Monday Mantra: I choose to know my “stuff”

know-your-stuff-danaatkinWe all have “stuff”. Old stuff that keeps us locked in a holding pattern. It keeps us in the same old same old. It keeps us from moving forward and upward in life. It holds up back from the experiences we seek. It keeps us from the light said of life.

The only way to release your stuff is to look at it. I mean really look at it. Get to know it. Understand it. It’s not easy. In fact, it’s hard work. It’s actually super scary.

But it’s totally worth it.

If you don’t know what your stuff is, you can’t work with it or around it or in spite of it. You won’t recognise it when it sneaks up on you. You won’t see it coming when it leaps out in front of you.

You’ll hold back. You’ll keep yourself small and oh so quiet.

Unknown is scary. Known is not. Know your “stuff”.

Here’s how to begin….

When you find yourself saying no to something, ask yourself if you really don’t want to or if you’re just feeling out of sorts because it’s new and scary.

When you find yourself feeling awkward, ask yourself why that is.

Your “always” things will give you a clue too, what are the things that you say “ugh, I always…”. For example: I always start projects well but I never finish them. Or I always leave things to the last minute. Here’s one from my personal list: I always avoid looking in the mirror when other people are around (because on some level, I don’t want to be seen to be vain or overly concerned with how I look).

Have a play around with this today and see what “stuff” pops up for you.

When you choose to know your “stuff” you become an empowered person.

As always, download and save to your desktop or phone or print it and pin it somewhere you’ll see it (it’s actually a really dark picture, I’d recommend screen viewing as preference to printing all that ink!) . When you see it, say it. And if you know someone who would also benefit from this mantra, share it.

 

Dedication: A word for Myself

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I was silent a lot of last year. It was a big year and while I thought I was busy and didn’t have time to dedicate to my writing, I was actually busy avoiding dealing with what life had dealt me over the year.

Stress can be tied to many things and it’s not just the “bad” things either. My year was filled with planning a wedding, a new job/project, a move of home, a husband having back surgery, my mum having a stroke, an un-well cat and then just to top it all off, we decided to host Christmas lunch (and as it turned out, Dinner) at our place.

While ultimately, all of these things turned out great and Everyone is fine and well, I learnt a lot about my own fears. It was big and I didn’t feel I had time to dedicate to myself in 2016. Part of dedicating to myself is my writing. Believe it or not, each Monday Mantra is a derivative of my own life. Of how I’ve dealt with my real life “stuff”. It’s also how I work through it. So I’ve felt as unattended as my own website has been.

I’ve toyed with the idea of a resolution but it doesn’t sit with me well so I’d been looking for a word or few to be my focus for the year. It finally came to me, in writing the above paragraph.

For me, this year is about dedication.

It’s about dedication to the things I love and know will help me through life’s challenges. It’s dedication to myself. This year, I will put own needs as high a priority as those around me. I will not use others needs as my excuse for avoiding my own spiritual practices. I will not use the word “busy” to hold me back from doing the things I know my body needs for health and wellbeing. I will dedicate time and space for myself as a priority.

What are you choosing to focus on this year?

 

Monday Mantra:: I Go With The Flow

This one is from the archives. I felt it was a good time to share this again as it’s the beginning of a new year and everyone is still a little wound up from the holiday season. Remind yourself today of how good it is when you get in the flow…

Dana Atkin

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Because resistance is futile, I go with the flow.

It makes me happier. And when I’m happier, I feel better. And when I feel better, things just work out better for me. Easier said than done sometimes however, It’s a great practice to get into.

Think about driving down the street. There’s lots of traffic and you’re tired and all you want to do is get home and put your feet up. You sit in traffic and turn the radio up and sing along. You lose yourself in the tunes that are playing.

Then, screaming up behind you comes one of “those people”. They’re in a rush too but they’re frustrated and angry. They weave in and out of traffic, generally causing a fuss and working themselves up into more stress in the processes.

15 minutes down the road, you see that car. sitting at a set of lights, waiting…

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Journey of a Modern Mystic: A Life Long Practice

As with any adventure you embark on, as the adventure unfolds, you tend feel like nothing has changed because day to day, the shifts aren’t always obvious. Yet, often when we look back at who we were, where we were when we began, we can see the difference and the changes that have taken place. It’s a real before and after that is quantifiable, tangible. that can’t always be seen while we’re in it.

My journey through the School of the Modern Mystic has been subtle in many ways, especially with the day to day working on and working in the material but when I look back at who I was before hand, how I felt before hand I can see and feel that I am very different than I was before.

While many things have shifted, I feel perhaps the biggest gift this beautiful school has given me is the gift of knowing what my own energy feels like.

Before this training, I felt tired, unwell and agitated about so many things. Now, when I am continuing these practices, I find that I have more energy, when I’m unwell I am not unwell for long and while I find myself getting agitated here and there, I know I only need to return to my practices to feel a sense of stillness again. I know that these practices are integral for my wellbeing, for my self-esteem, for my life to feel smooth and life’s challenges something that can be overcome.

I am human of course and I often fall off of my Modern Mystic Wagon but the support from my fellow Modern Mytsics is always there to help get me back on track. It is after all, a spiritual practice.

Without these practices, I know that I am a short fused, illness prone, tired, grumpy person. With them, I am energetic, I am still, I am comfortable in who I am and I make smart choices without really needing to work through them. They just seem to be easy to make.

If I get my energy field right, everything else just works. And I can tell you that fist hand. I’ve loved it so much i’ve begun level 2 to deepen the work of level 1.

If you’re interested in finding out more about the School of the Modern Mystic as well as more information about your energy field, your chakras and how you can work with them so that your life works, check it out because the enrolments are open now.

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Unlimited Belief

Let nothing hold you back from reaching your true potential

If you watch nature, you’ll find it doesn’t believe in limits. plants grow in cracks in the footpath, trees grow around power lines and through perceived limits.

It’s easy to see a cage as a cage and assume that there is no way out of it. That cage is only ever self imposed if you view it as a cage with no door nor key. If there was a way in, then there is a way out.

Beyond looking at it as something to be conquered, perhaps we need to look at things from another perspective. Is it really a limit? or is it guideline? Is it an absolute? or is it a advisory sign? Is it a boundary or is it an opportunity for an adventure obstacle course?

Don’t let anything hold you back or stop you for aiming, for trying, for growing toward your goals, your dreams or your potential.

 

Lessons from Mother Nature

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It’s interesting how a plant can be viewed by a dozen people and be seen differently by each and every one. Yet, regardless of how we look at it, it’s own inherent nature still resides there. It remains unchanged. It is not swayed by our perceptions of it. It is not changed by the filters we apply to the images we take of it. It doesn’t change it’s self in order become more for us. It is what it is and it is content with it.

We could learn a lot from mother nature. It’s so easy to get caught up in what other people think of us. It’s easy to believe that we should be, ought to be or could be rather than believing in who we are, as we are, right here and now.

It’s easier to believe what people think we should be, ought to be or could be rather than believing in who we are, as we are, right here and now.

We would save ourselves so much inner turmoil if we were to remain still and centred like nature does and simply do what we do best, grow. Naturally.

Eckhart Tolle, in his book Stillness Speaks, refers of the inherent stillness in nature and it’s ability to remain solid and still in the midst of external forces. Nature does not fight against the circumstances it finds it’s self in, it thrives by remaining true to it’s self and by finding new ways. It grows in cracks of pathways, it grows around and over buildings and bridges and rocks and even grows in the mud.

If we say to the plant “you’re not capable of growing there”, does the plant believe this and cease to grow? No. It grows anyway.

Buying In To Yourself

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If you’re always on sale, then you’re not receiving what you’re worth. And if you’re always on sale then do people really appreciate you for your real qualities?

What if you didn’t sell yourself short?
What if your morals couldn’t be bought?
What if you didn’t sell out on your dream? or your gifts?

What if you bought in to the real value of yourself?
What if you received what you’re worth?
What if you invested in your dream? or your gifts?

I see it so often that people think they need to be everything to everyone. Not just in a business sense but in a personal sense too. But the thing is that if you’re everything to everyone, who are you for you? This is selling out on yourself and your own unique blend of skills and expertise. We think that we should just accept what we are offered for our skills and expertise but really, we diminish our own sense of self by doing this. I began charging a small price and would put out sales and special prices but you know what I received in kind for these offers? People who didn’t appreciate the process, people who didn’t appreciate my time or expertise and people who would expect more for less. What I put out there by trying to cater to everyone is exactly what I got – a diminished perception of my gifts.

Now I’m not talking about money here either. I’m talking about time, emotions, food and much much more.

Where have you sold out on a dream because you thought someone knew what was better for you?
Where have you bought into someone else’s perception of you and your abilities?
Where have you invested in someone else’s dream at the expense of your own?
Where have you chosen someone else’s time over your own?
Where have you invested bad food into your body when you know you were worth investing in high quality nourishing food?

What would it take for you to buy into your own gifts?
What would it take for you to buy into your own dream or goal?
How could you invest in these for yourself? (Food, money, emotions, mind set, time etc)
How much are these gifts and dreams worth to you?
How would they improve your sense of self worth?
And if your worth was improved, then how else would life generally improve?

It all has a flow on effect.

Buy into yourself and watch your investment pay dividends.

 

 

 

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Thank You & You’re Welcome

They’re small phrases that sit front of mind for me often these days.

You see, I’ve been doing some work in customer service recently and I’ve become aware that there is a large number of people out there who think that if they thrown a tantrum, make threats to leave or not recommend someone that they’ll get what they want. They’ll be pandered to and be showered with gifts for their efforts. But why should we reward this behaviour?

I’ve seen the opposite side too. The people whose experiences were beyond comprehension and yet they remain calm and measured and understand that sometimes, these things happen. They don’t expect anything in return and they are grateful for the assistance we can provide.

I’ve seen how customer service representatives on the front line, in-person and over the phone do all that they can to help, only to be met with attitudes of expectation and “You owe me” language.

What we forget sometimes, if we’re having a bad day, or we’re just grumpy that they may well be genuinely trying to help. They may be adhering as best they can to the policies they are meant to stick to while bending over backwards trying to get the best outcome and we lash out. How does that help anyone? If we lash out, we get angry and fuel our own anger which doesn’t make us feel better, it makes us feel worse.

The same goes the other way around too.

I’m not saying you should just accept poor service, not at all. But be clear about what is reasonable and what is not. Be clear when it’s really the company’s fault or their their third party’s fault. Be clear that it may not be the fault of the person in front of you, on the line or in chat – they did not necessarily personally cause the issues you experienced so why hold them personally responsible?

Expressing your frustration need not be an excuse to treat someone badly or to not acknowledge their assistance in any way, shape or form. In fact, it can be easy to express it with dignity for both yourself and the person assisting you.

The point is to remember that we’re all human. So simple manners like please, thank you and you’re welcome should be staples in our vocabulary. We definitely should not be rewarding inappropriate behaviour from fellow humans. We should be treating one another with respect and we should be using our manners. And our reward for that should be our own sense that we have done good in the world by treating people as human beings.

Here’s a simple rule: If you want good service, use good manners.

 

 

 

Purpose & Pursuit: Hold Still & Allow It

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On honeymoon recently, we stopped in to check out the lighthouse at Cape Otway. At first, it was any lighthouse attraction. Then, as the time went past, I realised there was more going on there from an energetic perspective (predominantly for myself) but there was also a lesson there that I’d like to share with you.

This tourist attraction had a small “park like” attraction set. A walk where you could find information on the area and it’s uses over the years. These included a Dinosaur hut with information on dinosaurs in Australia. A signalling station where the first telegraph line was set up between the mainland and Tasmania, a little mystery with a missing pilot who disappeared after reporting an craft that was “not an aircraft” hovering above him. A lighthouse, a cafe (with surprisingly good coffee) and a world war two radar dugout.

To set this up, I need to also explain that I somehow felt connected here. I saw trees along the way that were “dead” to the naked eye yet alive with energy. I somehow felt like I was meant to be there. As this post continues, I’ve put words in italics where there was a deeper message for me in this tourist attraction.

The dinosaurs at the time, was not my thing. I realise now that this was a little more meaningful symbolically as “Ancient” or “Primal“.

The signal station immediately had me guarding my energy without me even consciously thinking about it – I was just doing it. And the sound of morse code ticking in the background creeped me out. The signal somehow was instilling fear. In one of the rooms there was a piece on a young girl that jumped out at me and then in one of the rooms that smelt intensely of Frankincense, I could sense a woman in the spirit world, sitting in the corner sipping her tea. It was like me knowing she was there was our little secret. An interesting interaction.

Then came the information piece about the missing pilot who disappeared under mysterious circumstances. The mystery and the unknown.

Next was the light house. It was still in it’s raw way. The way it was built. Nothing fancy added other than a lick of paint or two. It was what it was. It still is what it is. It’s a lighthouse. It hasn’t become anything else to please the tourists who visit there daily, it has always been it’s self and there to full fill it’s purpose. To light the shore, to guide the ships that pass by.  Hold still at your core and you become a beacon for guidance to find you.

Now the dug out. While it seems to be all about war, for me it was about the word ‘radar’. A way of being in tune with what surrounds us. And the viewing lens was a reminder that perspective is always key. That by focusing on where we’re at right now doesn’t mean that all our wants and desires are not there, in fact, they are there, we just need to look further, look deeper, within, not outside of ourselves.

Then on the final little trial back to the beginning, was a spot that beckoned me to take a photo (which I’ve included above). It just felt magical, like a fairy garden. This was all about following the impulses of intuition.

Ultimately, this expedition was a lesson in mindfulness (which is perfect timing for my SoMM learnings). It was all about being where you are, being present and mindful and knowing that when you’re in that space, all mysteries open up to us and we can be more accurately guided and therefore in a better, more “still” position in which to hear that guidance and take inspired action when it calls.

 

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Perception & The Written Word

When you read emails day in day out at work, it can become easy to begin to see these as human interactions. We make them more emotional, even reading them in our own mind in the tone of voice we perceive that person to have written the email.

When you write an email, do you write it with emotion? How do you feel when you write it? When you read it back do you read it in the tone you wrote it?

When you receive an email, do you read it with emotion? Do you read it with your emotion or with the senders emotion?

Here’s the thing. When people write to you, they express their opinions. From their perspective. With their history and experience as their filter.

When you read those emails, you read them from your perspective, with your history and experience as the filter.

Perceptions have the ability to make or break our day.

The trick is to step aside and remind yourself that when people are expressing themselves (their despair, their frustration, their elation) they are doing so from their perspective, in their opinion and in no way is that ever a personal attack or rubbing it in. People are entitled to feel the way they feel.  If you can do this, CAPITALS become just letters. Exclamation Marks !!!! become enthusiasm. And bold type becomes a pointer to say “hey, just letting you know that this is important to me.”