I was silent a lot of last year. It was a big year and while I thought I was busy and didn’t have time to dedicate to my writing, I was actually busy avoiding dealing with what life had dealt me over the year.
Stress can be tied to many things and it’s not just the “bad” things either. My year was filled with planning a wedding, a new job/project, a move of home, a husband having back surgery, my mum having a stroke, an un-well cat and then just to top it all off, we decided to host Christmas lunch (and as it turned out, Dinner) at our place.
While ultimately, all of these things turned out great and Everyone is fine and well, I learnt a lot about my own fears. It was big and I didn’t feel I had time to dedicate to myself in 2016. Part of dedicating to myself is my writing. Believe it or not, each Monday Mantra is a derivative of my own life. Of how I’ve dealt with my real life “stuff”. It’s also how I work through it. So I’ve felt as unattended as my own website has been.
I’ve toyed with the idea of a resolution but it doesn’t sit with me well so I’d been looking for a word or few to be my focus for the year. It finally came to me, in writing the above paragraph.
For me, this year is about dedication.
It’s about dedication to the things I love and know will help me through life’s challenges. It’s dedication to myself. This year, I will put own needs as high a priority as those around me. I will not use others needs as my excuse for avoiding my own spiritual practices. I will not use the word “busy” to hold me back from doing the things I know my body needs for health and wellbeing. I will dedicate time and space for myself as a priority.
What are you choosing to focus on this year?
If you watch nature, you’ll find it doesn’t believe in limits. plants grow in cracks in the footpath, trees grow around power lines and through perceived limits.
It’s easy to see a cage as a cage and assume that there is no way out of it. That cage is only ever self imposed if you view it as a cage with no door nor key. If there was a way in, then there is a way out.
Beyond looking at it as something to be conquered, perhaps we need to look at things from another perspective. Is it really a limit? or is it guideline? Is it an absolute? or is it a advisory sign? Is it a boundary or is it an opportunity for an adventure obstacle course?
Don’t let anything hold you back or stop you for aiming, for trying, for growing toward your goals, your dreams or your potential.
It’s interesting how a plant can be viewed by a dozen people and be seen differently by each and every one. Yet, regardless of how we look at it, it’s own inherent nature still resides there. It remains unchanged. It is not swayed by our perceptions of it. It is not changed by the filters we apply to the images we take of it. It doesn’t change it’s self in order become more for us. It is what it is and it is content with it.
We could learn a lot from mother nature. It’s so easy to get caught up in what other people think of us. It’s easy to believe that we should be, ought to be or could be rather than believing in who we are, as we are, right here and now.
It’s easier to believe what people think we should be, ought to be or could be rather than believing in who we are, as we are, right here and now.
We would save ourselves so much inner turmoil if we were to remain still and centred like nature does and simply do what we do best, grow. Naturally.
Eckhart Tolle, in his book Stillness Speaks, refers of the inherent stillness in nature and it’s ability to remain solid and still in the midst of external forces. Nature does not fight against the circumstances it finds it’s self in, it thrives by remaining true to it’s self and by finding new ways. It grows in cracks of pathways, it grows around and over buildings and bridges and rocks and even grows in the mud.
If we say to the plant “you’re not capable of growing there”, does the plant believe this and cease to grow? No. It grows anyway.