Monday Mantra:: I enjoy the space between

Enjoy the space between DanaAtkin.com

Where are you now? Where do you want to be? What’s stopping you from enjoying the space between the two places?

It’s easy to get lost in the striving, in the working, in the doing. When you have a goal or life situation in mind and you’re spending all your time focussing on it, it can easily become the be all and end all of your life. It can lead you into frustration because you want to be there. Now.  And each time you’re reminded that you aren’t there yet, you fall into the “I’m a failure” mind set a little further.

Someone asked me a question recently which became a catalyst for change. The questions was “What do you love to do?”. I said, run, paint, write and I had to stop the conversation there because it dawned on me that I had not done anything of what I love for quite some time now because I had been all consumed with another goal. And each time I was reminded that I hadn’t achieved that goal yet, I would let go of something I loved to put more focus on this thing that I was working towards which would actually make me feel worse, not better.

Here’s the lucky penny that dropped. If I stopped focussing on where I want to be and put a little more focus on what I love doing, more focus on right here and now, then when I’m confronted about my major goal, instead of feeling like a failure, I could lean on the things that bring me joy so as not to fall down the rabbit hole of self doubt.

I’ve chosen instead to enjoy the space between where I am and where I want to be.

 

Making Space

doorways

When you want something, when you’re calling it in, and doing all the “right things” and that something is not coming your way, perhaps it’s because there’s not enough room for it to be in your realm.

Making space could mean finding space physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially, energetically etc. There’s more than one way to make space for something new. A little creativity goes a long way and once you find just the right spot where you can make space, the universe is able to fill it with that new something you’re looking for.

As per the old adage, as one door closes, another opens, sometimes, letting go of one thing actually means inviting something else in.

 

Thank You & You’re Welcome

They’re small phrases that sit front of mind for me often these days.

You see, I’ve been doing some work in customer service recently and I’ve become aware that there is a large number of people out there who think that if they thrown a tantrum, make threats to leave or not recommend someone that they’ll get what they want. They’ll be pandered to and be showered with gifts for their efforts. But why should we reward this behaviour?

I’ve seen the opposite side too. The people whose experiences were beyond comprehension and yet they remain calm and measured and understand that sometimes, these things happen. They don’t expect anything in return and they are grateful for the assistance we can provide.

I’ve seen how customer service representatives on the front line, in-person and over the phone do all that they can to help, only to be met with attitudes of expectation and “You owe me” language.

What we forget sometimes, if we’re having a bad day, or we’re just grumpy that they may well be genuinely trying to help. They may be adhering as best they can to the policies they are meant to stick to while bending over backwards trying to get the best outcome and we lash out. How does that help anyone? If we lash out, we get angry and fuel our own anger which doesn’t make us feel better, it makes us feel worse.

The same goes the other way around too.

I’m not saying you should just accept poor service, not at all. But be clear about what is reasonable and what is not. Be clear when it’s really the company’s fault or their their third party’s fault. Be clear that it may not be the fault of the person in front of you, on the line or in chat – they did not necessarily personally cause the issues you experienced so why hold them personally responsible?

Expressing your frustration need not be an excuse to treat someone badly or to not acknowledge their assistance in any way, shape or form. In fact, it can be easy to express it with dignity for both yourself and the person assisting you.

The point is to remember that we’re all human. So simple manners like please, thank you and you’re welcome should be staples in our vocabulary. We definitely should not be rewarding inappropriate behaviour from fellow humans. We should be treating one another with respect and we should be using our manners. And our reward for that should be our own sense that we have done good in the world by treating people as human beings.

Here’s a simple rule: If you want good service, use good manners.

 

 

 

Purpose & Pursuit: Hold Still & Allow It

Cape Otway Lighthouse trail

On honeymoon recently, we stopped in to check out the lighthouse at Cape Otway. At first, it was any lighthouse attraction. Then, as the time went past, I realised there was more going on there from an energetic perspective (predominantly for myself) but there was also a lesson there that I’d like to share with you.

This tourist attraction had a small “park like” attraction set. A walk where you could find information on the area and it’s uses over the years. These included a Dinosaur hut with information on dinosaurs in Australia. A signalling station where the first telegraph line was set up between the mainland and Tasmania, a little mystery with a missing pilot who disappeared after reporting an craft that was “not an aircraft” hovering above him. A lighthouse, a cafe (with surprisingly good coffee) and a world war two radar dugout.

To set this up, I need to also explain that I somehow felt connected here. I saw trees along the way that were “dead” to the naked eye yet alive with energy. I somehow felt like I was meant to be there. As this post continues, I’ve put words in italics where there was a deeper message for me in this tourist attraction.

The dinosaurs at the time, was not my thing. I realise now that this was a little more meaningful symbolically as “Ancient” or “Primal“.

The signal station immediately had me guarding my energy without me even consciously thinking about it – I was just doing it. And the sound of morse code ticking in the background creeped me out. The signal somehow was instilling fear. In one of the rooms there was a piece on a young girl that jumped out at me and then in one of the rooms that smelt intensely of Frankincense, I could sense a woman in the spirit world, sitting in the corner sipping her tea. It was like me knowing she was there was our little secret. An interesting interaction.

Then came the information piece about the missing pilot who disappeared under mysterious circumstances. The mystery and the unknown.

Next was the light house. It was still in it’s raw way. The way it was built. Nothing fancy added other than a lick of paint or two. It was what it was. It still is what it is. It’s a lighthouse. It hasn’t become anything else to please the tourists who visit there daily, it has always been it’s self and there to full fill it’s purpose. To light the shore, to guide the ships that pass by.  Hold still at your core and you become a beacon for guidance to find you.

Now the dug out. While it seems to be all about war, for me it was about the word ‘radar’. A way of being in tune with what surrounds us. And the viewing lens was a reminder that perspective is always key. That by focusing on where we’re at right now doesn’t mean that all our wants and desires are not there, in fact, they are there, we just need to look further, look deeper, within, not outside of ourselves.

Then on the final little trial back to the beginning, was a spot that beckoned me to take a photo (which I’ve included above). It just felt magical, like a fairy garden. This was all about following the impulses of intuition.

Ultimately, this expedition was a lesson in mindfulness (which is perfect timing for my SoMM learnings). It was all about being where you are, being present and mindful and knowing that when you’re in that space, all mysteries open up to us and we can be more accurately guided and therefore in a better, more “still” position in which to hear that guidance and take inspired action when it calls.

 

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Belinda Davidson's School of the Modern Mystic starts September 29th!

Human Too: The Never Ending Onion

Never Ending Onion Human Too

I often have clients come in and when they explain what’s going on, I know instinctively what they need in terms of a goal to work with in their Kinesiology session. They often wonder how I am so wise to know exactly what they need and how I know so much about everything their body is going through.

Here’s how I know. I’m human too.

Yes, I’ve done lots of work on myself and it may appear like I’ve got it all together but I still find myself working on old issues that I feel like I’ve been working on forever. It’s like I work on one level then the next priority level shows up for me to look at.

Often, and you’ll hear this from so many people, what ever it is that you struggle with or that you need to heal in yourself is often the very thing you can help people with yourself.

I can’t help people with boundaries for instance if I’m not constantly working through my own boundary issues. I can’t help people with self-confidence or money or presentation skills or starting their own business if I myself have not and are not continually working on these aspects myself. Would you take lessons in guitar for instance from someone who was just a natural and never really had to work at it? Do you think they’d fully comprehend what it takes to learn to read the sheet music? or the frustration that comes when you feel like you’re no good at it and you might as well throw in the towel now? or the elation that comes when you finally get that tune down without having to think about it so intently?

It’s human to be working through something on some level at any given point in time. Your practitioners know what you need because they have the answers, yes. And they have the answers because they’ve been there before. They’re human too.

 

Self Development Not for the Faint Hearted

Self Development Quote Dana Atkin

Working on yourself can be HARD work. Especially when you’re fighting your ego the entire way and dragging yourself kicking and screaming towards change like a stubborn toddler throwing a tantrum. 

It is not easy. It was never meant to be. We’re re-wiring our brain, our beliefs and our attitudes and that’s hard stuff sometimes. We’re wried for survival and survival is all about keeping the status quo. So when we try to change things, we become that stubborn toddler who wants just 5 more minutes at the park. Who wants an ice-cream and who refuses to eat his dinner because he doesn’t want the potato on the plate (even though we know full well we don’t have to eat it just because it’s there).

We’re in routine. But routine can be mundane and routine is never changing and ultimately, we as humans actually like variety and change. We just don’t like the process it takes to get there because it’s not an easy transition.

Knowing it’s worth it can help. So too does having faith that it will all come together, despite the evidence to the contrary. Self development is not for the faint hearted but it certainly is for those who seek change and are willing to do the real work to get there. Tantrums and all.

 

 

3 Key Secrets To Seeing Magic

Universe Has My Back Dana Atkin Energy Healing

I’m going to let you in on a little secret or three on what it takes to see magic in your everyday life. The truth is actually very simple it’s just that in our grown up world, we are taught to be realistic, to question everything and to be serious about life and look for the big things.

Secret Number 3 to seeing magic: Know that magic isn’t always big or flashy.

Children are the best at seeing magic in everyday things. I was thinking recently of a beautiful little girl (about 4 years old) who was the daughter of a colleague many years ago who came in to visit her dad at the office. She was asking about the work my other colleague and I were doing and we were just generally having a chat when the conversation dwindled and there was a pause. The little girl looked down at her feet quietly then suddenly looked up with this ‘Eureka!’ facial expression followed by the words “I’ve got an idea – Let’s Dance!” and she proceeded to dance right there in the middle of the office. It was just magical to watch this little girl have the best idea ever and then proceed to go for it regardless of where she was or who was watching.

Secret Number 2 to seeing magic: Trust that there is magic.

Young children are the best at seeing magic in things and people because they haven’t been conditioned out of it yet. They trust that there’s magic out there and trust is met with proof by the universe.

What if we were to peel back some of that conditioning we adults have built up? What if we were to look at things and instead of claim “oh – what a coincidence” or “I had this chance encounter” or “Funny, I was just thinking about that person” or “how unusual” we could instead say “Wow, now that’s pretty magical”.

Secret Number 1 to seeing magic:  look for the magic.

If I didn’t keep my eye out for magic each day, I wouldn’t see it. And if I didn’t look out for it, the universe wouldn’t be able to show me magic either.

If I wasn’t trusting that there was magic out there for me, and I was too busy awaiting a neon sign, not looking at the details of everyday life, then I would have missed some magic recently in the form of crows.

Crows for me represent Universal Law (or the Law of Attraction / Universe Generally). I sat down in a local park recently to do a 7minute visualisation for my Throat Chakra. When I chose the seat, there was a crow wandering around in front of it and I thought that was a pretty good sign. So I sat, closed my eyes and completed my visualisation. When I opened my eyes, stretched and stood up, behind me were another 13 crows and 2 sitting in the trees above me calling out to the world. THIS was a magical sign. It was telling me that if I call out to the universe (hello throat Chakra), to the world, that it will respond. If I wasn’t trusting that there was magic out there, if I wasn’t knowing that simple things can be magical and if I wasn’t looking out for magic in my life then I would not have taken the above photograph and I would probably not be writing this article for you right now.

Keep an eye out for magic and trust it’s there because as soon as you do this, the universe will conspire to show you it’s true.

Have a magical week…

Journey of a Modern Mystic: A little time out

It occurred to me today that it’s been a while since my last post. This was not intentional at all but perhaps was needed.

You see, I’ve started a journey. It’s not entirely a new journey at all but it is definitely the first I have fully embraced as part of my energetically drawn self, my spiritual side, my intuitive side.

I’ve begun the Level 1 of Belinda Davidson’s School of The Modern Mystic (SoMM – see details and link below). While it was my intention to blog my way through this from go to whoa, I found myself holding on to this, just for me.

When I began studying Reiki and Tarot and Kinesiology, it was all about helping other people. Which of it’s self is a great thing, but when you do this at the expense of yourself and your own needs, it can get tiring, draining and very overwhelming. There are so many people to help!

So, when enrolled in SoMM, I decided that above all else, this course would be for me. Me first. I think that’s why I’ve found it so difficult to write a full post on the topic (I’ve got numerous drafts but nothing ever felt right to publish) because on some level, I needed it to be just for me. Perhaps at some point, I’ll be ready to share more of this journey with you all.

Right now, I find myself though compelled to share the fact that it’s okay to have something for yourself. Something that is for you. That’s not about healing the world, that’s not about taking care of everyone else, but simply about you holding space for you.

Yes, It’s easier said than done.

For me, I spend 35 minutes per day meditating (some days I don’t, some days I procrastinate which is just resistance but hey, I’m human). And then I spend a couple of hours on a Monday at the start of each SoMM module soaking in the course content and honouring each Chakra and each element as it arises. I give myself the gift of space and time to work on myself and the things that are important for me because without them, I don’t ever really feel like I’m 100% being my authentic self nor am I 100% present for all the other people and things in my life.

Start small. It can be as simple as 15 minutes you take out of your day to sit quietly and sip a cup of tea, just because you feel like it. It’s actually about honouring yourself and your needs and wants. Rather than running around the house thinking “argh, I have to get all this done before the kids get home” or feeling that being productive means getting things done and that’s more important. Sometimes, being productive means slowing down, taking a moment or 5 for yourself to centre back into being you again. If you feel good, you’ll get more stuff done anyway and you’re less likely to resent the things you have to do.

I officially give you permission to do something for yourself this week. Take a little time out for yourself, for YOU, for the fun of it, because you want to, because you deserve it and because above all, you are important too.

SoMM is the School of the Modern Mystic. It’s a self awareness, self love and spiritual practice. It’s a school where you learn first hand how your chakras work within yourself and your life. I can’t recommend it more highly. In fact, I’m also a proud affiliate because I love this course and what it’s meant for me and my life so far. If you’re interested in knowing more or would to know when the school opens, you can click the below link:

Belinda Davidson's School of the Modern Mystic starts September 29th!

Levelling Up

Power Up and Level Up

Many of my students ask me about life as they work through the Kinesiology course. What happens is this: During the course, they work on all their old “stuff” and working on all the old “stuff” helps us release the heaviness from ourselves, and as we release that, we raise ourselves up. We raise our vibration (power up) which means that we level up or upgrade our life. Think of it like Super Mario when he gets one of those mushrooms that makes him invincible. Raising our vibration or levelling up, makes us a little invincible to certain people and situations. Suddenly, it’s like the universe sees that you’re not a vibrational match to those circumstances anymore so you become more aligned with something better. When we don’t actively seek the new, powered up level, that we have kind of known all along or had been considering then the universe conspires to level us up on our behalf.

When this happens, it often feels like things have been stirred up because we haven’t deliberately (consciously) chosen the shift. We go through restructures at work, our family life feels a little off, our friends suddenly feel like they don’t fit in our world anymore. Life feels like it’s happening to us.

I’ve seen students intentionally upgrade. They’ve chosen a new career path while they’re studying, they’ve met the love of their life, they’ve been given great opportunities that they otherwise would not have had. I’ve also seen some split from long-term relationships, be made redundant from work, have friendships naturally dissipate. It’s all part of the upgrade process. If the people around us are working on levelling up too, then the shifts are less pronounced. They feel like little hiccups, not mountains to overcome. And eventually you find that you’ve grown together, not apart. This goes for work, family and social lives.

Next time you’re feeling like your world is being turned upside down, consider this: Are you levelling up?

Hone It & Own It

honeitandownit

I’ve tried to write this post about a million times. Words don’t really do the feeling justice. I am still on a high in a nice, grounded way. Still buzzing. Still processing. But here’s my attempt to explain what happened over the weekend for me.

I attended an Advanced Energy and Anatomy and Medical Intuition workshop last weekend with the amazing Belinda Davidson. It was unlike anything I had experienced before and I walked away from it feeling profoundly different. Not in a loud “AH HA!” kind of a way but in a deeper, inner knowing whispered “oh, now I understand” kind of way. Something clicked in me on so many levels.

From the get go, I knew there was something that was going to shift for me. And not in the way out there “woo woo” kind of way. The approach was grounded and direct with good serve of ‘no-nonsense’. That’s my kind of teacher.

I even awoke on the Saturday morning to ‘someone’ stroking my 6th chakra and a woman standing beside my bed telling me to get up “it’s time”.

While I walked away with many learnings from that weekend, there are some that have sat with me more than others. Here they are:

Looking after my own energy is the key to success
Not just in intuitive practices but in life in general. Again, I knew this intellectually but it had never really clicked for me until this weekend. I think it was the grounded approach to the message that really allowed this set in.

It’s okay to reschedule clients if you’re not in the zone
This one was on an intellectual level a big shift but on an energetic level was again more in the knowing whisper category of awareness. I always felt like I had to push on, push through seeing clients even when I felt tired or a little under the weather. I realise now that not taking time to tend to my own energy is doing my clients a disservice and it actually works in their best interest for me to reschedule if i’m having an off day.

And the biggest thing I got from the workshop was….

I was given the gift of knowing what holding my own energy feels like.
This is something I always knew intellectually was the thing to do. It was something I even thought I was doing in sessions with clients all these years. As it turns out – I was not and it is no wonder I feel so unwell after a week of seeing clients. I am so very grateful for this gift of knowing what it feels like. So still, so peaceful, so calm and light. So at one. Now I know what I need to aim for.

The key here is to hone your energy, your skill, your craft. Don’t just get good at it and then stop. Get great at it, “Aim for Amazing”. Then once you have, it’s really important to step up and own it. In owning it, you respect it. And when you respect it, others do too.

My first step in honing my energy and craft will be to take on some new study. I’m going to dig deeper into the knowledge I already have and I’m going t practice some of the techniques I learnt over the weekend too. I’m going to aim for amazing by honing it and owning it.

#honeit&ownit

PS – if you’re not familiar with Belinda Davidson’s work, check out her website at belindadavidson.com this woman walks the walk.