specifically about you, yourself, your abilities, your qualities, what it is you bring into the world. That is, write something nice about yourself. You can even ask friends to contribute some nice thoughts about you too. This will be your “medicine” for self talk.

When you find yourself in a perpetual downward negative self talk cycle, prescribe yourself a daily dose of love.

Then, when you’re having a particularly down day, do a lucky dip into the jar or a random page open in a journal and see what all the lovely things are about you and allow that to begin to lift your mood and set you on the upward cycle again.

Remember, create your little jar of love notes to yourself, when you feel down, take a daily dose of love and allow it fuel your positive self talk.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

Monday Mantra:: I focus on what I want

Monday Mantra What I Want

This can be a bit of tricky one. It’s a fine balance between focusing on what isn’t there and focussing on what you want to be there.

I hear it all the time. Here are some examples:

  1. I want a relationship and I’ve been focussing on a relationship (so why I am I still single?)
  2. I want a new, fun job and I’ve been focussing on that but nothing has come yet (and until then I’m stuck in a job I don’t love)
  3. I want to lose 5kg and I’ve been focussing on the dress I want to fit into (and every time I get on those scales, and nothing has changed).

The trick is to find what you want in the future in your current situation. For example:

Invest in a relationship with yourself. Take yourself out on a date. Go out to dinner, take yourself to the movies. But go on your own because you’re developing a relationship with yourself. You could take a journal with you and ask yourself some good “get to know you” questions and write your responses. Get to know YOU.

When you go to work each day, focus on what you actually like about the job, the people, the business. Focus on what that part feels like and let that be your anchor towards what you want.

When you get on the scales after a week of exercise and good food, say to yourself, “This is feedback on how my body feels right now, in this moment of time and I can help it to feel even better”. The idea is that instead of reinforcing the thought and feeling of “Urgh, I haven’t lost any weight”, you’re reinforcing that the body will feel better and that this is only a snapshot of what it feels like now. Then when you notice a reduction in weight, say to yourself on the scales, “Great, the body is feeling better and I can help it to feel even better again.”

If your example is not above, on apiece of paper, write out what you want on the left hand side and then on the right hand side, write the rest of the sentence but….

Eg. I want more money but I keep getting more bills.

Then, work out what the positive outlook is on the “But” section and then, work out how you can make yourself feel like you already have what you want from the “what I want” section.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Pay Attention to All My Senses

Monday Mantra Attention to my senses

Sight, Taste, Touch, Sound, Smell. We use them daily. But how often do you actually pay attention to all of them?

I recently took on some focus on these senses and was amazed at some of the things in daily life I tuned out. I think sound was the most profound one of all of the senses for me. I realised that I was probably only paying attention to maybe 60% of the sounds I could hear in any one day.

The thing here is that we do actually need to tune these out in order to focus on specific tasks. But sometimes, these senses can be our best ally. If we’re able to take moments throughout our day and tune in to all of these things, we’re better equipped to really understand what’s going on around us, to really be appreciative of what we have and to really savour moments in all dimensions of our our senses.

Today, every time you stop to have a coffee or a cup of tea, pause.

Listen to the kettle boiling or the steam wand whooshing.
Listen to the clink of the tea spoon as you stir in sugar or milk.
Look at it. The colour, the smoothness of the texture, or the bubbly texture of a cappuccino.
Smell the tea or coffee. Breathe it in.
When you take a sip, taste it. Really taste it.
Then, expand that further between sips.
What taste lingers?
What else can you hear around you?
What else can you see?
What else can you smell?
Return to your cuppa and begin again.

This exercise allows you to focus on a specific sense around a specific topic and then it allows you to open that up and take everything in then brings the focus back to one topic again.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: My Own Power Empowers Others

Monday Mantra My Power Empowers

I recently attended a workshop where I felt like I was finally given the permission I needed to pull the plug on some things that were holding me back and release the things, people and situations that were making me feel frustrated and unwell. I knew I felt this way with these things but I felt guilty because I spent all this time getting to a point where I could do them, where I could help.

I knew I had permission intellectually. I knew this. But I could feel my body holding on tight to the idea that I shouldn’t feel this way about helping that I should be putting other people first.

I paraphrase here but the words I heard were something like:

Aim for Amazing. Don’t go out there and do this work without tending to your own energy first. You’ll do yourself a disservice and you’ll do your clients a disservice not to mention that you’ll do the craft a disservice because it just won’t work if your energy isn’t right.

I felt my whole body relax for the first time in a long while.

Everything about the way my body let go and released is telling me that this information had finally sunk in on the deep knowing level. It was time to begin focussing on myself first before helping others. Knowing that it’s okay to cancel clients if i’m not in the right space so as not to influence or effect their sessions is beyond powerful. I finally feel like putting myself first is the best thing to do for other people.

I asked myself a few questions (see below) and I recalled a time when I was very fit and healthy and remembered how good it felt to be clear about what I wanted and be comfortable in saying “No” to certain foods or drinks or events when I didn’t feel up to it. It felt so good to feel so self empowered.

So let me ask you this:

Where are you putting others first when you know you should be putting yourself first?

When you put others first, how does it make them feel?
When you put others first, how does it make you feel?
If it makes you feel positive, what are you getting out of it?
What kind of help or support are you really giving them? Is it full, positive, present attention? or is it half hearted, semi-present, partially positive attention because your own energy is elsewhere?

When you put yourself first, how does it make you feel?
When was the last time you put yourself first?
How did that make you feel? How did it make others feel?

How can you gather your own power and energy so that you can better help others with theirs?

My Power, Empowers!

Monday Mantra:: I Am Committed To Me.

Monday Mantra I am committed to me

I came to an awareness (or few) over the last week that has transformed my focus. Now that there is a wedding in the near future for me, I have been pondering weight loss, health and fitness more intently on a personal level. One of the key awarenesses I have gained is that when I have been at my goal health and fitness in the past, I was a strong, independent, healthy, happy, expressive woman. I was very much in my element and things went very well in all aspects of my life.

Then, when I realise that i’m so visible in that picture of health and vitality, I retreat and the weight goes back on, I start hiding from the world again. I think this has been because on some level I was doing it all for those around me (not because they asked me to but because on some level it was about seeking external approval). This time round, I will have Kinesiology on my side (first session today on this very topic) and will be able to work through what ever is triggered in me when I get to that visible stage. And committing to yourself is not selfish, in fact, if you commit to yourself, you’re in so much of a better position, both physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually to be there for others, so you’re really doing them a favour by putting yourself first.

This time round, I am committed to MYSELF. To my health, to my fitness, to eating well and to MY time. I am committed to saying no when it needs to be said, to put myself first. I am committed to working through all levels of my being to get to my authentic self because I know that these levels are intricately entwined. I am committed to becoming the strong, fit and healthy woman I know I can be.

I am committed to me.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: There is joy in the vision

Monday Mantra There is joy in the vision

We all begin a new venture, a new job, a dream, a new holiday by envisioning what the end result will be. We see success, relaxation, enjoyment and fun.

What often happens is that the pursuit of the dream becomes tiresome, it starts to feel like a have to, rather than a want to and we begin to feel frustrated and disillusioned by the process of getting to where we want to be.

Here’s the thing. We forget that there is joy in the vision. We shift our focus on to the details (which does have to happen in order to make these things happen) and we forget to hold the vision of the result we’re looking to achieve.

This is where vision boards are so handy. They remind us of the grand plan, the feelings, the experiences, the end result we’re striving to achieve. Today, I’m going to stop a few times throughout my day and imagine my vision and what it will feel like when I’m there. What’s one thing you can do for yourself today that will remind you of the joy in your vision?

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Choose to Support Myself

Monday Mantra I Choose To Support Myself

People are amazing. They can be so positive, so encouraging and supporting. Unfortunately, we tend to show this support to everyone around us, sometimes going above and beyond to show it and yet we do not offer the same compassion to ourselves.

Instead, we talk down to ourselves, we say things to ourselves that we would not say to a friend who needed encouragement, we hold ourselves back from opportunities, we step away from self care, we beat ourselves up over situations that could not have been helped, we tell ourselves we could have done better, we tell ourselves that we should be doing something else, or we shouldn’t be doing something. We judge ourselves and belittle ourselves right when we need to be own best friend and offer words of encouragement and support.

If we don’t support ourselves, if we don’t back ourselves, if we don’t believe in ourselves, then we reinforce the feelings like no-one supports us, no-one backs us and that no-one believes in us and eventually, the people around us will begin to prove our own perception.

If you change your perception of yourself, begin supporting yourself, your abilities and believe in yourself, then eventually, the people around us will begin to prove that perception and support you too.

I know which one I’d like to choose. I choose to support myself.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Choose To See The Best in Myself

Monday Mantra I Choose To See The Best In Myself I have a great number of clients who are completely oblivious to their fabulous qualities. Qualities like generous, like calm, like decisive, qualities like actually being willing to try new things (including new modalities). They all say things like “I shouldn’t have done that” or “I should have chosen to do this” or “that was a bad decision”. The truth is that we are all human. We all makes choices for ourselves with the information we have on hand at any given point in time. We cannot presume to know what each choice will give us or take from us.

What we do have a choice over, is how we see ourselves and how we talk to ourselves about these decisions. Instead of saying “I shouldn’t have chosen to do that, that was a stupid choice”, think about it more carefully. Did you do the right thing at the time with the information you had? and if not, look at why you chose it – maybe you were at a point where you were willing to try anything to get healthy again (that’s an honourable place to be – some people just give up, you chose to keep trying).

All we need to do sometimes is take step back and look at the situation from another perspective. It’s okay to make decisions that lead you down the garden path, you’re human (as we all are) but how you choose to see the path, how you choose to talk to yourself about that choice will make all the difference to what you find at the end of your path. Today, lets begin by choosing to see the best in ourselves. The best in our decisions, the best in our body, the best in our intellect and the best in our qualities. This will have a flow on effect in your life, your body and those around you.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Align Myself and My Life with My Dreams

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So 2015 is very near. Like many people, I have begun to determine what I want from 2015. There are a few items that have been on my “to do” list for the last 12 months and there are others that have sprung to mind only very recently and I’m working on packaging them all up together to create an amazing 2015.

The best way to get clear about what you want from 2015 is simply to grab a blank piece of paper & pen, a whiteboard & marker or a new, fresh Word document and begin typing. It doesn’t matter if it seems trivial, if you want it, write it. It doesn’t matter of it seems too far fetched, if you want it, write it down. Write out all the things you want, the places you want to see, the people you want to meet, the money you want to attract, the books you want to read, list it all.

Of these, which are the most important to you?

When you think about these, is there anything that might get in your way? (Your “What if’s”)

When you think about these, what else comes to mind about how you can achieve it?

Write your most important items out and put them somewhere you’ll see them often. This will act as a reminder of what’s important to you in 2015. If something is going to draw you further away from these important things, then feel free to say “no” to the offer, request or invitation. If something is going to draw you closer to your important things, then shout “Yes!” to any request, invitation or offer that will draw you closer to your most important items for 2015.

Align yourself and your life with your dreams and you’ll find it much more smoother sailing.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Need more assistance in aligning yourself and your life with your dreams? Why not book a Kinesiology session and release some blocks that might be standing in your way.

Monday Mantra:: I Choose to Feel Good

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I find myself getting worked up at having to run here and there throughout November and December. I sometimes get frustrated at feeling like I am never home, feeling like people take advantage of the holiday season and use it for an excuse to drink and fill our calendars with social events we can’t fit into our schedules. When I’m at my peak of frustration though, it’s usually about then that I “give up” and just go with the flow and enjoy whichever social occasion I’m at. But to be honest, that “giving up” is not what it seems to be. It’s actually a choice to feel good about the situation and a choice I could have made much earlier on in the piece.

The Human Super Power of Choice is one which gets forgotten way too quickly and way too easily.

Everyone has the power to choose. What to wear today, which way to go to work, what to have for lunch etc. We also have the power to choose what kind of life we want, what career we would like and how we respond to what life sends our way.

So, that means that you can choose to feel good while holiday shopping and you can choose to feel good while heading out to yet another holiday gathering. You can choose to not attend all of the social events. You can choose to attend them all. You can choose to do only the fun things if you wish. Change your holiday Have To’s into some Holiday Choose To’s today and see what difference it makes to your holiday season.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.