Monday Mantra:: I enjoy the space between

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Where are you now? Where do you want to be? What’s stopping you from enjoying the space between the two places?

It’s easy to get lost in the striving, in the working, in the doing. When you have a goal or life situation in mind and you’re spending all your time focussing on it, it can easily become the be all and end all of your life. It can lead you into frustration because you want to be there. Now.  And each time you’re reminded that you aren’t there yet, you fall into the “I’m a failure” mind set a little further.

Someone asked me a question recently which became a catalyst for change. The questions was “What do you love to do?”. I said, run, paint, write and I had to stop the conversation there because it dawned on me that I had not done anything of what I love for quite some time now because I had been all consumed with another goal. And each time I was reminded that I hadn’t achieved that goal yet, I would let go of something I loved to put more focus on this thing that I was working towards which would actually make me feel worse, not better.

Here’s the lucky penny that dropped. If I stopped focussing on where I want to be and put a little more focus on what I love doing, more focus on right here and now, then when I’m confronted about my major goal, instead of feeling like a failure, I could lean on the things that bring me joy so as not to fall down the rabbit hole of self doubt.

I’ve chosen instead to enjoy the space between where I am and where I want to be.

 

Making Space

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When you want something, when you’re calling it in, and doing all the “right things” and that something is not coming your way, perhaps it’s because there’s not enough room for it to be in your realm.

Making space could mean finding space physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially, energetically etc. There’s more than one way to make space for something new. A little creativity goes a long way and once you find just the right spot where you can make space, the universe is able to fill it with that new something you’re looking for.

As per the old adage, as one door closes, another opens, sometimes, letting go of one thing actually means inviting something else in.

 

Monday Mantra: I choose to know my “stuff”

know-your-stuff-danaatkinWe all have “stuff”. Old stuff that keeps us locked in a holding pattern. It keeps us in the same old same old. It keeps us from moving forward and upward in life. It holds up back from the experiences we seek. It keeps us from the light said of life.

The only way to release your stuff is to look at it. I mean really look at it. Get to know it. Understand it. It’s not easy. In fact, it’s hard work. It’s actually super scary.

But it’s totally worth it.

If you don’t know what your stuff is, you can’t work with it or around it or in spite of it. You won’t recognise it when it sneaks up on you. You won’t see it coming when it leaps out in front of you.

You’ll hold back. You’ll keep yourself small and oh so quiet.

Unknown is scary. Known is not. Know your “stuff”.

Here’s how to begin….

When you find yourself saying no to something, ask yourself if you really don’t want to or if you’re just feeling out of sorts because it’s new and scary.

When you find yourself feeling awkward, ask yourself why that is.

Your “always” things will give you a clue too, what are the things that you say “ugh, I always…”. For example: I always start projects well but I never finish them. Or I always leave things to the last minute. Here’s one from my personal list: I always avoid looking in the mirror when other people are around (because on some level, I don’t want to be seen to be vain or overly concerned with how I look).

Have a play around with this today and see what “stuff” pops up for you.

When you choose to know your “stuff” you become an empowered person.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it (it’s actually a really dark picture, I’d recommend screen viewing as preference to printing all that ink!) . When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

Dedication: A word for Myself

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I was silent a lot of last year. It was a big year and while I thought I was busy and didn’t have time to dedicate to my writing, I was actually busy avoiding dealing with what life had dealt me over the year.

Stress can be tied to many things and it’s not just the “bad” things either. My year was filled with planning a wedding, a new job/project, a move of home, a husband having back surgery, my mum having a stroke, an un-well cat and then just to top it all off, we decided to host Christmas lunch (and as it turned out, Dinner) at our place.

While ultimately, all of these things turned out great and Everyone is fine and well, I learnt a lot about my own fears. It was big and I didn’t feel I had time to dedicate to myself in 2016. Part of dedicating to myself is my writing. Believe it or not, each Monday Mantra is a derivative of my own life. Of how I’ve dealt with my real life “stuff”. It’s also how I work through it. So I’ve felt as unattended as my own website has been.

I’ve toyed with the idea of a resolution but it doesn’t sit with me well so I’d been looking for a word or few to be my focus for the year. It finally came to me, in writing the above paragraph.

For me, this year is about dedication.

It’s about dedication to the things I love and know will help me through life’s challenges. It’s dedication to myself. This year, I will put own needs as high a priority as those around me. I will not use others needs as my excuse for avoiding my own spiritual practices. I will not use the word “busy” to hold me back from doing the things I know my body needs for health and wellbeing. I will dedicate time and space for myself as a priority.

What are you choosing to focus on this year?

 

Monday Mantra:: I Go With The Flow

This one is from the archives. I felt it was a good time to share this again as it’s the beginning of a new year and everyone is still a little wound up from the holiday season. Remind yourself today of how good it is when you get in the flow…

Dana Atkin

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Because resistance is futile, I go with the flow.

It makes me happier. And when I’m happier, I feel better. And when I feel better, things just work out better for me. Easier said than done sometimes however, It’s a great practice to get into.

Think about driving down the street. There’s lots of traffic and you’re tired and all you want to do is get home and put your feet up. You sit in traffic and turn the radio up and sing along. You lose yourself in the tunes that are playing.

Then, screaming up behind you comes one of “those people”. They’re in a rush too but they’re frustrated and angry. They weave in and out of traffic, generally causing a fuss and working themselves up into more stress in the processes.

15 minutes down the road, you see that car. sitting at a set of lights, waiting…

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Journey of a Modern Mystic: A Life Long Practice

As with any adventure you embark on, as the adventure unfolds, you tend feel like nothing has changed because day to day, the shifts aren’t always obvious. Yet, often when we look back at who we were, where we were when we began, we can see the difference and the changes that have taken place. It’s a real before and after that is quantifiable, tangible. that can’t always be seen while we’re in it.

My journey through the School of the Modern Mystic has been subtle in many ways, especially with the day to day working on and working in the material but when I look back at who I was before hand, how I felt before hand I can see and feel that I am very different than I was before.

While many things have shifted, I feel perhaps the biggest gift this beautiful school has given me is the gift of knowing what my own energy feels like.

Before this training, I felt tired, unwell and agitated about so many things. Now, when I am continuing these practices, I find that I have more energy, when I’m unwell I am not unwell for long and while I find myself getting agitated here and there, I know I only need to return to my practices to feel a sense of stillness again. I know that these practices are integral for my wellbeing, for my self-esteem, for my life to feel smooth and life’s challenges something that can be overcome.

I am human of course and I often fall off of my Modern Mystic Wagon but the support from my fellow Modern Mytsics is always there to help get me back on track. It is after all, a spiritual practice.

Without these practices, I know that I am a short fused, illness prone, tired, grumpy person. With them, I am energetic, I am still, I am comfortable in who I am and I make smart choices without really needing to work through them. They just seem to be easy to make.

If I get my energy field right, everything else just works. And I can tell you that fist hand. I’ve loved it so much i’ve begun level 2 to deepen the work of level 1.

If you’re interested in finding out more about the School of the Modern Mystic as well as more information about your energy field, your chakras and how you can work with them so that your life works, check it out because the enrolments are open now.

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Belinda Davidson's School of the Modern Mystic starts September 29th!

See my other Journey of a Modern Mystic article here.

Buying In To Yourself

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If you’re always on sale, then you’re not receiving what you’re worth. And if you’re always on sale then do people really appreciate you for your real qualities?

What if you didn’t sell yourself short?
What if your morals couldn’t be bought?
What if you didn’t sell out on your dream? or your gifts?

What if you bought in to the real value of yourself?
What if you received what you’re worth?
What if you invested in your dream? or your gifts?

I see it so often that people think they need to be everything to everyone. Not just in a business sense but in a personal sense too. But the thing is that if you’re everything to everyone, who are you for you? This is selling out on yourself and your own unique blend of skills and expertise. We think that we should just accept what we are offered for our skills and expertise but really, we diminish our own sense of self by doing this. I began charging a small price and would put out sales and special prices but you know what I received in kind for these offers? People who didn’t appreciate the process, people who didn’t appreciate my time or expertise and people who would expect more for less. What I put out there by trying to cater to everyone is exactly what I got – a diminished perception of my gifts.

Now I’m not talking about money here either. I’m talking about time, emotions, food and much much more.

Where have you sold out on a dream because you thought someone knew what was better for you?
Where have you bought into someone else’s perception of you and your abilities?
Where have you invested in someone else’s dream at the expense of your own?
Where have you chosen someone else’s time over your own?
Where have you invested bad food into your body when you know you were worth investing in high quality nourishing food?

What would it take for you to buy into your own gifts?
What would it take for you to buy into your own dream or goal?
How could you invest in these for yourself? (Food, money, emotions, mind set, time etc)
How much are these gifts and dreams worth to you?
How would they improve your sense of self worth?
And if your worth was improved, then how else would life generally improve?

It all has a flow on effect.

Buy into yourself and watch your investment pay dividends.

 

 

 

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Monday Mantra:: I let go of conditions

Monday Mantra I let go of conditions

Advertisements have them. Legal documentation has them. We have them too, whether we’re aware of it or not. It keeps us from enjoying life, from enjoying relationships, jobs, money, family, you name it. It keeps us miserable when we could be rejoicing and it haunts our psyche on a daily basis. I’m talking about the conditions, the expectations and the asterisk of our day to day lives.

Here’s how it works:

We want the career of a life time, that makes us fulfilled, that pays us well and that we love. *BUT we don’t want to move country to where that dream career is available.

We want that loving relationship, that meaningful connection with a person who makes us feel like a giddy teenager again. *BUT he/she has to be tall, slender and rich.

I love my man. *BUT I’d love him so much more if he did the dishes more often.

Really, we should be saying or focusing on the item, person or situation as it is and valuing it as it is. We should love it unconditionally.

Sure some conditions can be changed. Sure you can love it if it had more of something or less of something or if it was a different colour or in a different location but focussing on where it could be instead of where it is right now, lends it’s self to more internal stress and only further perpetuates the current situation. So if what you focus on further perpetuates the situation then perhaps we should be focussing on just how lovely it is right here, right now and further perpetuate the loveliness….

What conditions, caveats, asterisks could you let go of today that might allow you to enjoy your workplace? Your colleagues? Your transit? Your partner? Your family? just that little bit more?

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

A blank page and a blog a day

I’ve been talking a lot about writing more. I’ve been talking more about writing than I have been actually writing.

Partly because I have an idea in mind of what I’d like to create yet I can’t quite get to typing. I think it’s because I fear I may not have enough to say on the topic. What if I begin and the words run out? What if I begin and I’ve said all I need to say in one chapter? What if I begin and it doesn’t stop?

I’ve not been trained in writing, I’ve just always had a bit of a knack for it. Greeting cards and brochures and informative pieces as well as self-help style. But there’s something big about setting out to write a book that daunts a writer like myself who often times has to sit for a good while before a Monday Mantra comes to me. Yet sometimes, I only need to open a blog post and the words stream out of me like it was sitting there all along or like the words were waiting to be picked up from the ether and placed into three dimensional form.

If I think too much about it, the words stop and crickets chirp. If I lay my hands on the keyboard and simply begin, the words fall out.

So here’s a thought, instead of setting out to write a book, I shall set out to write a “blog post” per day and allow that to form the book that sits in the back of my mind. I may publish one here and there as I feel called to do so but mostly I’ll keep them cocooned and  incubating until it’s fully formed, fully transformed.

So if you too have had a little idea toying with you and you find that you’re putting it off then perhaps writing your book as a series of Blogs instead of chapters may assist in making it a more realistic goal and if it’s more realistic then it’s not so scary to begin.

So begin.

 

Monday Mantra:: I Take A Daily Dose of Love

Monday Mantra Daily Dose of Love

It’s so easy to dish out the negative self talk. It’s easy to have a go at ourselves for our short comings, our didn’t do’s, our “should have done”s. Yes, it is good to know where we might have improved. But it doesn’t do us good to beat ourselves up about it. If we do, we wear ourselves down. We get tired, we get emotional and we set that negative self talk into a self perpetuating cycle of self belief that we’re never good enough, or we never get it right or the classic “I always….” (insert your always, go to stance, reaction or way of being).

The fact is that to change this, we need to recognise that we’re sometimes going to get things wrong. We need to take from that any lessons we can in order to move forward and upward. And then we need to turn the perspective around and realise that more often than not, we did the best we could with the facts and details we had at the time. It’s about accepting where we were at, what we did or said and then choosing to learn from it. From there, it’s easier to begin to talk nice to yourself again.

Create yourself a gratitude jar or journal but make the topic specifically about you, yourself, your abilities, your qualities, what it is you bring into the world. That is, write something nice about yourself. You can even ask friends to contribute some nice thoughts about you too. This will be your “medicine” for self talk.

When you find yourself in a perpetual downward negative self talk cycle, prescribe yourself a daily dose of love.

Then, when you’re having a particularly down day, do a lucky dip into the jar or a random page open in a journal and see what all the lovely things are about you and allow that to begin to lift your mood and set you on the upward cycle again.

Remember, create your little jar of love notes to yourself, when you feel down, take a daily dose of love and allow it fuel your positive self talk.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.