Perception & The Written Word

When you read emails day in day out at work, it can become easy to begin to see these as human interactions. We make them more emotional, even reading them in our own mind in the tone of voice we perceive that person to have written the email.

When you write an email, do you write it with emotion? How do you feel when you write it? When you read it back do you read it in the tone you wrote it?

When you receive an email, do you read it with emotion? Do you read it with your emotion or with the senders emotion?

Here’s the thing. When people write to you, they express their opinions. From their perspective. With their history and experience as their filter.

When you read those emails, you read them from your perspective, with your history and experience as the filter.

Perceptions have the ability to make or break our day.

The trick is to step aside and remind yourself that when people are expressing themselves (their despair, their frustration, their elation) they are doing so from their perspective, in their opinion and in no way is that ever a personal attack or rubbing it in. People are entitled to feel the way they feel.  If you can do this, CAPITALS become just letters. Exclamation Marks !!!! become enthusiasm. And bold type becomes a pointer to say “hey, just letting you know that this is important to me.”

 

Authenticity

I saw a drawing on the pavement on the way to work yesterday. It was beautiful on so many levels. It was in bright coloured chalk across a long section of footpath. It had clearly defined start and end lines and was filled with rainbows, sunshine and smiley faces and flowers. And at each beginning line were the words: When you walk here, you DANCE!

It was kinda liberating. It was in sync with some Chakra work i’ve been immersing myself in for the 2nd Chakra which is all about joy, desire and being creative and uninhibited. What a perfect reminder it was!

It so common that we hide ourselves. We stuff ourselves, our true selves, deep down into our body and psyche for fear of what others may think. We become the person we think they want us to be. We become the person we think will be “successful”. We become the person we think will be liked, adored, loved and respected.

Then, one day we awaken miserable and we don’t know why. Life has lost it’s shine and sparkle and the thought of getting up and going out into the world as this “person” just feels too heavy.

It’s then we seek out advice, we seek a solution to the mundane day-to-day existence. It’s then we go searching. And yet, often it seems that we come face to face with who we’ve become, not who we really are. And so what we really go searching for is ourselves. Often, we’ve had it all along but we’ve painted over our true selves and all it takes is a little unravelling. Yes, sometimes there are more pieces to collect of who we are but ultimately, at our very core, we’ve had us all along.

Perhaps it’s time to remove the layers of conformity and peel back the masks we’ve created and discover once again our authentic selves. Who cares what people think when you dance down the street? Or when you’re 35 and you’re jumping in puddles for the sheer fun of it? Who cares if you’re an adult skipping around the park instead of running? (Skipping by the way is the quickest way I know to get happy – it’s impossible to skip around and not get deliriously happy and giggly).

Often the things, the people, the places that make us deliriously happy, connect us back into who we really are.

What are you going to do today to connect back into Joy and back into your authentic self?

A Queen is Wise Marianne Williamson Dana Atkin Kinesiology

In pursuit of extraordinary

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Funny how when we imagine it all coming together that we imagine the results being extraordinary. Not okay, not great, extraordinary.

And then we pursue extraordinary. we pursue it like it’s our destiny, like it’s meant to be. We were always destined for greatness.

When we fall short of our perceived greatness, we’re hard on ourselves, we throw in the towel or we think we have to go back to square one and begin again.

Here’s the thing. What if our perception of extraordinary is not quite right? What if extraordinary is extraordinary? What if the real magic, the real greatness lies in the everyday, ordinary tasks? Doing the dishes, hanging out the washing, and going to the gym?

What if our greatness is determined by our day to day rituals? Who’s to say that this is not the extraordinary we crave? Because often our version of extraordinary includes circumstances outside of ourselves when really the feeling we seek of being  extraordinary can only really be found inside.

So when you look to external things, like being a famous writer, a famous chef, or amazing actor, remember that these in them selves are ordinary. You are already extraordinary and these labels, these passions, these things, all exist outside of yourself. It is you adds the extraordinary to them.

Monday Mantra:: I am always in the right place at the right time

Monday Mantra Right Place Right Time

It’s so easy to get caught up in decision making, in our own thoughts about how good we are, or how capable we are. We are all human and this is far more common that most people would think. In fact, we often believe that we’re the only ones who feel that way.

I am learning more and more that I am always in the right place at the right time and this is bringing a sense of contentment for wherever I happen to be.

There’s a lot to be said for divine timing. It may not always seem like it, or feel like it, especially when we’re not having much fun in life but I believe that it’s all part of the plan to get us where we need to be.

What if your struggle of looking for work right now, will actually help you in the long run? Perhaps you’ll end up working to help people who are struggling to find work some day? And what if the universe has a particular role in mind for you at a particular business because you have some great insights that one particular person is going to need when you get there? What if that insight is life changing for them in the best possible way?

You may not always know what the grand plan is, but it is wise to trust in the process and know that you are always in the right place at the right time. Knowing that you are in that spot because you’re the best person for that situation at that time. Knowing this can also bring out a sense of contentment even when things are not going so well. A trust fund of sorts into the precision timing of the universe will propel you forward and upward when things are tough.

Consider your day today as a day in divine timing. Imagine that you were meant to arrive at work when you did, imagine that you were meant to cross the road at that precise moment. Imagine that all your clients cancelled because the universe has a better plan for you today. That you were meant all along to eat at that particular lace for lunch so someone could you overhear you talking and receive a sign they’ve been looking for.

I have personally received signs I’ve been looking for purely around divine timing like this – happening to catch a tram with Denise Duffield Thomas of Get Rich Lucky Bitch fame on a day where I was looking for signs around my finances, eaten at a restaurant the night before my first Reiki training where a Monk was sitting at the table next to us, happened to leave earlier than usual from a clinic because clients had cancelled only to get in the elevator with Danae of The Spell Box fame, running late for work yet at one stop along the way, when the doors of a tram opened up, there was a monk, sitting on the ground, pointing at me with a knowing smile, saluting me (my friend and I have a joke that I am the captain of my own destiny) and giving me the traditional Aussie thumbs up.

No interaction, no timing is ever a mistake, we just need to trust that there is a very good reason in the timing for everything and everyone involved. Even if those decisions are made by ourselves to shift out, to move on or move up or simply to change something, we are always in the right place at the right time.

I am always in the right place at the right time.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

PS – My favourite book, “The Five People You Meet in Heaven” by Mitch Albom illustrates my point so beautifully.

Monday Mantra:: There is joy in the vision

Monday Mantra There is joy in the vision

We all begin a new venture, a new job, a dream, a new holiday by envisioning what the end result will be. We see success, relaxation, enjoyment and fun.

What often happens is that the pursuit of the dream becomes tiresome, it starts to feel like a have to, rather than a want to and we begin to feel frustrated and disillusioned by the process of getting to where we want to be.

Here’s the thing. We forget that there is joy in the vision. We shift our focus on to the details (which does have to happen in order to make these things happen) and we forget to hold the vision of the result we’re looking to achieve.

This is where vision boards are so handy. They remind us of the grand plan, the feelings, the experiences, the end result we’re striving to achieve. Today, I’m going to stop a few times throughout my day and imagine my vision and what it will feel like when I’m there. What’s one thing you can do for yourself today that will remind you of the joy in your vision?

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Monday Mantra:: I Choose to See Every Job As My Dream Job

Monday Mantra I See every job as my dream job

It can be soul destroying to be in a job that isn’t your passion. I know this first hand and have struggled with this personally. It’s tiring to hold on to that frustration. It’s aggravating to get up every morning knowing you’re headed to a role that isn’t your ideal role. It can be the most frustrating when that feeling  begins to creep through every part of your life, it’s like it breeds more frustration. But there is a way of changing this energy around so that you can continue with the job you need to do now in order to get to where you want to be later. And this is how:

Choose to see every job as your dream job.

How does this work? It’s a subtle energetic shift in perception. If you view every job you currently do as your dream job, you treat it as a dream job, your results increase and your sense of satisfaction increases which means that you naturally attract people and opportunities to you that will give you a foot in the door to your dream job.

Think about it. How do people who don’t like their job come across to you? Do they make you want to buy from them? Do they make you want to return to their business? Do you feel excited to call them when you need to? Not really. So if this is the case then, naturally the opposite is true too.

The next step is to start looking at how your current role might actually be preparing you for your dream job. What if you need to know how to print and bind documents for that dream job? What if you need to know how to create an online booking system for your own business when you have the capital to begin?

Finally (and we’ll talk about this later this week in a separate post), we need to release our loyalty to others and embrace our loyalty to ourselves. That is, not feeling compelled to stay in a role when we feel we owe it to someone else.

Lets begin today by choosing to see every job as our dream job. Photocopying – it’s your dream job. Running errands – it’s your dream job. Stacking the dishwasher at work – it’s your dream job. Answering the phone – it’s your dream job.

Then, after some time, watch how your day gets better and eventually how your opportunities get even better.

As always, download and save this Monday Mantra Image to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it. When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, please share it.

Your Dream Is Worth The Risk

I get to meet some pretty amazing people in my line of work. They don’t always know it but they are amazing, loving, generous and kind people. They’re people who want to chase their dreams. They dream of their own business, they dream of finding their purpose and they dream of being confident, of being calm and of being true to themselves. Their dreams are important to them and their dreams are inspiring to people like myself. Once in a while though, I come across someone who is inspiring on a whole new level. And not because of what they may have been through or because of what they want to accomplish but simply in the fact that they’ve come to me for help with their dream.

The thing with dreams is that we tend to feel like it’s a scary or risky thing to pour ourselves into our dream and it can be. Here are two of my favourite things (one quote, one poem which was read out at my year seven graduation in fact) around risk:

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud, became more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
– Anais Nin

 

Risk

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because
the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing,
does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.
Chained by his servitude he is a slave
who has forfeited all freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

– William Arthur Ward

So while it is scary to put yourself out there for your dream (whatever your dream is) there’s always a way to get there or to move towards it and if you’re not moving towards it yet, it’s also okay to be where you’re at until you’re ready for the next step.

So what about your dream? Is there anything holding you back from achieving your dream? Ask yourself if it’s worth the risk. Remember that a life of what if’s works both ways. What if you fail? but oh.. what if you succeed!?

Becoming Queen Of My Realm

“A queen is wise. She has earned her serenity, not having had it bestowed on her but having passed her tests. She has suffered and grown more beautiful because of it. She has proved she can hold her kingdom together. She has become its vision. She cares deeply about something bigger than herself. She rules with authentic power.” 
― Marianne Williamson
Something stirred in me when I heard this quote. And it still continues to give tingles and well up with resonating tears every time I read it, say it out loud or hear it spoken again. It has something for me. It speaks to me.
This quote is from a book by Marianne Williamson, A Woman’s Worth. While I have not read it, it is on the top of my “next to read” list purely because of this quote.
So while I have not entirely let it all immerse into me, I have begun to work on my realm, to immerse myself within it. I have decided that while I build my kingdom, I will treat every realm I come into contact with as my own and as an opportunity to be my authentic self, to hold that kingdom together as best I can while I am in it and to always keep my eye on my vision, on that something bigger than myself because ultimately, that is my realm.

How to look good – always

Okay – So I had a little sojourn into the fears this week. I was swamped by them until I heard the support from the universe in the form of songs.

She’s got the look – Roxette (“heavenly abound”)
If Ya Getting’ Down – Five (love that symbolically this song tells you if you’re doing what you love, then people naturally love you and what you offer the world).

The song that I talk about in this video (link below the video)

 

Here’s the song mentioned in the video:

 

 

K-Power® – Workshops Coming Soon

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It’s official – I am a K-Power® Stress Release Made Easy Instructor!

I’ll be putting together some information and some prospective dates for this insightful workshop soon. In the mean time, here’s a very basic overview of what the workshop covers: What is stress, and how does the body respond to it? Understanding this will help you to enable your clients and patients to manage their stress, recharge their energy and recover more quickly from illness and injury.

Watch this space! or visit the Workshops page here.