Where are you now? Where do you want to be? What’s stopping you from enjoying the space between the two places?
It’s easy to get lost in the striving, in the working, in the doing. When you have a goal or life situation in mind and you’re spending all your time focussing on it, it can easily become the be all and end all of your life. It can lead you into frustration because you want to be there. Now. And each time you’re reminded that you aren’t there yet, you fall into the “I’m a failure” mind set a little further.
Someone asked me a question recently which became a catalyst for change. The questions was “What do you love to do?”. I said, run, paint, write and I had to stop the conversation there because it dawned on me that I had not done anything of what I love for quite some time now because I had been all consumed with another goal. And each time I was reminded that I hadn’t achieved that goal yet, I would let go of something I loved to put more focus on this thing that I was working towards which would actually make me feel worse, not better.
Here’s the lucky penny that dropped. If I stopped focussing on where I want to be and put a little more focus on what I love doing, more focus on right here and now, then when I’m confronted about my major goal, instead of feeling like a failure, I could lean on the things that bring me joy so as not to fall down the rabbit hole of self doubt.
I’ve chosen instead to enjoy the space between where I am and where I want to be.