Monday Mantra:: I Choose to Listen to My Inner Voice

Monday Mantra I Choose To Listen to my inner voice

This one is not an easy one for some. It’s not even an easy one for those who are well versed in listening to their inner voice. We tend to get off track and follow what others think and profess to be the “truth” or fact or the best way forward.

When comes to our inner voice (i.e.; Intuition, Inner Guide or Higher Self, Gut Instinct etc) we tend to allow other people to override it with their opinions because we worry that we might be wrong, that might be perceived as being “away with the fairies” or that because there seems to be no logic to it, we haven’t agonised over the decision enough, that the answer cannot be that simple.

The thing is that the more we trust and follow this inner voice, the more it will guide us.

I come across so many people who are easily swayed by the opinions of those around them. I am also quick to get my clients to tap into what works for them, not what I think they should be doing or what is right for them. The only person who knows what is right for them is themselves. The only person who knows what’s right for you, is you.

So the next time you feel like you’re being pulled in many directions by the opinions of others, consider getting in touch with your Inner Voice and see what the best answer for you really is. Sit still, in a quiet space with your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths in and out and ask for guidance on the best way forward. It may come as a feeling, it may come as an instant thought of the best way forward or it may come later in the day or week as a series of signs (words, numbers, themes of conversation, “coincidences” etc).

Choose to listen to your inner voice.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

 

Photosynthesis – Reaching for the Light

Reach for the light Dana Atkin Kinesiology

 

Amazing things, trees. They begin as a seed, packed deep beneath the earth’s surface. Slowly, they are fed and nurtured and eventually, they break through the barrier of soil and pop out into the open air where they are greeted with rain, sunshine and wind. And no matter the weather, they are constantly growing. Ever building, ever-changing, ever reaching for the light. For it’s the light that helps them grow – it’s the light that keeps them moving upward. Even in storms, the light can cast over them in such a way that makes them look majestic. Their leaves even sparkle with the rain.

When you next feel like the world is not so great, like your day has been less than fabulous and you’re not sure how many more storms you can weather. Consider making like a tree and reaching for the light. The lighter thoughts, the lighter feelings, being lighter on yourself and being lighter on those around you. simply seeking out the light can make a world of difference in your life and it can literally make you grow and move you onward and upward. There are new birds to sing with, new shelter for you to give and new life to give. All you need to do is make a conscious choice to look for all the light filled things, people and situations in your life and things will naturally grow bigger, better and brighter for the more light you reach for, the more light you’ll see.

 

 

The power of words

Funny how a word can be ‘everyday’ or perceived as mundane until we look at it, hear it, really feel it and then suddenly it takes on a life of its own.

Words have always been a passion of mine. I used to keep a little notebook of words I loved the feeling of.

  • Audacity
  • Gumption
  • Eloquence
  • Radiance

These were among the many, many words I collated.

2014 brought some words to me that now mean more to me, more intensely, more intimately. They include:

  • Family
  • Tradition
  • Marriage
  • Husband
  • Wife
  • Sparkles

It probably sums up 2014 well and yet it doesn’t even begin to express it fully either. It was big in so very many ways.

As part of stepping into the new year, I have been looking for a word (or few) to sit with my chosen focus and intention for 2015, Fun.

Many words are floating in and around that word but at the core of each is Fun. I want this year to be fun in all areas of life.

In my focus for this, I know that part of enjoying my year is also about learning even more about myself. One item that has suddenly come to me is Words. If I LOVE words, then

  • Why am I not using them?
  • Why am I not writing the rest of this book I’m writing?
  • Why do I hold back my words when they need to be said (for everyone’s benefit, not just mine)?

And then this came across my path today:

“The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.”
– Elizabeth Cady Stanton

Cue tears of resonance!

Needless to say, the word ‘Words’ is now sitting pretty next to my Fun. I intend to infuse fun into 2015 and I intend to speak my words as they arise, more freely, more openly.

And just for good measure, I’ve started a 2015 playlist of tunes to help remind me often of my intentions, for a little fun, some reminders to get into action mode and some to remind me of who I really am. Here’s a pic of what I have so far of this playlist. It includes some obvious ones, also includes a couple for pure fun (i.e.; Jukebox in Siberia):

2015 Spotify Dana Atkin Fun and Words plus
Next on my list is a 2015 Intention Movie – watch this space…

Out With The Old, In With The New: Welcoming 2015

Okay, so now that we’ve worked on releasing 2014 (see yesterday’s post here on releasing 2014), let’s welcome in 2015.

Normally, people set New Years Resolutions. They resolve to take certain actions or achieve certain outcomes on a very practical level. What we’re going to do is set a New Year Intention. This intention can be a word, a feeling, a learning you’d like you achieve, whatever works for you. But it’s important to infuse the intention with a feeling. If it’s highly emotive, it’s more likely to stick.

What would you like to welcome into your life in 2015?

One of my Words and Intentions for 2015 is to have FUN! I realised recently that can tend to focus too much on the doing of work and the seriousness of life, not enough of the being– too many self appointed “have to’s” and not enough self appointed “want to’s”.

That said, It is also my intention to infuse fun into work too. Why should ‘work’ be anything but fun? And life can certainly be more fun if we choose it to be.

Okay, so answer each of these questions (I’ve added some example answers to show you how it might look):

1. What qualities are you going to infuse 2015 with?

honesty, openness, courageousness

2. What would you like to have happen in 2015?

Buy our first home

2. How would you like to feel in 2015?

Joy, relaxed, excited

Putting them together into a sentence or intention would look a little like this:

In 2015, It is my intention to look for things to feel excited and joyful about in buying a home where we feel open and relaxed.

There are no right or wrongs in the process. The idea is to get as many feeling words into your intention as you can so that the intention is more likely to be the forefront of your heart and mind.

Intentions can be great ways to begin your day too – when you get up on the 1st of January (whatever time that may be for you) set an intention for your day. Even if it’s as simple as “I intend to feel relaxed by the end of the day”

It can also be good to write your word/intention for the year somewhere you’ll see it often as a constant conscious and subconscious reminder of what to look for in 2015.

As the new year rings in say this:

“I release 2014 with love and I welcome 2015 with love, fun and prosperity” (use whichever words feel right for welcoming into your 2015.

a few other helpful articles:

I Align Myself and My Life with My Dreams
Don’t Think…Feel (And Then think)
A perceived small change can have a big impact

Happy New, Fun, Joyful and Prosperous Year!

Out with Old, In With The New: Releasing 2014

Welcome to part one of a two part post (next one is tomorrow) on how to release 2014 so that you move forward into a new, fresh, vibrant new year with passion and eagerness.

Reflecting on our year is vital. It’s important in acknowledging the not so great things as well as the lovely things. It’s a reminder that each and every year has it’s ups and downs but ultimately, it’s about choosing to see it from a learning perspective. It’s also about helping us to move forward into a new year with a new perspective. Here are a few questions to get you started (I’ve answered them myself to give you an idea of how it works):

What happened this year that you could have dealt with better?

For me, this was about a few things. Namely, I could have been better at saying ‘No’ and I certainly could have been better at letting other people’s stress not affect my own sense of security. Just because people around me are concerned and stressed, it doesn’t mean that I too have to feel that way. I can choose to support them without taking it on for them.

What happened this year that you totally rocked at?

One of the things I worked on this year is my fear of flying and I took my longest flight to date to Thailand where I got to enjoy a fabulous holiday for my efforts. I was even pretty calm about being on a plane for so long.

What was the best thing that happened for you this year?

For me, this was definitely my beloveds proposal. After 12 years together, it was a beautiful surprise and I can’t wait to become his wife.

What did you learn this year that you can take forward into 2015?

I learnt that with faith, all things are possible. It might not seem like and easy thing to achieve and at times, it may seem impossible, but with dedication of mind, body and spirit towards your dreams, it’s totally possible.

Sum this learning up in one word: Possibilities!

Have a think about the above questions today and then tomorrow, I’m going to help you to set some intentions for 2015.

Your Dream Is Worth The Risk

I get to meet some pretty amazing people in my line of work. They don’t always know it but they are amazing, loving, generous and kind people. They’re people who want to chase their dreams. They dream of their own business, they dream of finding their purpose and they dream of being confident, of being calm and of being true to themselves. Their dreams are important to them and their dreams are inspiring to people like myself. Once in a while though, I come across someone who is inspiring on a whole new level. And not because of what they may have been through or because of what they want to accomplish but simply in the fact that they’ve come to me for help with their dream.

The thing with dreams is that we tend to feel like it’s a scary or risky thing to pour ourselves into our dream and it can be. Here are two of my favourite things (one quote, one poem which was read out at my year seven graduation in fact) around risk:

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud, became more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
– Anais Nin

 

Risk

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because
the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing,
does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.
Chained by his servitude he is a slave
who has forfeited all freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

– William Arthur Ward

So while it is scary to put yourself out there for your dream (whatever your dream is) there’s always a way to get there or to move towards it and if you’re not moving towards it yet, it’s also okay to be where you’re at until you’re ready for the next step.

So what about your dream? Is there anything holding you back from achieving your dream? Ask yourself if it’s worth the risk. Remember that a life of what if’s works both ways. What if you fail? but oh.. what if you succeed!?

The Cycle of Change: Anger

The Cycle of Change Anger Kinesiology Dana Atkin

The Cycle of Change: Anger

Following on from last months cycle of change article about denial, the next stage of change and grief is anger. Now remember that these stages don’t just relate to grief in the traditional sense. You can grieve an old way of being because change can be scary and to let a part of ourselves go (a habit, a look, a space) can cause us to go through the grief cycle.

Anger is the space where we get angry at the people around us, at the inanimate objects around us (printers, kitchen cupboards that squeak, chairs etc). Sometimes though, what we’re really angry at is not the other person or the object. Sometimes, we’re angry at ourselves. And it depends on what cycle of change we’re going through as to why we are angry at ourselves.

Take weight loss for example, sometimes people can be angry at themselves for letting themselves get to that point, in the case of changing career, we can get angry at ourselves for not following our heart sooner.

Anger is an emotion that is what we like to call the presenting emotion. It’s not necessarily the actual emotion in that it is often a culmination of other emotions that haven’t quite been dealt with yet. Because it’s often a pent-up emotion, it tends to “explode” and we feel like it comes out of nowhere.

Anger can be taxing on the body, mind and spirit. It’s a heavy thing to carry around with us and it causes the body physical stress too because of all the stress hormones circulating in response to our constant state of stress.

Consider how you tend to respond to stress.

  1. Do you typically run and hide? Or
  2. Do you tend to go into fighting mode? Or
  3. Do you freeze, much like a deer in headlights?

Based on your answer to the above, that is also your answer to how to diffuse your anger.

If you tend to go into flight mode, get walking or running to work it out of your legs. If you tend to go into fight mode, then take up a boxing class to get the pent-up energy out of your arms. If you’re freeze person, try meditation to calm to centre you.

If you tend to go into a little of each then try a little of each of the above techniques. It’s all about getting the energy to shift out of the body in a way that is comfortable for you and your body’s natural stress response.

Once the anger clears, then you’ll feel much calmer and clearer to deal with the next phase of letting go.

Stay tuned for next Month’s article in the Cycle of Change Series about Bargaining & Depression.

A Queen Is Wise

A Queen is Wise Marianne Williamson Dana Atkin Kinesiology

Every time I read or recite this quote, I get something new from it. It moves me at a different line each time. This quote has become for me, a mantra, something to aspire to, something to absorb, to learn on all levels.

She rules with authentic power – this is perhaps the most encouraging of all the lines. We all know that power can be a very emotive and attractive thing so why not be true to you and rule your kingdom with authentic power. Being true to who you are is a common theme for a lot of my clients and it is not necessarily an easy thing to do. We’re trained from so young to not be ourselves, to sensor ourselves, to change what we look like, how we dress, what we enjoy doing just to fit in, to be loved and accepted. Yes, it’s totally a personal perception that we may not be loved for who we really are but (and it’s been said by thousands of those before us) if we love ourselves for who we really are, then we become that vision, we become the ruler of our kingdom and we do indeed rule with authentic power.

The Cycle of Change: Denial

The Cycle of Change Denial Kinesiology Dana Atkin

The Cycle of Change: Denial

Change can be difficult for many people. Even our biology, our body is hardwired for survival. And because we’ve survived up until now with things exactly the way they have always been, then why should we change anything, right?

There is a process that we all go through with every change. We tend to resist it because of our built in survival mechanism. We fight it because we worry that if we change one thing, then maybe other things will change, leaving us powerless.

Sometimes change is thrust upon us and sometimes we choose to change wether consciously or subconsciously. Every change, regardless of how it comes about goes through a series of common steps. Including Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance and Letting Go. In this month’s article, I’m going to talk about the first step, Denial.

Often, the denial step is missed because it usually comes before the desire to change has been realised. We deny there is any problem with the current situation (be it weight, work. home or health etc) and we continue with things the way they are, often looking for other, not so healthy ways to satisfy the unfulfilled circumstance.

Our inability to recognise that something needs to change is frustrating to not only ourselves but also for those who love us. Then, when those we love speak up about the issue at hand, we get defensive because it’s true and we’re not ready to face it, or change it.

Consider this. Where in life have you been feeling defensive lately? Could your defensive approach to the situation be because on some level, there’s an element of truth to what the other person is saying? Is it something you’re willing to work through now? If not, write it down somewhere so that when the time comes, you have a beginning point.

Stay tuned for the next stage in the cycle of change, Anger.

Becoming Queen Of My Realm

“A queen is wise. She has earned her serenity, not having had it bestowed on her but having passed her tests. She has suffered and grown more beautiful because of it. She has proved she can hold her kingdom together. She has become its vision. She cares deeply about something bigger than herself. She rules with authentic power.” 
― Marianne Williamson
Something stirred in me when I heard this quote. And it still continues to give tingles and well up with resonating tears every time I read it, say it out loud or hear it spoken again. It has something for me. It speaks to me.
This quote is from a book by Marianne Williamson, A Woman’s Worth. While I have not read it, it is on the top of my “next to read” list purely because of this quote.
So while I have not entirely let it all immerse into me, I have begun to work on my realm, to immerse myself within it. I have decided that while I build my kingdom, I will treat every realm I come into contact with as my own and as an opportunity to be my authentic self, to hold that kingdom together as best I can while I am in it and to always keep my eye on my vision, on that something bigger than myself because ultimately, that is my realm.