What Might It Mean? :: Laces Coming Undone

Laces coming undone meaning

Laces keep coming undone on your Right Shoe, for no particular reason?

Have you considered that they may be trying to tell you something about your thoughts and emotions?

Think about where you are considering “stepping out” or “moving forward” in life and then think about where the fear is – where are you worried that you might “come undone”?.

Now, what can you do to mitigate that risk?
What will make you feel secure in moving forward with that idea?

The Chameleon Effect

chameleon-unknown

A chameleon is recognised for it’s unique ability to blend into its surroundings. It is a natural survival skill of the creature. As human beings, we see this quality as a benefit. The ability to adapt to any environment and blend in can be useful in many situations but does it do more harm than good?

I personally have been a chameleon for most of my life, ever since I can remember I have blended into the crowd, taking on their qualities. A fun crowd? I’m a fun person. A quiet, subdued crowd? I’m a subdued person.

It was only recently that I discovered that what I thought was a great tool; a unique skill to have was in fact holding me back. It was keeping me invisible and It was helping me to play small. It was a disguise for fear.

If a chameleon changes it’s self to blend in for survival, then what am I trying to survive? What is the benefit of blending in? As it turns out, for me, this was about not being judged for being my true self. I had a limiting belief in my subconscious form early childhood that was on repeat in my mind when it came to crowds which said, “I can’t be myself and be accepted”. Whoa! So instead of being my authentic self, I would become someone else entirely just to be accepted. I was trying to survive judgment and non-acceptance.

As a Kinesiologist, I have had many sessions around the issue of judgment and I am always helping people to understand that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about you. What they think about you is their own “stuff” coming out of them. It has nothing to do with you. So it was nice to understand what this feels like at a really deep level that actually spanned essentially my entire life!

Two points here:

We are all human. Even your practitioners are human – they have sore muscles, nutrition imbalances, out worn belief patterns to work through. No one is immune to upgrade.

Being our authentic self makes us more powerful within ourselves. It means we can work towards honoring our self, honoring what we desire, what we feel, what we value. And in doing so, we can let go of the “chameleon effect” because when we honor our authentic self, there’s no need to disguise because the power that comes from authenticity is second to none.

Ask yourself, where am I being a chameleon? What am I trying to survive in that space / situation? How can I be more myself and feel safe next time?

Find little ways to be more you. Add make up, add a piece of jewellery that says “this is who I am”, keep a crystal in your pocket as a reminder to be more open about who you really are. Little steps will add up and before you know it, you’ll have dropped that disguise and the chameleon effect.

Why you need to trust your instincts when looking for a health practitioner

I’ve come across a few lovely clients who have quite literally been put through the ringer by some people who have posed themselves as the be all and end all in the health and wellness world. Being confident in your profession is one thing, but arrogance and disregard for the health and wellbeing of others who put their trust in you is quite another. It’s incredibly frustrating that there are practitioners out there that call themselves “healers” but put clients in a holding pattern of fear (which by the way is often an emotional precursor to all the reasons that people go to see practitioners for in the first place). These clients are now at a point that they don’t know who to trust anymore. They’ve even gone against their own instincts so they’re not sure they can even trust themselves.

A practitioner who claims to be the “be all and end all” in their profession is troublesome for a number of reasons.

Firstly, there is no singular remedy, modality or practitioner who can be the answer to all of your concerns and in fact, it very often takes a complimentary, team approach. What works for me, may not work for you. We are indeed all individuals and what makes us unique also means that we each require a unique remedy. (I personally have a Remedial Massage Therapist, a Kinesiologist and a Chiropractor as my basic life/health care team. I then add and remove as required in order to be in the best possible shape for myself and my clients. This includes Doctors, Dentists, Acupuncturists etc – there is a place for each of these for me).

Secondly, if we presume to be the only person who can help someone, then we inadvertently hurt them by possibly holding them back from another practitioner who may have the last piece, or indeed the right piece of the puzzle for them. It is irresponsible. We are all human and we are all susceptible to life’s stresses so we cannot ever proclaim to be the master of any one way of being other than being human. That said, if we are not willing to do the work we set for our clients, then we are certainly in no position to ask them to do what we ask. Walking the walk, not just talking the talk. (I personally see a kinesiologist once per month, every month to work on my ‘stuff’).

This point also cultivates fear in the client as well as the practitioner. It is unfair to inflict fear upon anyone who is seeking assistance from us. It sets the client back, the client and the practitioner both begin to act out of fear. What we infuse often breeds somewhere within us. It is far better that a client receives the results they’re looking for and experience beyond their expectations – that, my fellow practitioners is how you create word of mouth. There is only an abundance of people you can assist so why only help one or two when you could help so many more? A client should never be only “yours”.

As a client, if you feel uneasy, unsure or if something just doesn’t feel right about the practitioner, the modality or the results you are getting (or not getting) you have every right to:

1. Ask your practitioner about any concerns you have around the results.
2. Walk away at any given point (note: some practitioners, such as kinesiologists, will only allow you leave mid-session if you are in a safe, healthy, calm state of mind to do so, it is our duty of care)
3. Not continue with your initial session if, once you’ve had the process explained to you, you’ve changed your mind.
4. To ask questions throughout all sessions if you don’t understand what is being said to you. (note: all good practitioners will only be too happy to explain things to you – we love sharing our passion)

This goes for practitioners and clients alike. Above all, trust your instincts and your own opinions. Never let someone else’s opinion overshadow your own. You know your body better than anyone else, your body knows what it needs to heal it’s self and it will either give you clear signs to steer away or it will give you clear signs that you’re on the right path. Trust your instincts, listen to you.

Signs from the universe: A Higher Love

A Higher Love Signs from the Universe The universe speaks to us all if we choose to listen. I had the most amazing chain of signs this morning and they all felt like they were orchestrated just for me. Walking down the street, running some errands, I see a piece of concrete in the shape of a heart. In the post office, the attendant who was helping me with some express post envelopes – completely out of nowhere, for no reason whatsoever, very left field tangent – shows me the latest issue stamps for valentines day (see picture). Then, while I’m writing out my express post envelope, the radio begins to play Steve Winwood’s Higher Love! Hellooo Up There! I love you too… 🙂 What signs are you receiving loud and clear?

Monday Mantra:: I Am Open To Fun Opportunities

Monday Mantra I Am Open To Fun Opportunities

Okay, so this mantra is all about being open. This one in particular is about being open to fun opportunities. I want new opportunities the year but I want them to be FUN!

My personal word for the year is Fun. It’s all about infusing fun into life. What’s your word for the year?

In order to infuse fun into life, I’ve realised (thanks to a 12 month year ahead oracle reading I did for myself) that I’m great at setting intentions but when it comes to being open and allowing myself to receive, I need more practice.

With the Monday Mantra above, use the beginning and then insert your own word of the year or intention. Here are some examples:

I am Open To Joyous Opportunities

I am Open To Radiant Opportunities

I am Open to Opportunities to Soar

I am Open to New Opportunities

What kinds of opportunities are you looking to invite into your life in 2015?

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

The power of words

Funny how a word can be ‘everyday’ or perceived as mundane until we look at it, hear it, really feel it and then suddenly it takes on a life of its own.

Words have always been a passion of mine. I used to keep a little notebook of words I loved the feeling of.

  • Audacity
  • Gumption
  • Eloquence
  • Radiance

These were among the many, many words I collated.

2014 brought some words to me that now mean more to me, more intensely, more intimately. They include:

  • Family
  • Tradition
  • Marriage
  • Husband
  • Wife
  • Sparkles

It probably sums up 2014 well and yet it doesn’t even begin to express it fully either. It was big in so very many ways.

As part of stepping into the new year, I have been looking for a word (or few) to sit with my chosen focus and intention for 2015, Fun.

Many words are floating in and around that word but at the core of each is Fun. I want this year to be fun in all areas of life.

In my focus for this, I know that part of enjoying my year is also about learning even more about myself. One item that has suddenly come to me is Words. If I LOVE words, then

  • Why am I not using them?
  • Why am I not writing the rest of this book I’m writing?
  • Why do I hold back my words when they need to be said (for everyone’s benefit, not just mine)?

And then this came across my path today:

“The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.”
– Elizabeth Cady Stanton

Cue tears of resonance!

Needless to say, the word ‘Words’ is now sitting pretty next to my Fun. I intend to infuse fun into 2015 and I intend to speak my words as they arise, more freely, more openly.

And just for good measure, I’ve started a 2015 playlist of tunes to help remind me often of my intentions, for a little fun, some reminders to get into action mode and some to remind me of who I really am. Here’s a pic of what I have so far of this playlist. It includes some obvious ones, also includes a couple for pure fun (i.e.; Jukebox in Siberia):

2015 Spotify Dana Atkin Fun and Words plus
Next on my list is a 2015 Intention Movie – watch this space…

Out with Old, In With The New: Releasing 2014

Welcome to part one of a two part post (next one is tomorrow) on how to release 2014 so that you move forward into a new, fresh, vibrant new year with passion and eagerness.

Reflecting on our year is vital. It’s important in acknowledging the not so great things as well as the lovely things. It’s a reminder that each and every year has it’s ups and downs but ultimately, it’s about choosing to see it from a learning perspective. It’s also about helping us to move forward into a new year with a new perspective. Here are a few questions to get you started (I’ve answered them myself to give you an idea of how it works):

What happened this year that you could have dealt with better?

For me, this was about a few things. Namely, I could have been better at saying ‘No’ and I certainly could have been better at letting other people’s stress not affect my own sense of security. Just because people around me are concerned and stressed, it doesn’t mean that I too have to feel that way. I can choose to support them without taking it on for them.

What happened this year that you totally rocked at?

One of the things I worked on this year is my fear of flying and I took my longest flight to date to Thailand where I got to enjoy a fabulous holiday for my efforts. I was even pretty calm about being on a plane for so long.

What was the best thing that happened for you this year?

For me, this was definitely my beloveds proposal. After 12 years together, it was a beautiful surprise and I can’t wait to become his wife.

What did you learn this year that you can take forward into 2015?

I learnt that with faith, all things are possible. It might not seem like and easy thing to achieve and at times, it may seem impossible, but with dedication of mind, body and spirit towards your dreams, it’s totally possible.

Sum this learning up in one word: Possibilities!

Have a think about the above questions today and then tomorrow, I’m going to help you to set some intentions for 2015.

WHOLE-istic Wellness

I went for a run this morning. And there in the park, were a group of dogs out and about for puppy school. They were all running around like crazy – just like the dog above. They were loving the sense of freedom, exuding joy and all round, having fun. I believe that this is what Kinesiology can create for people.

Like the dog on the lead, we all conform to what society expects of us. We let out fears, our doubts and others opinions of what is or is not possible to hold us back whether we know it or not. But as soon as that leash is released, life gets fun. Life gets joyful and we find a sense of freedom we secretly longed for because it was there all along, we just didn’t allow ourselves to really feel it.

Are you living a life unleashed?

I’m in the middle of writing a book about what I believe wholistic wellness is all about.

Yes, I’ve spelt it correctly.
It’s WHOLE-istic wellness not
HOLE-istic wellness – we are whole beings, not empty ones.

I know with every fibre of my being that this is what I am here for. To teach on a global scale, what wellness really is beyond the physical and nutritional elements. It’s much deeper than that and it’s so much more expansive than that.